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started potty training today, anyone else?

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ilovetochat · 08/04/2009 14:54

I hope someone else is training too as we can celebrate and commiserate together
since dd got up this morning she has been bare bottomed. i have left the potty out and told her where it is and left her to it mostly.
she has weed on it 4 times, pood on it once and had 1 accident near the potty while eating, she made no attempt to get to the potty and i think she was more bothered about her lunch.
i have done her a tick chart to tick whenever she uses the potty and she loves it, she says tick chart now when she goes.
The only time i intervened was when she hadnt weed for 2hrs 15 mins so i gave her milk and sat her on the potty and she weed.
She is now asleep so ive put her a nappy on and told her its a sleep nappy.
Hopefully some of you will come and join me.
When bare bottomes what do you do when they sit in their highchair etc, i have laid a nappy open in the chair.

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ilovetochat · 16/04/2009 21:35

hw about stripping her off when she gets clingy and giving her a drink to sit on potty with, then if she runs off and starts to wee you can just sit her on quick.

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Foxy800 · 16/04/2009 21:40

The trouble is she gets really upset if you strip her off as she knows she will be going on the potty or toilet!!!
Occasionally you can sit her on it for a second or 2 then get down then she again will get upset cause she has had an accident!!!!

I think this is the hardest part of parenting so far!!!!

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ilovetochat · 16/04/2009 21:56

what has worked mostly for us is leaving her to it as asking her if she needs to go or putting her on cos an hour has passed just stressed her/annoyed her but it is hard if they just keep wetting themselves.

I was told/advised that if they have more than 8 accidents in a day or if the number of accidents doesnt quickly reduce then they are not quite ready and to try again ina few weeks.

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Foxy800 · 17/04/2009 10:48

Thanks you ilovetochat.

Well so far today we have been to Sainsburys and she asked to go for a wee twice but didnt do anything. Then we got home and she got very clingy so took her to the toilet, sat her on it although she was crying cause she didnt really want to but then she did a wee on it and was so happy afterwards so will see how we develop during the rest of the day.

The trouble with lo is I think she is stubborn more than not ready!!!lol

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ilovetochat · 17/04/2009 13:50

its good she did it on the potty though, the success will make her want to try again, hopefully!
Well, dd was doing great today, this morning she went and weed on her potty, carried it to the toilet to be flushed and then wiped herself and wiped the floor as she had spilled some. then just as i was washing the potty she said poo and i had to quickly give it her back and she pood in it. 2 hours later i took her with me to the toilet and she used her potty. Then i was just getting her sleep nappy out ready for naptime and sh said whats this and i looked over to see her weeing and watching her yellow trousers change colour. i said stop, wait for the potty, then quickly put her on potty and she finished her wee there. i find it a bit annoying as i know she can do when she wants and can obvioulsy control it to stop when i say so why is she wetting herself. she was getting tired and started pulling her clean clothes id folded all over the floor so i think the weeting was also part of tiredness/mischievousness.

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Foxy800 · 17/04/2009 15:39

It could well be, I work in a day nursery abd it is very often when the child are tired that they are having more accidents.

Well not going to jinx it but so far today we have had 2 wees on the toilet and 2 poos on the toilet etc.

She isnt telling us she needs to go but I just keeping an eye out for when she is getting clingy and just taking her.
SOmetimes she says she needs to go but doesnt but Im sure that will come.

Foxy800 · 17/04/2009 19:28

Well the end of a very good day. We have had 3 wees on the toilet and 2 poos and NO accidents.

Just hope it wasnt a one off although I know we still have quite a way to go.

Foxy800 · 17/04/2009 19:46

So how is everyone else's lo's getting on?

hazeyjane · 17/04/2009 19:53

Hello

Glad that things are improving with your dd Foxy.

We are doing really well here. Dd1 doesn't seem to need to be reminded at the moment, if we go out, I ask her every so often, and if we go somewhere like soft play i take her to where she can have a wee (either the toilet or her potette which i set up in a discreet corner!) and make sure she knows where it is. I'm so glad she seems relaxed about it, because she is a really sensitive little thing, which is why we've not made too big a deal about it before.

Has anyone looked at any books? Because most of them freaked me out a bit, but we read 'The No Cry Potty Solution' by Elizabeth Pantley, and it was great, with a very relaxed approach to how to deal with any problems.

HalfMumHalfBiscuit · 17/04/2009 20:01

Hi all, less stressful day for me as I was at work. DS was at the nursery today. The report is that he wet himself about 3 or 4 times but will sit happily on the toilet and likes copying the older boys who use the loo.

He hasn't done a wee / poo on the loo at home yet so this didn't surprise me.

However, I just took him upstairs as we got him ready for bed and asked if he wanted to sit on the loo, he said yes and then did a little wee on there. He was very pleased and the joy of flushing the loo was a great reward.

So, I was thinking of planning a Potty Training Bootcamp weekend for this weekend. Who's in?

We are staying at home (except for a few walks), giving him lots of one to one attention and plenty of trips to the potty or loo.

Any recommendations to add to the bootcamp plan let us know!

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ilovetochat · 17/04/2009 20:28

today is day 10 for us and dd did 3 poos and 5 wees on the potty and 1 accident. its funny she has has 3 accidents in the last 2 days so she seems to be getting worse not better.
foxy - sounds like progress
HMHB - monitor the fluid intake, dd normally goes about 2 1/2 - 3 hours between wees but if she has a big drink i offer the potty an hour later and she normally needs to wee. Also first thing as soon as she wakes up i put her on the potty and she wees, if i wait a few minutes she wees in her night nappy. i feel like ive been in the bootcamp all wekk but i will join in anyway.

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Foxy800 · 17/04/2009 20:47

Sounds like everyone's lo's are making progress.

Good luck for the weekend everyone.

MickeyD · 17/04/2009 21:40

Sounds like everyone is doing ok. DS has had two days with no accidents and he seems to have learnt how to wee on demand.He still doesn't ask to go on the potty but will wee when he is put on it. I'm quite happy with this but should I be more forceful about him asking? I guess he will start to ask eventually but should I try and hurry it up?

Foxy800 · 17/04/2009 21:55

Sorry not sure on that one mickeyd as lo isnt really asking either, hopefully it is something that will come.

Lo still doenst like doing anything on the toilet so we are getting slightly firm with her as in when she gets lingy and whingy we take her off to the toilet and sit her on it, she often crys but I have been saying to her stop crying and we will count to 10 then you can get down. If she needs to do something she has done it by 10, today anyway as only tried it today.
She is very proud at the end and wants to wipe her bum, flush the chain, and wash her hands etc.

Wees tend to go everywhere, as she doesnt seem to have worked out where is the best place to sit!!LOL
But at least she is doing them on the toilet.
If she does ask to go then we still take her as well.

Dont know if this is the best way to go, dont like seeing her crying on the toilet but it worked today so hopeing it will improve the more she does it on the toilet.

alicesma · 17/04/2009 22:36

Hi everyone

I was lurking last week and then we went on holiday on Monday and got back today so have been looking with interest to see how you've been getting on.

We started training our DS last Monday (so today is day 12). He is 2.9 years old. He doesn't seem to be making much progress. When we started he was able to wee on demand - in the potty and has now progressed to the loo. He can still do this but will never go of his own accord. He holds it for 2-3 hours and was dry both ways on our 3 hour journeys for our holiday (with a wee stop in the middle). He was even dry when he fell asleep for 2 hours in the car. We had a few days without accidents but that was only because we were out a lot and we took him to the loo. If we leave him he wets himself. We also had a withholding poo issue, but he is going about every two days now. He managed a poo in the potty without being asked yesterday, but then did another in his pants (a bit distressed about it). He did another poo accident in his pants today.

He just doesn't seem to be able to work out when a wee/poo is coming or else he just isn't bothered! I'm sure my DD was quicker to train than this!

I'll join in the boot camp but for us it's going to involve letting him have lots of accidents to try and get him to realise when he needs to go. He goes back to pre-school on Tuesday morning (he does 3 mornings a week) so I'm hoping they'll have some ideas if this weekend doesn't work!

Good luck to you all!

MarmadukeScarlet · 17/04/2009 23:00

hi all, we started monday afternoon but, like alicesma, seem to be going for the lots of accidents to let him get the idea - sadly it doesn't seem to bother him that he is wet.

Today we have had one wee and poo, seven wees on the potty (I'm really loading him up with OJ and Ribena) but also 7 accidents - which is 2 more than yesterday!

I am amazed at the ones only doing a few wees a day, I think DS must be a horse on the quiet. He is much older than all your DC, but he has severe SN so this may not be physically possible for him - due to neurologial issues/muscle tone etc.

I was really looking for advice as to what is the 'norm' dd was so simple (and ages ago) so I don't really know what to expect.

He was in the same pants and trousers for 4 hours this morning, but then ... disaster!

He is not really motivated by stickers or food, when he does his first wee and poo of the day he gets something from the 'grab bag' (bag of goodies for rewards charts) but there are only so many matchbox cars a woman can buy. He has a potty sticker chart so when he does a wee he gets a sticker, but by the third one he wasn't interested (10 gets a dip in the grab bag.)

DD has to do a reading at a St Georges day service/parade on Sunday, he will love the bands but the thought of sitting in chruch with him being so unreliable is worrying - but to use his carer on a Sunday will cost £30. Should I put him in a pull up as a one off whilst in church?

alicesma · 18/04/2009 08:52

Morning!

So Day 1 of boot camp. Just had a talk with DS about going to the loo by himself if he needs a wee. We took him and reminded him what to do and gave him a sweet afterwards (as he did a wee). He's having some apple juice now so we'll see what happens!

MickeyD - I think we are in the same position! I'm sure my DD was asking to go by this point in her training but it's hard to remember. She was a couple of months younger when we started with her - maybe it's a girl thing.

MarmadukeScarlet - I don't know what is the norm for boys. As I said, my DD seemed fairly simple in comparison although it seemed to take forever at the time. DS has got bored of stickers so I've gone for the sweet reward route - hoping he gets the hang of it before his teeth fall out
As for the church, I think common wisdom is not to go back to nappies at all, but if it puts your mind at rest then maybe go for it? We had a couple of long car journeys last week and I got some training pants just for the journeys. However the first time I put them on him he said, "That's a nice nappy!" LOL I had to say no it's not a nappy it's pants etc, and in fact he didn't wee in them until we got home. I don't know if they do training pants in your DS's size as I don't know how old he is but it might be worth it? Sorry can't be more help!

hoppybird · 18/04/2009 10:13

Well, over the past few days, we've had a lone poo in the potty (went entire by herself, was very proud afterwards) but the rest have been a case of "Mummy! Oops!" TBH, poos don't worry my as much as the wees - now that's been really annoying. She can sit on the potty for ages several times a day with no results and can hold on for HOURS! (6 on one of the days). Eventually though, she runs around, desperately bursting to go, but screams and holds it in longer if I put her on the pot and won't go on it herself, until she has an accident . She isn't in pain, but I do worry that she'll give herself an infection. A few times this week, I've seen she's been desperate, and had to put her in a bath of warm water to make her relax enough to "go".

This morning, dd had a dry nappy when she woke up (has done most days this week), and I waited until after breakfast before we tried on the potty, as I have noticed it is completely pointless beforehand. I've been reading her a story lately, called 'Something's Coming' (over and over again), and when I saw her starting to run around, I said "something's coming!" and I got her to run around the potty, which she liked, and I managed to get her on the pot (and stay there)in time! She was so proud of herself!

It's a case of getting her used to wee happening in mid air, rather than on cloth. I kind of think it's so much more fun for boys, as they can see it more readily

Foxy - you sound like your dd is making real progress - actually get something into the toilet is great!

Alicesma - I think your ds is doing really well if he's holding on for a few hours at a time.

MarmadukeScarlet - I'd second training pants, ie washable ones (terry inside, plasticy outside, legs tight enough to keep in an accident) - they seem so much more like pants and less like a nappy than a pull-up, and obviously you can wash and re-use. You can get them in bigger Boots. (the ones from Mothercare are too big on the legs, well, for my dd). Of course, they do cost a bit. Or you could put a nappy wrap on top of ordinary pants (if you have one).

hoppybird · 18/04/2009 10:14

oops. Sorry about the essay.

alicesma · 18/04/2009 11:54

hoppybird - Are you rewarding her with stickers or sweets when she gets something in the potty? How old is she? Is she old enough to understand bribes?!

Getting fed up here already. We had one near miss when he went to the loo (after DH had mentioned the loo but not told him to go) - he started weeing before his pants were off but was next to the loo. Then he was watching a Thomas video and just weed on the chair. DH said that DS said he was watching Thomas so didn't want to go GRRRRRR I think he's just not bothered.

Thinking of giving up and going back to nappies. Maybe that would concentrate his mind a bit more if he's not getting any treats for wees/poos!

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ilovetochat · 18/04/2009 14:00

dd doing good again today, 1 poo and 3 wees in potty (1 at the park) and no accidents so far fingers crossed. she is asleep now, she fell asleep in the car in pants but i put a pullup on her in the cot.

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alicesma · 18/04/2009 14:22

ilovetochat - Good news! Are you telling her when to go or is she doing it all herself?

DS decided to do a wee on the potty of his own accord so we were really pleased. Then he had an accident as he was climbing the slide. Three steps forward, two steps back ...

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ilovetochat · 18/04/2009 15:39

i leave her to it and she tells me when she wants to go or if she is naked she goes by herself. She is 21 months and cant undress herself yet but is getting a bit batter with just pants.
If she hasnt weed for over 2 hours i offer the potty and then nearer 3 hours i sit her on it and she wees, but mostly she tells me.

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alicesma · 18/04/2009 15:54

That's brilliant - she's doing really well - especially so young

We've just had the first completely independent wee on the potty. Went and got the potty, took pants off and bingo!

I expect the next one will be an accident though!

MarmadukeScarlet · 18/04/2009 16:53

Thanks all, I do have nappy wraps but DS will associate that with wearing nappies. At the local mothercare they didn't have lge size training pants - will have to go into a bigger one tomorrow before church parade in pm.

He was dry for trip - drive to local town (6 miles), rehearsal (short) in church, visit to Mothercare, snak and drink and a smallish shop in Waitrose, in car to drive to the cake decorating shop and the drive home again - but have had a few accidents since.

A several wees and a poo on target though.

He has also been able to pull his pants up a few times but keeps getting his willy either out the leg or out the top - which he thinks is hilarious

Have got some feel and learn pull ups, apparently they feel the wet? Just in case I can't get anything else for church, he won't think they are nappies as he has never seen a pull up and they have spiderman on so he'll think they are pants.

Well done to alicesma's LO and all the other LO's who are working hard at being dry.

Saw one of his TA's in W'rose who had been informed (by his SENCO) that DS will be in pants on Mon, she was very excited and fully prepared to mop up puddles! I love my DS' pre-school!