Was anyone NOT hit when they were growing up?

[bohemianbint]

Following on from my other thread, have been talking to DH who was leathered when he was growing up, as was I. We were talking about whether this happened to everyone - I have a few friends who I don't think were hit, but I can't be sure.

So, was it most people's experience because it was accepted that that's how you did it?

(I recently told my father that we would not be hitting our children and he said, "but how will they learn?" )

Not with a belt or anything like that (god forbid) but I had the odd smack. It was humiliating rather than painful.

And when I say 'odd' I can remember 2 or 3 occasions.

(oops, perhaps should say, when I say leathered, I don't mean quite literally, but more like dragged round the house, battered, whacked in public, that kind of thing.)

Me. Actually.

How awful bohemian. No, never, in my case.

My mother smacked me once, and apologised afterwards (even though i had been VERY naughty) My father was much more quick tempered, and did smack us although i don't recall it much- we learned quickly to whatever would please him avoid risking being smacked. Sometimes he threatened us with a slipper, but i can't recall him ever using it.

No never
it just isn't a way to discipline effectively

Like Orm - smacked on the legs with an open hand, never with any object (school did that ). It wasn't very often and I would say not after I was maybe 7 or so.

Corporal punishment was an accepted part of parenting in those days (the 60s) and I imagine that in many families it went way past the odd slap. After all, if society allowed schools to openly hit you with a slipper, ruler, cane etc what went on behind closed doors was probably much worse.

my mother only smacked me twice that i can remember.

once i walked home from school by myself aged about 6 my dad had not long died, she was frantic with worry as she went to pick me up and i wasn't there.

the second time - i ran across the road and a car very nearly hit me.

she busted my nose when i was 14, backhanded face slap.

i can't remember why - but she was proper losing the plot mentally in my teenage years.

i lived with my nan for 3 months after that.

i was hit very infrequently as i was absolutely adored as the only child who witnessed her fathers death -so spoiled a lot.

sorry, as an only child - not 'the'

I had the occasional smack but that was all. It hasn't affected me at all.

Oh yes and always by my mum, never my dad.

I'm like a pp, I only remember about 2 occassions. And I know I had PUSHED my father to breaking point. I knew I was being AWFUL. I don't know why but I couldn't stop it. So, this may go against the grain but on the one or two occassions my Dad hit me, my memory (after 20 yrs of dust settling) was that he kept his patience with me for quite a while before hitting me.

my dad never hit me but my mum was a different story

she would leather, me and my siblings and she worked for social services

Never. Not once, by either of my parents. My mum needed only to give me 'the look' and I knew I was being naughty and to stop.

don't remember being hit or my siblings being hit but it is possible I was smacked as a small child. I do remember being frightened of my father when he was angry because he would shout, slam doors and threaten violence.

I thbink I was hit once by my mum when I went to touch the oven - she just slapped my hand away as a reaction. Never apart from that.

never

I was smacked a fair bit. I didn't effect me as an adult at all though. My mother is my best friend and I adore my father as he does me. I don't smack my children as I remember vividly that smacks didn't work with either myself or my brother, we often repeated the behaviour again and it just causes unesscary (sp?) upset at the time. It effected my mum more than us.

In primary school I remember being sent to the headmasters office to be smacked on the hand with a wooden ruler for giggling in asembaly. For worse things he would smack on the bare legs with it. I still loved school though.

I can't remember ever being hit or smacked. My mother says she tapped my legs when I was a toddler, but I don't recall it. I tend to be very shocked if I see anyone hitting someone else. I think it much better to never have suffered physical violence because it is so alien I wouldn't put up with it-a partner would only get the chance to hit me once-I wouldn't stay for a second chance!

no smacks and don't remember being told off which is a bit slack surely

Occasional smacks when one or other parent reached end of tether. They obviously felt it was out of order though, especially my mum.