I cannot encourage my dd1 to do her 10 mins reading or practice her times tables with me so I have decided to stop asking her to do it

[PoorOldEnid]

as I am absolutely sick of badgering her to read (the school asks that they read aloud for 10 mins every day). She hates it. And she fusses every time I remind her to practice her times tables. She is almost 9, in year 4

so I have given up and told her that I have given up, I have said if she wants me to listen or help I will, but from now on I am not going to remind her.

Is that sensible or crap and defeatist?

what about poetry?

that's short

What investigations have school done re. dyslexia? Why do they say definitely not? They may well be right, how the hell do I know, but I'd want to find out whether they really do have the evidence they need to exclude it.

Getting her her own library ticket so she can choose what she reads - and it's special time for her, perhaps - is worth a try, though.

Seeker, disagree with your approach. Might work in some circumstances but this is a little girl who is beginning to hate reading and my approach would be to find a way that she can enjoy books. Not make them a form of punishment.

should I insist she reads a whole book? thast what her peers do - read a whole fiction book over a few weeks bit by bit

she refuses to do this so we get bits of horrid henry, bits of pony camp diaries and then she moans that she has no books to read

maybe i will do more getting tough and sit down with her teachers AND her to sort this out

see? Anna is onto this

get packing her case Enid

February didn't she say

I got less stressed about ds's lack of reaidng when I realised that he could read if he wanted to - and he will now look up books about cars etc to find out what he wants to know. We also got som e pet rats recently and I asked him to rea dup ontheir care - which he did.
Would that work with your dd - a book about pony care or something?

Oh I'm sticking up for Enid's dd now.

She doesn't enjoy reading, she finds it hard, it makes her mother tense and her eyes hurt - forget about it for a bit.

I would.

Take the pressure OFF, don't put more on.

Tell the school it's a problem at the minute, and you're going to give her a break.

You want to avoid all that high risk stuff where they don't try because they are going to fail.

Let her read the stuff she likes, without knowing it's a test with remarks and ticks in her reading record.

we have this with ds1(7),he just wont do his reading!he doesnt mind other homework-although thats only just started so probably new and bit exciting.i dont worry to much about the time,if we only get a couple of sentences done thats enough,better than nothing.
we try to read soon as in from school so once dd and ds1 have read they can-go outside,put tv on,play upstairs etc.

she has a library card

she gets out loads of books - last time it was the nonsense poems of edward lear, ottoline goes to school and another poetry book (she likes poems). She liked the covers. They then sat by her bed and she refused to look at them again.

Enid if she is anything like my dd the reading is hard and she forgets the story

my dd's memory is crap so she doesn't want to go back to where she was because she has forgotten the rest of it

if you are struggling to read it's hard to keep the nuances of the story in your head

she can remember Harry Potter v well when dh reads, which is above her age, but get a Rainbow Fairy book and she has forgotten what was on the previous page by the time she turns it

can I say comics again?

have a look here May not sound like dd, but at least it would be one thing you don't have to worry about.

She doesn't need her eyes tested does she? It's just that when you said "she says she is too tired and has a headache" it rang a warning bell for me.

[takes handful of Enid's dd's haribo sweets]

I think it's quite liberating to take the stress off for a bit. Let her find her own way back in.

factual books are not just for boys

dd1 has one just now on kittens

go and look in the library

ds1 teacher did say if he wont do it dont make him as will become a battle ground and he'll learn to hate reading.

Bramshott has a point

dd couldn't read at all till we got her some specs, even tho the opticians at the hospital told us she didn't need them and gave her them just to shut us up

I have tried the HTT thing that Cod recommends....

I say

'DS1, would you like to do homework before dinner or after dinner?'

'Not doin' it.'

Smiling sweetly, 'DS1 if you do homework before dinner you will get to watch Extreme Dinosaurs. If you do it after dinner you will miss Extreme Dinosaurs. Homework b4 or after dinner?' Still smiling sweetly.

'Oh, OK, I will do it now Mummy.'

Ta-daaaa!!

hundredbiros I think you are right (are you 100x?)

capp that sounds exactly like dd1

Agree with cheesesarnie's ds1's teacher [convoluted agreement]

Oh, bless her, poor little sausage. If reading is making her, and you, that miserable, I think I'd go back to your first plan and just knock it on the head for a while. Something is going very wrong and maybe a break will help you work out what it is. Or just give her a fresh start when she goes back to it.

I had her eyes tested

the optician said she was borderline and to come back in a year

dd1 screamed in the car on the way home that she would refuse to wear glasses and would break them if she got any

Ooh, glasses, why didn't I think of that?! [speccy four eyed emoticon]

damn, cross post!

I would take the pressure off completely too - no forced reading whatsoever, but loads of cunningly planted things that she could read - nonfiction, recipes, tv programme descriptions, shopping lists, anything I could think of. I'd get 10+ books from the library every week and just see that they're lying around at times when she's bored, and just never, ever say "now you must read".

Has to be worth a try anyway!