I cannot encourage my dd1 to do her 10 mins reading or practice her times tables with me so I have decided to stop asking her to do it

[PoorOldEnid]

as I am absolutely sick of badgering her to read (the school asks that they read aloud for 10 mins every day). She hates it. And she fusses every time I remind her to practice her times tables. She is almost 9, in year 4

so I have given up and told her that I have given up, I have said if she wants me to listen or help I will, but from now on I am not going to remind her.

Is that sensible or crap and defeatist?

welli would include writing
you need to read while you write, after all

teach ehr to type
little girls LOVE typing

this looks good

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dh calls the argos catalogue the Book of Dreams

Seriously, enid - what happens if you get tough? It's only 10 minutes, after all!

why are you worried she isnt reading story books enid? i agree some fo them are total shit

I've told you about MamaG's factual books haven't I? the Why does ones?

all factual book sare aimed squarely at boys

I hate terry deary and the emphasis on yuckness

Or bribe her with something really worthwhile like a trip to Paris for Feb half-term if she does reading and tables every night.

seeker I have 'got tough' every night for the past 5 years and am sick of it

Oh, leaving her to it re. homework has got to be worth a try. Might just work as it did for Haggis.

But the reference books stuff is interesting, can you just concentrate on them and leave fiction alone for a while? (Obviously tell her teacher.)

Does she have a library ticket? Maybe you could make an event out of going to the library every week where she gets to choose the books she wants, rather than school books or stories.

Also, this is kind of obvious, but you have thought about dyslexia, haven't you? My little sister hated books, none of us could understand it as we are a very bookish family. Until my mother heard about dyslexia (was almost uknown in those days) and had her tested. Bingo.

ok will discuss a treat if she reads five times a week for a month

will do timetable with her

will pour self large glass of wine pre reading time

that's it

send her to Anna in Paris for a week

let her sort it out

It works.

My DSS1 didn't do any work at the beginning of secondary school and got a very average report (not good enough for a very bright child). Bribery plus lots of encouragement and two years later he is a star performer at school.

Tough like nothing happens until the work is done?

yes library a great idea

also they sometimes have schemes you can join in

like a reading group or summat

or at least they can just wander round while you look at the Agatha Christies

how is she on insects?

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edam I have thought about dyslexia on many many occasions

school says she is deffo not

she can read (not good at sounding out phonetically) and she remembers her spelling list well every week

she jsut hates doing it at home

they must have brought out more stuff like the Daring Book for Girls

it did so well

someone must have bandwagon-jumped

ok I guess she could read bits of it

she will NOT read a 'long book' - by that I mean a roald dahl

she wants short easy books with pictures

but even then I bought her a whole load of Sprinters (short easy books with pics) and she has only read 10 or so and refuses to read any more

she is lazy

Don't agree Malory.

The whole point about reading every night is that learning to read interesting things is the real reward. If you give children a long-term bribe, and daily encouragement, by the time they actually get to the reward of the bribe they have also improved on the skill they were really aiming at and are reaping the real rewards (and hence carry on).

Short term bribes and getting tough are not good policies for girls.