I cannot encourage my dd1 to do her 10 mins reading or practice her times tables with me so I have decided to stop asking her to do it

[PoorOldEnid]

as I am absolutely sick of badgering her to read (the school asks that they read aloud for 10 mins every day). She hates it. And she fusses every time I remind her to practice her times tables. She is almost 9, in year 4

so I have given up and told her that I have given up, I have said if she wants me to listen or help I will, but from now on I am not going to remind her.

Is that sensible or crap and defeatist?

sorry reread earlier post it does sound as if we read first

not the case

Enid - I did that to my ds and he now does his homework with no problem.
I was a bit stronger though - I said "Right - that's it, it's your hoemwork, not mine. It's up to you if you get it done or not - I'll help if you want it but will not remind you to do it."
He hates me doing that so much he now does his homework!
(he's 8.5 - in P5 so about the same stage as your dd)

so do you say no story if you dont read first?

malory sweets might work

someone on here suggested comics once instead of books

they are more insidious

however they are All Vile

yes Enid yes

no story

sometimes it is hard because I want to know what is going to happen with the Cybermen

but we must put our children first

Would she do a times tables program on the computer? Mine all love anything on the computer, so doing their times tables on there doesn't seem like a chore IYKWIM.

And what about her reading her book whilst listening to the same book being read on a CD? Stuff the school reading scheme, find something she likes (maybe something like Roald Dahl?) and get the CDs out of the library. OK, she's not reading it to you, but it may break this viscious circle and she can always pause the CD to ask you about any words she doesn't know.

But no, I don't think you can give up totally, sorry.

You have my full sympathy btw.

dont read from books
read off the internet, does she have a favourite website?
read shopping lists
does she prefer writing? IMO that would count. read out lists and get her to write it down
leave notes around the house

my dd1 (lamost 6) gets bored with reading books she prefers factual books about violins and cats and kittens etc etc

haggis thats what I am trying

malory no she is not interested in reading although loves books iyswim

she will spend tiem poring over wheres wally and the glorious book for girls and other factual books but has never so far read a story book off her own bat

Everybody on here is so nice! For a 9 year old I would say "OK - nothing else happens until this 10 minutes work is done." And I would be a broken record, quite calmly (I hope) saying that until it happened.

But I am horrible.

"she will spend tiem poring over wheres wally and the glorious book for girls and other factual books"

I'd be buying non-fiction in that case

waht about money?

lol at cybermen

naily she does love writing

I think will sit down tomorrow night (not tonight she has tag rugby and so will be more tired and scratchy than usual ) and come up with Plan/Bribe.

actually she loves a timetable. Maybe I could plan week for her, she would like that.

I felt terrible over the summer as she came up with a timetable for the week - everyday doing some schoolw orky thing and I didn't do any of it

but it was the holidays ffs

My ds has never read a story book for himself, either. I even ried bribing him £5 if he would read awhole book. Didn't work.
When asked last term to write what his favourite book was, he put "The ARgos Catalogue". He has a bedroom full of books and gets read to. He sees me reading. But will not read himself. However he has started using books to find things out - so maybe one day he will actually read one from cover to cover.

hang on I would sound a note of caution with the bribery

if she likes factual books then get factual books and leave her to it, no bribes

because if she's a clever kid she's just going to crank it up so you end up buying her a car

can you stick with factual books for now? Encyclopaedia type things? Some story books for girls are v v v v dull after all.

magazines and factual books sound like a good idea

i think the school should help more too

malory that would work

but I guess I'd have to do the same for poor old dd2 (who loves to read and is girly swot)

Can you get her a fun, young homework tutor - a local A-level student or something who will come to your house for half an hour every evening and enthuse your DD because she is a glamourous teenager about to embark on the world rather than a nagging old mum.

rofl at The Argos Catalogue

if he spelt Catalogue right then you have nothing to fear