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Woman has just punched my son

152 replies

Hollowhead · 28/08/2008 18:03

My son came in with tears in his eyes a few minutes ago and a red mark on his face. Turns out he had a run in with a neighbours son (same age, 10) and threatened to punch him next time he saw him going to shop on his own the kid then went running in to his mum and told her what DS had said and she came out giving DS loads and saying he was the kind of kid that would end up in prison by the time he was 18 and she also said he and his friends were the reason another neighbour moved recently.

DS then retaliated and called her a fat ugly cow and said he was going to set their cat on fire she told him she was coming around to tell me what he'd said and would be reporting him to the police and ds said "go on then, I'll put your fucking windows through" so she said to him "come here and shout your mouth off, you think you're so big and clever" and so DS did and she grabbed hold of him and smacked him across the face (he said she punched him, she admits she slapped him, not punched). DS then tried to kick her and her husband came out and starting saying to his wife "keep him there, I'll knock his cocky fucking head off" and she then pushed DS over full force so he actually fell into the road and told him to "fuck off".

Obviously I went around to see what the hell has been happening and she said she pushed him away because if her husband had got a hold of him he would've killed him!

I KNOW ds is not innocent in this but to actually punch someone elses kid? Would I be over-reacting to report this to the police?

OP posts:
Tutter · 29/08/2008 08:27

jokes about "twatting" kids not funny in my world lilymolly

that's all

not flaming, just wrinkling my nose in distaste

lilymolly · 29/08/2008 08:31

oh for goodness sakes chill out, taking it way too seriously

It is not a word or a comment I would use under normal circumstances, but just a comment in response to the ridiculous OP.

And their was a thread last week about that particular word and people down south were saying how it was not offensive at all- whereas in the north east it is offensive and that it is used as a word for hitting.

You must be so perfect

Tutter · 29/08/2008 08:31
NotDoingTheHousework · 29/08/2008 08:36

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MascaraOHara · 29/08/2008 08:44

you and your family sound foul.. I am judging you and I don't care.

Shame the other womans husband didn't get hold of your son.. might have tought him a lesson.

Have you ever thought about going on wife swap?

AbbeyA · 29/08/2008 08:46

I still think that it has to be a troll.
If not forget the incident and enrol yourself in parenting classes-as a matter of urgency.

BouncingTurtle · 29/08/2008 08:49

i don't believe this is a troll - the reason there are some kids are going off the rail like this young chap is because of indifferent parenting by the likes of Hollowhead and her oh so charming DH

I think Hecate summed it up nicely.

foxytocin · 29/08/2008 08:54

for Hecate.

AbbeyA · 29/08/2008 08:56

I know that some kids are going off the rails and it is the sort of incident that might happen but I can't think that anyone would show their own DS in such a bad light by writing it down word for word on here. Also the OP wasn't actually there to witness it and I very much doubt that her DS would have given her such a coherent account and that she would remember it word for word if he had. It is a troll-perhaps she should go in for fiction writing!

tiredemma · 29/08/2008 08:58

Looking at some other posts by Hollowhead, she does tend to talk a lot of shit.

JT · 29/08/2008 08:58

I think the best course of action to resolve this situation would be for you to bake some fairy cakes and perhaps a date and walnut cake, get out your very best china and gingham table cloth and invite the neighbours round for afternoon tea - kids included. Suggest a game of snakes and ladders or ludo, do it teams - mix the families up. Get talking and you'll be friends in no time

scottishmummy · 29/08/2008 09:04

or buy a priddy dress some lipstick,look nice when the police come visit about your errant ds

tigermoth · 29/08/2008 09:05

As a first step, I'd keep your son away from these neighbours. Keep yourselves away from them too. Then your sont upset them and they can't upset him - or you. Lie low, in other words.

Think how you can do this. It must be possible for you to keep your son inside at home. Can you take him out to a park? Does he have any friends or relatives who don't live nearby whom he can visit? Is there an adventure playground he can go to - a place staffed by playworkers? It could be a godsend if so. We have several in our bit of London and children from the age of 8 can be left there to play on the equipment, under supervision. They are free entry and are open all day in the school hols and after school and weekends in the school term.

GColdtimer · 29/08/2008 09:08

hollowhead, can you see in any way that you are ultimately responsible for your son's behaviour?

tigermoth · 29/08/2008 09:10

If the op's ds actually told her what he said to the neighbouring woman, then at least he is being honest.

If not, I wonder how hollowhead found out who said what to whom and when - she sounds fairly clear about what happened.

AbbeyA · 29/08/2008 09:13

I haven't seen hollowheads other posts and she doesn't have a profile. I think she is having a bit of fun with this thread!
No one can give such an accurate account of an incident that they didn't see. If she can then she would make an ideal police witness as she must have excellent shorthand or a photographic memory!

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 29/08/2008 09:13

I think your son deserved a slap round the face. Its time he learnt he can't talk to people like he has done without there been consequences. If I were you I'd give him another slap and ground him for a few weeks. He needs punishing! If you let him think its acceptable to behave like he has done and that you will back him up/get others into trouble for standing up to him then your neighbour is probably right and he could well be in prison by the time he's 18. He sounds a real delight.

donnie · 29/08/2008 13:42

I wonder if Hollowhead's DH ripped the neighbour's head off like she said he would.

I notice she hasn't been back to this thread - very telling!

NigellaTheOriginal · 29/08/2008 13:46

good lord - and i thought i had problems with DD2.
at least DD2 keeps her shocking behaviour just for me and doesn't inflict it on others. perhaps if she did say something like that to someone else - then have her face slapped by someone else that would sort out her 'challenging behaviour'.

Janni · 30/08/2008 08:55

I think heaping verbal abuse on the OP, (whilst it might make us feel better to vent about out of control kids), is a pretty sad way to go on a thread like this. If she is living in a neighbourhood where this behaviour is normal and if she and her DH are as clueless about good parenting as they sound, then a thread like this is a great opportunity to give some good, solid, practical advice and help rather than feed into her belief that she's rubbish, everyone and everything is crap and there's nothing she can do about it. Who cares if it's a troll? There will be loads of other mums lurking who would never dare post on here but who could get some good advice by reading
intelligent responses to posts about the most wayward kids around.

lilolilmanchester · 30/08/2008 09:20

I agree Janni but the OP does need a reality check. I like Quattrocento's post (cut and pasted below so OP reads it again hopefully)...

"kids always threaten to put windows through" Here's a reality check for you - No they don't.

"He has been in trouble at school but so are his friends quite a lot." That's bad news, what are you doing about it?

"I cant keep him in" He is 10 years old, of course you can.

"It will all kick off and we'll be the ones looking like a rough family again." Well that's how it comes across.

Can you do any or all of the following:

(i) Move
(ii) Counselling for your DS's emotional problems
(iii) Learning support at school
(iv) Support at home to enforce manners and discipline

Janni · 30/08/2008 11:31

This is her reality. Nothing like most of ours. She won't come back though unless she's a masochist, because most of the thread is abusive towards her and she'll just think we're a stuck up bunch of cows.

suzywong · 30/08/2008 11:41

What TheProvincialLady said

KerryMum · 30/08/2008 11:47

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suzywong · 30/08/2008 11:50

I have no Perfect Peters

I have some Pretty Well Behaved Peregrines. Does that count?