Woman has just punched my son

[Hollowhead]

My son came in with tears in his eyes a few minutes ago and a red mark on his face. Turns out he had a run in with a neighbours son (same age, 10) and threatened to punch him next time he saw him going to shop on his own the kid then went running in to his mum and told her what DS had said and she came out giving DS loads and saying he was the kind of kid that would end up in prison by the time he was 18 and she also said he and his friends were the reason another neighbour moved recently.

DS then retaliated and called her a fat ugly cow and said he was going to set their cat on fire she told him she was coming around to tell me what he'd said and would be reporting him to the police and ds said "go on then, I'll put your fucking windows through" so she said to him "come here and shout your mouth off, you think you're so big and clever" and so DS did and she grabbed hold of him and smacked him across the face (he said she punched him, she admits she slapped him, not punched). DS then tried to kick her and her husband came out and starting saying to his wife "keep him there, I'll knock his cocky fucking head off" and she then pushed DS over full force so he actually fell into the road and told him to "fuck off".

Obviously I went around to see what the hell has been happening and she said she pushed him away because if her husband had got a hold of him he would've killed him!

I KNOW ds is not innocent in this but to actually punch someone elses kid? Would I be over-reacting to report this to the police?

maybe go for a nice long walk in the country tomorrow

Bloody hell

I'm very glad I don't live where you do
Is it surprising that kids act like this if adults are ripping each others' heads off?

Not a very good eg

Maybe your dh could just go round and take your ds, make him apologise to their child and them for what he said and ask them to apologise in turn for hitting him (while acknowledging that what he did was entirely wrong)

That would surely be preferable to ripping heads off etc

your neighbours have taken a dislike to him because he swears at adults and threatens their property.

This is your problem - stop making it someone elses

oh and your dh is modelling this disgusting behaviour - "ripping neighbours head off"

I really hope this is a troll

if your ds is speaking like that you are the rough family. jesus i thought my family were rough but if i had spoken to some one like that at ten years old i would expect a slap around the face if i had dared complain about it to my parnets they wouldve slapped me too!!!

fwiw i come from a rough area and a rough family and i never threatened to put anyones windows through or set fire to their cat!

if this is for real which i serioulsly doubt then you need to sort your ds out not the neighbours.

I must admit it is following the classic troll pattern.. the husband now ripping heads off ..

'DH will rip her husbands head off when he comes home' hhmmmm, wonder where your son gets it from?

Frankly your sons behaviour is appalling.

Oh now you see you are over egging the pudding. It's not very realistic any more.

Shouldn't you just go back to doing what normal, healthy teenage boys do of an evening? Or have you already made yourself sore?

"it's just what they do"

eerr- no it isn't, in the main. The fact that you state "DH will rip her husband's head off when he comes home" tells me everything I need to know about how your son ended up being like he is.

" rough family" - well you get that one right anyway.

where's the bridge?

"kids always threaten to put windows through" Here's a reality check for you - No they don't.

"He has been in trouble at school but so are his friends quite a lot." That's bad news, what are you doing about it?

"I cant keep him in" He is 10 years old, of course you can.

"It will all kick off and we'll be the ones looking like a rough family again." Well that's how it comes across.

Can you do any or all of the following:

(i) Move
(ii) Counselling for your DS's emotional problems
(iii) Learning support at school
(iv) Support at home to enforce manners and discipline

Oh dear.

Your boy sounds emotionally disturbed to be honest and you sound (if I may be frank) a little too laid back about "what kids do" in your area. I have a lot of close, first hand experience of rough council estates but I would never ever accept this type of behaviour as any kind of "norm" from my children. I really think you should be looking to move as one of the ways of addressing the issues your son has.

I really hope your husband doesn't "rip anyones head off" when he gets home or een threaten to. This obviously is the rough behaviour you don't want to be associated with; that's why people may think these things about your family - but you don't HAVE to behave like this. I'm not trying to cause offence I promise. The woman was wrong and out of order but clearly angry and knew of no better way of dealing with her anger at being verbally abused by a child. And yes, parents do - and should - get involved when their child is threatened by another. I certainly would!

Just because you live amongst other families for whom violence, publically bad language and generally anti-social behaviour is the order of the day, does not mean you have to accept it as "ok" or "normal" - you can rise above it. I hope its not too late.

If this is real, then I think your son sounds disgusting and if I was your neighbour I would have slapped him round the face too.

And if this is a hoax, why does nobody do any nice, inoffesnive funny ones anymore?

I may have to come out of retirement!

Troll I think.
No mum would be that chilled out about her 10yrold if he behaved like that - would she? If he was my son I would be hysterical with worry about him, very angry with him, and very sad.

This sounds like car crash reality TV. It's someone on a wind-up surely?

you sound like the Krays.go play your banjo on the porch and wait til DH come home for a spot spot of unprovoked violence

then you can post agin
when junior gets his ASBO
and you get your prison visitors card

nice

what do you mean you cannot keep him in?

he is 10 years old
you are the parent

He has behaved badly so you get a grip ffs!

good lord

such violence from all parties

fgs act like the adults you are

your child is copying the behaviour he sees

abysmal behaviour on all fronts

quite shocking

THis has to be a wind up?

If not then I think all of the players in this nastly little drama should be ashamed of their poor behavior and should all take themselves off to the naughty step.

I'd be very worried about behaviour like this in a 10 year old. Whatever you think about the area you live in, this sort of thing is not the norm, nor should it be.

1. How many members of you and your partner's family have appeared on Jeremy Kyle?

1. Are you currently wearing "sports wear" or fake Burberry?

off you fuck, there's a poppet

tis is just indicative of how much society deplores the actions of 'other people' yet defends their own and family's behaviour to the hilt....
he neighbours sound awful but i would be soooooooooooooooooooo ashamed of any ofmy children if they had behaved like that

got to be a troll - she has buggered off to watch the fallout - as they do

I agree with what TheProvincialLady has said here.
I would have hit him me thinks, some kids think they can say what they like to people and get away with it.

Or if she ani't a troll, she'll be off as well. Bit thin on the ground on proper helpful advice (with few usual exceptions - Marina et al)

I think an appearance on the Jeremy Kyle show will be beneficial to you all.