My daughter said '****'s daddy did it' and now Im scared and dont know what to do

[clothears]

My mum was looking after my daughter today and thought she saw blood on her pants (it wasnt), she asked my DD how it happened. DD replied ''s daddy did it'. My mum asked what happened and DD said ' wont be my best friend anymore' I have had the same coversation with her. She is only 3.5 yrs old. Im worried. What do I do? My friends partner did look after her last thursday night while I went out. She has been moody since then and I thought nothing of it. I have had thrush and she has been saying she is sore, so I assumed she may have caught thrush from me but its easing and there has been no blood and she isnt sore.
Please help.....

I really think this thread should be for support for op whatever the outcome. I would find it quite upsetting to come back read some posts if I was her. I know we have freedom to post what we like but surely some discression should be used, it is unfeeling to post that you dont think this genuine, if you feel that way ignore and dont post. But if this is genuine then you are not being supportive to someone who neads support and can really cause upset

i think its a little disingenuous to suggest to not post if someone disagrees.

I personally think that this has been blown out of proportion

pen on knickers and an elastic flick of friends dad. - the latter sounds like something my dh would do a lot - as well as 1....2....3....... chuck into air and prent to throw over fence.

"katy's dad threatened to throw me over the fence mummy!"

OMG call the police

as you were drawing on her knickers i suggest its something that she told her friend and her friend drew on her knickers and if she tells they wont be friends

all this talk of police and social services

the poor man.

so orange i personally believe a little perspective is needed amongst the hysteria, plenty of people havre done it for me in the past.

one viewpoint or don't post is rubbish

normally I agree, but not on subjects that sensitive. But like I said everyone free to post what they like but virtually accusing someone of not being genuine in a possible time a great distress, well its not kind to put it mildly. It is possible to put you think its nothing to worry about while still be supportive to op, like some posters have.So Im not saying only one viewpoint. Think I am starting to come to conclusion that some dont come on mn to offer support but to stir. Never mind

clothears where are you? please come and tell us how your daughter is.

If I were the OP, I wouldn't come back to this thread in a million years.

Well said custy.

true, but just hope her dd is ok.

Orange, I am a "non-believer" on this thread but I am not stirring.

Personally, I think the OP is more guilty of stirring regardless of whether there is any cause for concern about this bloke.

I believe there are pictures on a profile and names were mentioned earlier in this thread. Not the man himself but certainly anyone who knows both families would recognise that kind of identifying information.

That is no good.

Thanks morespamthanglam. I'm like a DWTC knowing now.

I totally agree with M7 regarding secrets - when I did child protection training they told us to always talk about surprises, not secrets. Your child needs to know that they should never keep a secret from Mummy or Daddy and if anyone tells them they should it's naughty.

When it's a birthday etc. we plan a surprise but they understand that we will tell daddy about it soon IYSWIM.

A school local to me has a 'secret room' at Christmas for the children to buy a present for their parents - the title always makes me

Just to update all those who offered so much advice. I challenged the mum about it, she passed it off. I have spoken with NSPCC further and have ben asked to call again. I am also speaking with a friend who deals with a local charity who knows about such things to try and establish what if anything should be done.
Thank you once again mumsnetters for your never ending support.
xx

clothears, thanks for the update and try to keep an open mind

You challenged the Mum - the Mother of his child? Sorry not sure I understand what you did but will appreciate if you don't want to go any further with this thread....

bloody hell, lets hope this isn't going to ruin someones life or marriage over something and nothing. Because this is what it has the potential to do. Of course you must not ever ignore a child taht says someone has hurt them, but that isnt what happened here. Please God that nothing happened in the first place, and please please God that there isn't a terrible ripple effect over this.

I can only imagine the heartache this will cause. Imagine your DH being accused of the unimaginable.

You spoke to the "accused"s partner about it?? You should have spoken to him or neither of them.

You are a loon.

Clothears, what did the GP/HV say?

Hope you are OK.

im afraid i have to agree with getmeouttahere.surely it would have been best to see a doctor or go to the police or anything first to find out if anything had gone on before saying anything to the family?

I've asked for the whole thread to be deleted. (Where are you MNHQ?) There is WAY too much identifiable information on here

Yes, get this fairy story deleted.

Shall I say something REEEEALLY bad to make sure it goes?

Message withdrawn

already requested this to be deleted on Friday for the same reason and mumsnet refused !!!!

What was their reason?

copy of the reply I was sent !!!!

" Hi there,

We've had a look at the thread and really there is nothing that we can do or add to it that hasn't already been suggested. But thanks for the heads up.

Best, Abby "

Oh that's a shame.

hopefully now you have also reported this, they may do something about it. I agree with you, there is way too much information on this thread !!