Absolutely stealth. I'd be in bits if it were one of my daughters, and I understand the need to cinfide first before going to an authority. There are great organisations out there that can guide. And the system is the right thing to do.
My point is illustrated by this. Now, if you knew this chap, how many of you would still unquestionably leave your daughter or son with him when/if he's proved innocent. Really.
If I was accused/questioned of a crime that there was no basis to, and by a friend of my partners who trusts me, but they had gone to the NSPCC, Barnardos, the Police, the Emergency room, the Social Services unit, and the internet where at least 148 posts had discussed it, i'd be a little miffed. People DO NOT shake this kind of allegation. It's exactly like footballers and rape allegations for paper stories, girls who claim their drinks were spiked when really it was nothing (please don't shout, read the recent police report - around 2% only were real)but they blame their friends, people like Matthew Kelly who was wrongly accused, etc.
Just go easy, panic and prejudice will not solve anything. It may be true, it may not, but one of these feeds says he COULD be innocent. Doesn't sound like they believe that though. I'm new here, but I understand some of you meet up. That'll be an uncomfortable tea party round at clothears house if her mate and her partner turn up and he's shown he did nothing.
There's a danger of you killing a man's pride for his love for his daughter, and making his life a misery. If he's done something, then fine we'll all enjoy doing that once it's thoroughly proved. But think how you'd feel if we all discussed on here that you were a boozer, and one of your friends mates kids grandmothers had asked your 3 year old a question that had an ambigous answer but just in case we're going to take your child away. Just in case. Think you'd ever get over that ?