My daughter said '****'s daddy did it' and now Im scared and dont know what to do

[clothears]

My mum was looking after my daughter today and thought she saw blood on her pants (it wasnt), she asked my DD how it happened. DD replied ''s daddy did it'. My mum asked what happened and DD said ' wont be my best friend anymore' I have had the same coversation with her. She is only 3.5 yrs old. Im worried. What do I do? My friends partner did look after her last thursday night while I went out. She has been moody since then and I thought nothing of it. I have had thrush and she has been saying she is sore, so I assumed she may have caught thrush from me but its easing and there has been no blood and she isnt sore.
Please help.....

Clothears first I want to send you big hugs I cant imagine how worried you must be feeling.
Im glad you taking her to hv tomorrow, it is something that can be ignored. I am not going to give you anymore advice as there is lots on here already but I hope everything works out ok

hi clothears did you manage to get any answers today/take her to the doctors? hope today went well.

there are some names mentioned earlier on in the thread ... I assume that was accidental and you may want to have those posts deleted

Do be careful about questioning. Agree with Twig- don't. Hope the HV had some good advice. FWIW

DS2 still tells people that 'granny threw me in the sea'. She didn't- she was standing next to him when he was knocked over by a wave (and grabbed him out of the sea- I saw it).

Good idea, Stealth.

Clothears, I also wanted to reiterate my earlier point about perhaps making your profile private until you have dealt with this issue, in case your friend is on MN.

Agreed StealthPB - that is my concern reading through this thread.
Strongly advise the OP to ask for mumsnet HQ to edit this thread sooner rather than later. Please please be careful with how much detail and information you give out across the net. Hope that this is all resolved/moved forward positively for all concerned x

Hope everything is okay clothears.

What I don't understand is what your daughter meant by *'s daddy did it. Did what? There was no blood, there was pen, which you did?

Was she wearing those pants when she was with him last week?

Did he take her to the toilet at some point during her being there? (presumably he did)

I just don't understand what exactly has happened here?

you could ask her to show you what he did by using one of her dolls. We found this very informative. Not leading her in anyway.

This is not making sense to me.

We have this man hung by social services and his own daughter taken away before the facts are even fully understood.

I see peoples concern but I don't even understand what the OP is considering may have happened.

Flame me if you like, but I am confused.

i'm confused too- it's pen, not blood. Having pen on her pants is 'normal' for her potty training, she's not injured...It sounds like something out of nothing from what's actually known.

I don't actually understand the pen thing either.

Why would you draw on perfectly good items of clothing?

I'll get me coat

Kids say 'or i won't be your friend' all the time though, over all kinds of nonsense. They are only 3.5, 3.5yr olds say all kinds of silly things that are without foundation (as other posters have relayed) Could the OP not simply ask if the other child's Daddy had to take her to the potty?

blimey, this is DIFFICULT. IF you are that worried take her to the doctor. My DD is 2.9 and recently had to go to docs for thrush, she had a look down there, i was mildly embarrased DD was curious, far from traumatised. That way you can rule out any physical interferance.

But please please please be very careful about this. I woudlnt know what to do, because an accusation like this would be devestating for an innocent person. I mean, can you imagine if it were any of your partners accused of child abuse? But then, to leave it and he is abusing his own child??

Glad this isnt my decision

Hope you ok clothears

re the pen - draw on them with washable markers and it works like the pic disappearing training pants

did you see the doc today clothears?

hope all is well for you and your dd clothears

Okay.

I think you need to get posts deleted where you have named names immediately and hide your profile.

The pen thing is strange as the knickers were presumably different pairs worn on different days, or the same pair washed? If it was innocent, I don't think any sensible man would draw on a 3 year olds pant to say she used the potty.

Bit confused about all this tbh.

This is silly

And where is the OP?-surely she must see the myriad of posts this thread has spawned. She should be back to update us. >

only just seen this - but the OP may have plenty on her plate so I don't think we should push for posts, or criticise if ther aren't any....