Father wants my heirloom ring back to gift to his new GF

[MRB21]

Don’t know why I’m posting this really but I feel at a loss of what to do. My grandmother died 10 years ago and approximately 4 years ago my dad gave me my grandmothers wedding ring as a gift. I have worn it everyday ever since until my hands were swollen due to pregnancy and it still doesn’t fit comfortably yet but it would be going back on. My father asked me for it back because he wants to give it to his new GF who he has been dating for 6 months (she never met my grandmother). Firstly the ring holds massive sentimental value to me and is the only thing I have of my grandmothers. Secondly should I be giving this back for him to regift to a woman who I / he barely knows? I feel upset that he would take it back to regift it when it’s so cherished by me. What are people’s thoughts please? Am I being overdramatic about it? Should I just give it back to him?

Tell him exactly what you've said here - it holds huge sentimental value to you and it's the only thing of hers you have. If you're not wearing it then put it somewhere he won't find it if he goes searching behind your back.

What a weird thing to want to gift a GF. I could maybe understand if it was a ring with stones in it, but not a wedding band.

He GAVE it to you, therefore its yours. You love it and cherish it because of your grandmother. Tell him that, and a big fat No. He is very out of order to even think of this.

This, or try “absolutely fucking not”.

I've reported this. Its 2026, do better.

No. Absolutely not.

Now I understand why its precious and meaningful to you but what woman wants a used wedding ring. I could understand how a woman might wear an engagement ring as a dress ring but not somebody's mother's wedding ring. I presume he's not on the point of proposing? Get it resized and back on your finger.

Just really to agree with everyone saying stand your ground, @MRB21. Your grandmother would rather you wear her ring than her son's new fling, and if your father is a reasonable man he will know that this is the case.

If your father's new ladyfriend is a decent person she will also be telling him the same thing and would be horrified that he is asking you to take your grandmother's ring that you have worn and intend to again, and give it back to him to gift to her.

Under no circumstances give him back this ring.

Whilst I understand your point. In this case No is not a full sentence if you then feel a need to go onto explain what has been said here…….

Absolutely not, don't give it back to him at all.
I'm sure your grandmother would rather you have it.
Also, it is actually yours now, he can't expect you to give it back.

Thank you. It feels very insulting and upsetting that he would think to ask me to give it back to him so that he can then give to her when he’s only known her 5 minutes. Not even sure he would even compute that it would upset me or not. So shocked he even asked me.

Nope. It was an unconditional gift and it is very precious to you so sadly you won’t be returning it so he can regift it to someone else and you think he’s very rude for asking.

you need to put him in his place or he won’t drop it

how old is he?

Noted. Didn’t mean to cause offence, sorry.

He can jog off, obviously doesn't like her enough to actually spend a couple of quid for a cheap ring. Tight git. Perhaps he ought to buy christmas crackers when they go on sale, bound to be a bit of plastic crap in one of those.

Has just occured to me if it is an old wedding band it might be 22ct and therefore sellable.
I sold my gran's ring last year and got just over £200 for it.

Were you raised to gave no say in yiru own life op?.
No df you can't. Job done .

what would you’re grandma want! Her beloved granddaughter who cherishes the ring or some Random lady she’s never met!
I putting my bets on you, tell your father to do one and keep the ring

Say no, it was a gift, not a loan.

Response should be “absolutely not. I’m really shocked and disappointed that you would even ask dad. I hope you can recognise how inappropriate and hurtful this is”

Maybe ask your father that if he gives this ring to his gf and they split up sometimes down the line, how would he feel about not being able to get it back from her because she would be entitled to keep it. 🤔

Nope
Its yours

Nope, absolutely no way. Would she be happy knowing he's snatched it off your hand to give to her? (maybe she would).

Is he spiteful enough to cut you out of his will or anything?

Exactly. No moral high ground to camp out on there.

It became your property when he gifted it to you.

"No Dad I do not want to give my ring to your girlfriend".

It's a total unequivocal no. Not now, not in the future not ever.

Please do not give in to any pressure from him - it was your grandmother's and can never be replaced.

How old is he and why is he single?