Father wants my heirloom ring back to gift to his new GF

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Don’t know why I’m posting this really but I feel at a loss of what to do. My grandmother died 10 years ago and approximately 4 years ago my dad gave me my grandmothers wedding ring as a gift. I have worn it everyday ever since until my hands were swollen due to pregnancy and it still doesn’t fit comfortably yet but it would be going back on. My father asked me for it back because he wants to give it to his new GF who he has been dating for 6 months (she never met my grandmother). Firstly the ring holds massive sentimental value to me and is the only thing I have of my grandmothers. Secondly should I be giving this back for him to regift to a woman who I / he barely knows? I feel upset that he would take it back to regift it when it’s so cherished by me. What are people’s thoughts please? Am I being overdramatic about it? Should I just give it back to him?

The correct response is not now, not ever, never. Practice saying it. Then if he asks again absolutely say it. Draw the line.

His response was:

Ok forget that

Nothing else. Don’t even know what to say back to that other than GOOD? Expected him to say more tbh. Whole thing is weird.

Absolutely NOT!!!!!

Its not his ring anymore. Its yours.

So no I wouldnt give a precious family heirloom I was gifted years ago to a relative who planned to give it away

Havent read all of OPs posts or the thread.

Tell your DF to GTF. Hard no. Sod him off.

Ha ha!! What an odd response. I’d reply with ‘that you for understanding. I hope you manage to find something that X appreciates and sees you’ve put effort in to make it special for her’

That's good, he has obviously reconsidered and that's all you need to know.

Well done for standing your ground.

Id forget the conversation ever happened..

No way, she has never even met your grandmother.

Whatever is your dad thinking. This is a hige lapse of judgement, is his memory and cognition ok?

He wants to give a wedding ring to a new girlfriend…. NO way, it’s now yours and you don’t need and shouldn’t give it to him for this ridiculous reason. If he wants to buy her a ring, he does that

Op don’t over think this and get upset.

Men are simple.

He probably doesn’t understand it being sentimental at all and just thought there is a ring and my new woman would like it, with no appreciation of your feelings or actually that it didn’t belong to him!

No

Apologies. Catching up on previous threads. So happy to hear you are keeping it.

No!! It's been handed down from your flesh & blood and you loved your grandmother. So it should be kept in the family! Absolutely not! Even if you fell out with him, as he's clearly not that bothered that it's upsetting you either.

you actually made me laugh out loud!

Please please keep it.like others said if it has to go missing but in a safe place so be it.he has a absolute cheek to want back a ring he has already gifted to you.especially to a woman he has been with for 5 minutes.

I can’t even believe the new girlfriend would want it. Surely, if she was any reasonable person, she would be shocked at this idea.

I would say thank you I appreciate that.

Have you met this woman?
Sounds like a similar situation my friends dad was in and he was getting scammed.

Absolutely not!

Absolutely not. It was a present so it's yours, and it means the world to you. I would let him know that you're very upset he would even think to ask you to give it away.

I see you did just that. I think your father got the message!

Absolutely no way in hell, they'll split and you'll not see it again.

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