Father wants my heirloom ring back to gift to his new GF

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Don’t know why I’m posting this really but I feel at a loss of what to do. My grandmother died 10 years ago and approximately 4 years ago my dad gave me my grandmothers wedding ring as a gift. I have worn it everyday ever since until my hands were swollen due to pregnancy and it still doesn’t fit comfortably yet but it would be going back on. My father asked me for it back because he wants to give it to his new GF who he has been dating for 6 months (she never met my grandmother). Firstly the ring holds massive sentimental value to me and is the only thing I have of my grandmothers. Secondly should I be giving this back for him to regift to a woman who I / he barely knows? I feel upset that he would take it back to regift it when it’s so cherished by me. What are people’s thoughts please? Am I being overdramatic about it? Should I just give it back to him?

No he gave it to you as a gift. It’s yours now

I'm on Team No Way.

I think your dad sounds like a thoughtless idiot .
Fancy asking you for a ring back to gift it to a random women what a loser.
The answer is NO its a full sentence .
Don't dare give him the ring back its yours and wether you wear it or not its yours to be kept in your safe keeping x

Just flatly refuse. No is a complete sentence. It is your grandmother’s ring, it has sentimental value to you. Tell your dad that you will not be returning it. His gf has never met your grandmother and might like a new ring as there are no memories associated with that ring for her.

Tell him his and your grandmother’s blood is in your veins, it’s a family piece of jewellery and will stay in the family and if you have a DD you can say it’s promised to her

No, don't give it back. He gave it to you. You don't ask for presents back. What's he playing at?

Weeeellll .... I guess he's thinking he can have a new "GM's blood in her veins" DD who also has new GF's blood.

That's where this just gets so insulting.

Why should she lie? A gift is a gift, once it's given you lose any control over it. If he were to get his hands on it and gives= it to his new squeeze would she be willing to return it if they split up? 99.999%, No!

No way.

I should also shame him for being a tightwad. Tell him his new gf would surely like a new ring, perhaps the opportunity to go shopping for it. Doubt she will want some old pass down (not being rude about your Grandmother’s ring which is probably lovely but will she see it like that?).

This would really upset me. It’s weird that he wants to give a wedding band to someone, especially as he hasn’t known her for long and if they break up there’s no guarantee she would give it back. Also that he gave you something as a sentimental gift that he knows you really like but is now asking for it back. Is he usually this thoughtless?

Absolutely not

No. I strongly believe in jewellery staying in the family. I would expect a ring to pass down the male line to a daughter, never a partner.

Is he tight? Or is it sentimental?

Tell him what you've just said.

I'd add: Are you thinking with your dick or do you have dementia? But, that's just me.

No chance. How hurtful of him to ask!

Even if he’s know her 10 years, it’s still inappropriate. It stays in the family, end of.

Tell him no as it means more to you than it ever could to someone who had never known her. Perhaps offer to help him choose one that can become meaningful in its own right in future.

No
You have every right to be upset OP
Take care and cherish those lovely memories of your grandma.

Worse comes to the worse, get a cheap look a like and give him that! 😳

No. Dont give it back.

Aaaw, I feel for you. That’s awful he is expecting you to give up such a precious piece of jewellery.
It’s a no. Stay firm

He gave it to you, she was your grandma and you clearly treasure it. Absolutely do not return it. He shouldn’t have asked

Would the gf even want it if she knew the history? I wouldn't.

I would say no. It was a gift not a loan.

No no no a million times no.

It’s a gift. It’s now yours. He has no right to ask for it back. Especially in these circumstances.