Father wants my heirloom ring back to gift to his new GF

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Don’t know why I’m posting this really but I feel at a loss of what to do. My grandmother died 10 years ago and approximately 4 years ago my dad gave me my grandmothers wedding ring as a gift. I have worn it everyday ever since until my hands were swollen due to pregnancy and it still doesn’t fit comfortably yet but it would be going back on. My father asked me for it back because he wants to give it to his new GF who he has been dating for 6 months (she never met my grandmother). Firstly the ring holds massive sentimental value to me and is the only thing I have of my grandmothers. Secondly should I be giving this back for him to regift to a woman who I / he barely knows? I feel upset that he would take it back to regift it when it’s so cherished by me. What are people’s thoughts please? Am I being overdramatic about it? Should I just give it back to him?

There is a certain kind of person who loves acclaim and kudos and once they have it, they crave it again. He wants to give the ring again because the feelings have worn off and he wants more. Say no. And think about who he is.

Absolutely not

It was a gift not a loan. Tell him no,

Hell would freeze over before I gave that ring back.

It is yours to cherish along with lovely memories of your nan. It is not for some random bit of fluff who has just appeared on the scene to have.

Stick to your guns OP.

Get a similar one on eBay and give him that and keep yours! Why can’t he buy one for her. That’s an awful thing for him to ask so it deserves that kind of response.

Absolutely say no.

My mum gifted me my grandfathers ring, then a few years later actually took it out of my jewellery box and gave it to my brother for his 18th birthday without telling me. I saw him wearing it in a photo and accused him of stealing it from me when it was her all along. I've never forgiven her for that.

Likewise if he bullies you into giving the ring back you'll always have it in the back of your mind. Stand firm.

Nope. No. Definitely not.
Tell him no. You can explain why. But if he won't listen then just do not give it. It is yours.

Absolutely not.

Now go get it resized and wear it everyday again. She was your grandmother and would want you to have it, not some random new girlfriend.

God no. It’s yours, he’d get to decide what happens to YOUR ring.

No fool like an old fool. 🙄

It means too much for you to just give it away to a random he’s known for 5 mins. Let her pick one from the Argos catalogue.

I can’t believe he’d even ask!

Ask him who your Grandmother would prefer to have it.

It belongs to you. What a foolish, silly man he is being to even suggest this. I’m sorry. That must be so hurtful

He should be ashamed, I hope he comes to his senses. Absolutely not. Say no.. I'm sorry he's put you in that position.

Agree with all the pp. It would be a very firm NO from me. Is he asking you because he's noticed that you're not currently wearing it or do you think he'd ask you to take it off your finger and give it to him if you were wearing it? I'd just say no, that it means too much to you and that you intend to put it back on your hand when your fingers get back to normal. It's a very weird thing for him to do.

No! Its yours. He can't gift something and then take it back. Even if he could. Its bloody stupid to give something so sentimental to a random. I've had food moulding in my fridge longer than that.

Just another saying no.

Hell, no!

He gave it to you. It was a gift and you own it now. It means a lot to you, as it would to most people. You will regret it if you give it back. Shame on him for asking. As an aside if I was the girlfriend I would be very uncomfortable to be given something like this, 6 months into a relationship. Even more so if I knew my new bloke had taken it back from someone else.

No. It was your grandmother's and he gifted it to you. He can buy new gf a different ring.

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It was a gift. He can't take it back.

The one time it is acceptable to ask for a gift back is if the ring wearer breaks off a marriage engagement BUT not everybody honours this and I guarantee she won't give it back if they break up.

No, just no.

It's just so insulting.

It's like he is saying "I had nobody better to give it to when I gave it to you, but now I do."

Absolutely not and if he mentions it again tell him that he gave it to you so it’s no longer his to give away .

Absolutely not!

And I'm sure the new gf wouldn't be impressed with a second hand ring anyway! Tight bugger - he can buy her a ring if he wants to impress her.

Just say no. It belongs to you now