Father wants my heirloom ring back to gift to his new GF

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Don’t know why I’m posting this really but I feel at a loss of what to do. My grandmother died 10 years ago and approximately 4 years ago my dad gave me my grandmothers wedding ring as a gift. I have worn it everyday ever since until my hands were swollen due to pregnancy and it still doesn’t fit comfortably yet but it would be going back on. My father asked me for it back because he wants to give it to his new GF who he has been dating for 6 months (she never met my grandmother). Firstly the ring holds massive sentimental value to me and is the only thing I have of my grandmothers. Secondly should I be giving this back for him to regift to a woman who I / he barely knows? I feel upset that he would take it back to regift it when it’s so cherished by me. What are people’s thoughts please? Am I being overdramatic about it? Should I just give it back to him?

Fuck no.
He gave it to you.
He has no legal or moral right to it.

No
NO
No way

so is he going to marry her

No way. Pleas explain to your Dad carefully and firmly. Imagine being in the Gf's position and knowing a sentimental gift from a gp was asked to be returned so you could have it. She'd have to be very selfish to want that! Dad needs to buy a new ring.

Good point.

No way - she was your grandmother and it now belongs to you.

Who does he think she would rather have it - her granddaughter who cherishes it as a reminder of her, or some random woman???

Don't give it back. Your father is being selfish and short-sighted. This relationship could easily end, but even if it lasts the rest of his life, the ring is yours. A cherished keepsake should stay in the family, not be given to a girlfriend after he's already passed it down to the next generation. You can only give something away once. He chose to give it to you, and now the ring is yours.

Its a shame you changed your mind but the answer is no, im not returning my grandmother's ring to you

Please don’t give it back! It’s yours ❤️

Thank you for this as it made me laugh out loud. I won’t be giving it back to him. Like you said he can buy her an onion ring instead

Absolutely NO!!!!!!

Has he Always been a twat?

No. How unbelievably awful of him to ask you! Tell him it's too sentimental and suggest he gets down to H Samuel.

Is he a petty bastard normally?
Is the ring distinctive, so distinctive he'd remember it in a detailed way? If no, I'd buy a cheap random one, stick it in an old box and hand it too him with a big smile but an eye on longer term inheritance.

This

Op definitely not tell him you love it too much to pass on to a complete stranger and if you need to get it sized up and get it back on your finger. He’s been a cheeky fucker even asking you. Surely gf doesn’t want a third hand ring unless it’s worth a lot. Tell him he can get nice rings in the jewellers if he feels the need to give a ring. The cheek of some men on here it’s so frustrating who do they think they are.

He’s not short for money at all. The ring is actually my grandmothers wedding band not an engagement ring - sorry I should have been more specific but it’s a bloody precious piece of metal to me.

Also wanted to say really sorry OP.
You sound a good person and I’m sorry you are having to deal with this. Xx

No.need to make up a story it's much more satisfying and liberating to say NO

Met her twice. They started dating just before Christmas and he said he was in love with her when he came over on Christmas Day

Goodness me, no. A six-month relationship and he wants to give her a piece of family jewellery? Fuck that. I've got my grandmother's engagement ring and it's going to a family member when I die.

Ahhh god. I’m so sorry that happened to you. God what is wrong with parents.

100% this

Yes I'm sorry op. That is how I would feel too.

I wouldn’t be saying you lost it in case he says well look for it. Just say it was a gift to you and a remembrance of your grandmother.