Baby Preston Davey

[Sadmamma35]

I’ve just read about baby Preston Davey and I cannot stop thinking about him. I have a 13-month-old of my own, which is probably why this has hit me so hard — I can really relate and my baby is my everything.
I’m crying as I write this. Why does it hurt so much for a baby I’ve never even met? Has anyone else felt this way?
How do you cope with the negative thoughts that follow when you read something like this? 💙

I agree I cannot fathom why people hurt babies or children. It’s evil

I felt like this about the babies of Gaza when I first kept seeing all the stuff on social media. DD1 was only 7 months at the time. I think it's to do with knowing for the first time what it truly means to love a child. At least with DD I knew prior to having her, I never felt that way about other times I had seen sad things about babies. Yes, I felt sad for them, but not in the gut wrenching sadness I experienced when seeing sad things since becoming a mum.

Completely agree. It’s more painful to hear news of babies hurt after being a mother. It is a huge change in your mentality and hormones

Shame you couldn’t feel the same pain for kfir Bibas as well

Please don’t make this political or race centric. My heart goes out to any children who are suffering. I wish I had this magic way keeping them all so safe and loved.

This case is local to me and is absolutely devastating. That poor little baby boy, how the hell could this happen to him. Why did no one, during and after the adoption process, spot what was going on? I adopted a child through the local council and can't help thinking it could have been him. Those two men should never have been given that baby boy and no, I'm not homophobic. I, also, always think about the poor, innocent babies and children whenever I hear of wars etc I completely understand how you feel OP.

I was hit hard by little Preston's horrific murder, too. A baby of that age is all smiles and giggles, it beggars belief that anyone could deliberately harm them.

It's so much harder once you're a mum, it just seems so much more personal somehow.

that poor little boy. The horror he must have gone through in his short little life. I can’t get my head around people who harm children, it’s just abhorrent.

It hit me hard too, its completelyunthinkable. Im in lots of adoption groups and it seems to have impacted us all in some way, and personally ive found some of the commentary around it really difficult (theres some really homophobic comments out there surrounding it which means ive avoided threads around it)

Its hard to think how people that go through the same process we have could have got that far

ur right . This story also sickened me. Just can’t get my head round someone doing that to a poor innocent baby, two supposedly normal looking people . Evil.

They're absolute sadists. I can see why people would think teachers would be OK. I guess they were bad apples.

Stories do seem to hit particularly hard when you have a child of a similar age. I remember being absolutely haunted by the Madeleine McCann case as dd was a year younger. I remember staying at Center Parcs and worrying that someone would get into dd's window as it was on the ground floor there

Imagine being a kid who'd been taught by them and finding out what sick child abusers they were. Or being a parent whose child had been taught by then.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing. How could anyone know what these people were capable of. Did they show any signs or inclinations prior to the adoption that would have made them unsuitable parents.

It’s unbearable to read

something is clearly wrong with the vetting process as this is not the first time would be adopters have had their hands on the most vulnerable in our society who we all have a duty of care towards and have been murdered by these very people who were meant to be taking care of them at this most fragile stage in their little life. Im remembering baby leiland James corkhill and baby Elsie scully hicks (apologies if I have their names wrong).

Yes, hindsight is a wonderful thing but poor little Preston was taken to hospital numerous times, this should have been reported to Social Services, especially as he'd been a looked after child. How did no one pick up on this? It was the social workers actual job to check that he was safe and well. When I adopted my son, he had his own social worker and dh and I also had one representing us. Preston and his adopters would have had a social worker each, how come neither of these people ever noticed that Preston was being abused so horrifically? They should have been having regular meetings with him and his adopters. Also, the families and friends of these evil monsters have reported that they were sent texts from them saying Preston was going to be murdered, tortured etc They took these as being "jokes". What type of people make "jokes" about this sort of thing. Neighbours also reported hearing Preston screaming frequently, yet did anyone report it? Preston's previous foster carer wasn't happy about the placement but no one listened to her. This abuse should have been spotted immediately by the so called professionals, there's absolutely no excuse.

I've just been looking at the updates of the court case, prompted by this thread. I'm actually sat here crying, how could anyone do that to a defenceless little baby. They are absolute monsters.

I know what you mean OP it's really hard. For me it will always be baby Peter Connolly that hurts. Killed the day before my own baby was born. Heartbreaking. The people involved are all subhuman in my view.

He was born on the same day as my youngest and I just can’t imagine the life he had. I see my little one who will start school in September and little Preston should be doing all that as well. Absolutely horrific.

Baby Preston was taken to hospital three times with injuries before he was murdered. Each time the staff believed the "parents". I can't get my head around that and I'm surprised more hasn't been said about it.

The baby P story haunted me and still does, I would think of him constantly and wish I could save him! Unbelievable cruelty in the world especially where children are concerned :(

I sympathize and agree. When I had my first baby the Lucy Letby trial was just starting and I couldn’t stand the nurses going anywhere near my son!

The thoughts and feelings associated with learning of these cases will stay with you for a while, it hurts even more when your own child is of a similar age, same for me with the Kaylee jade priest story, she really reminded me of my daughter and I couldn’t cope with how distraught I felt, as you imagine your own child in the same situation and it’s heartbreaking. Baby P was the same, it kept me up at night reading the court papers in horror at what anyone could do to a child!! Just remind yourself your boy is so so lucky he has you, and to channel the upset by advocating for children in any way you can to protect them, by never turning a blind eye to suspected cruelty, if someone had spoken up some of these babies could’ve been saved xx

This is always what I struggle with. These children usually have a presence in a&e and with their gp. How is it not flagged to their social worker for further assessment? It’s not like these children are hidden away. Services are aware but as usual there is not a system in place to protect. How is there not a chain of events ??