Let’s shout out from the rooftop how bloody AMAZING it is to have sons!! Who cares that we don’t have a daughter? Not me!!!

[LondonLady1980]

Come on everyone!

It’s time we counteracted all these horrible and depressing threads lately about how disappointed women are that they are having “another boy”.

We’ve all seen them and the usual stereotypical worries that women have…. How abandoned they’ll be, how they’ll never see their son once they’ve grown up, how they’ll never see their grandchildren, how they’ll never have that assumed mother and daughter loving bond etc etc.

And don’t forget the sheer disappointment about never being allowed to dress their baby in a pink dress and put a bow in its hair…..

So let’s celebrate our wonderful boys!!!

I have two, they are 8 and 12 and they are the most wonderful and loving sons I could wish for. I absolutely adore them and I genuinely couldn’t give a crap that I never had a daughter!!

I love them endlessly and they were never ever viewed as a potential disappointment and they never will be ❤️

This thread title is weird as hell. Who in their right mind would pay any attention to someone saying daughters are better?

Life's too short for that nonsense.

Zzzzz

Sorry but: ‘Who cares that we don’t have a daughter? Not me!!!’ sounds comically desperate.

Can you link to one of these threads? I've not seen one. I have children of both sexes and they're all equally wonderful.

I have to say I agree with @LondonLady1980! I have two grown up sons.

i never had a preference either way, though I was never a girly girl growing up, so maybe that has something to do with it?

I accepted the babies I had and did find myself getting asked a few times ‘oh, are you going to try for a girl’. Like that’s an actual thing???? 🤣🤣

I pay attention because as a mother of sons I find it really offensive to constantly read threads that wonderful children are second rate or are worthy of “disappointment”, or won’t bring as much happiness simply because they’re boys and not girls.

Boys are wonderful to have!!

Just because you don’t want to pay attention to the nonsense, doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be addressed. It’s thread after thread after thread lately and it’s hurtful.

I understand why women have those feelings, I genuinely do, I once had them myself, and so a thread that celebrates how amazing boys are is so very much needed!!!!

Women need reassuring that having boys and not daughters isn’t something they need to be automatically disappointed about!

I’ve got sons, never been bothered about not having a daughter. If I’d had girls, I’m sure I’d not have been bothered about not having a son. People should just appreciate and enjoy what they have. I’m also lucky to have lots of nieces and nephews who are also all wonderful

www.mumsnet.com/talk/parenting/5518465-boy-mum-needing-reassurance?reply=151774549

You’re right, boys and girls are equally wonderful but sadly there are frequently threads from women who talk about how disappointed they are about having sons (that’s not to say they won’t love their sons, just that they’re disappointed they’re having a boy and not a girl).

I only have the App on my phone so don’t think I have the ability to link to threads but I will try.

I've loved having sons. I loved the simplicity of their friendships. They were like little magnets: when close enough to other little boys they snapped physically together like magnets, wrestling and romping, and when further apart they seemed to have no thoughts about the friendships at all, unlke girls' complex and conflicty social lives.

I'd like to think that if I had had a girl, she would have been as much as a tomboy as I always was. But if she had been a girly girl I would have been a little bit at a loss.

I think it’s just preference. Surely people can think and feel what they want right? I personally find little boys very dull. They offload information onto you about their special interests rather than have a conversation the way girls do. I also find them quite entitled, they are men in training after all. Im also from a family of girls and have lots of female friends, work with mainly women so it’s definitely my comfort zone. I’m sure if I’d had boys I would have gotten over it and found stuff I liked but if I’d ended up with two boys instead of girls I’d have been gutted initially.

Read the room, maybe?

I absolutely love your description about boys' friendships being like magnets! It's spot on as well. @MyThreeWords

“Little magnets” made me think of my boys.

We have got three sofas in our living room (all two seaters) and a single seater, but even if ever seat is empty they still HAVE to sit next the each other….. and when I say next to each other I mean that literally! They are always thigh to thigh, shoulder to shoulder, no matter where they’re sitting. I always joke that they’re like magnets because you’d think they were stuck to each other.

They’re going a jigsaw puzzle at the moment in the middle of an empty floor and they are still stuck to each others side 🤣

I'll bite. My son is 18, wonderful company and we have a lovely relationship. All his friends say they wish their parents were like us. Perhaps it is the parents that are the problem? 😆

A thread dedicated to celebrating having sons purely because of all the negativity they always get, yet only 11 posts in and there’s a poster talking about how crap they are.

You couldn’t make it up 🤣

@ProudPearl
99% of the threads on MN about 'gender disappointment' refer to boys.

I have both and my first was a boy: I really wanted a boy and got what I wanted. When I went to find out the sex of the second baby, I thought I wasn't bothered either way. However I had this sudden feeling of panic that it would be a boy. It came out of nowhere and I felt elated when she said it was a girl. I don't like to admit it but I did always want a girl, but I always wanted a boy too! I think I always wanted one of each and I can't explain why. Children are children.

I do see where you are coming from OP, as sex disappointment threads are usually about finding out the OP is having a boy. I rarely read that they are sad about finding out its a girl. It is a thing and I have read it countless times on mumsnet. A quick mumsnet search will show its normally a boy that women are initially disappointed with.

Ultimately, we love our children but its human nature to build a vague picture of a child who will be a certain way or do certain things. It doesnt mean that we don't also understand that children are nuanced beings and not stereotypes.

I do get annoyed by the 'boy mom' posts on Instagram which depict a life of wild boys fighting and jumping off stuff but that is just parenting!

So I get it OP but I also think that kids are kids regardless and it comes down to individual character as to how one's experience of parenting plays out.

I’m with you OP and I get why you started this thread. Not judging anybody’s preferences but I have an amazing little boy and wouldn’t mind at all if I get another (just as I wouldn’t mind getting a girl).

@Cornflakes44 I think this is not the right thread for you, as OP said, there are plenty of other threads along the lines of your post.

yay go you.

Doesn’t it concern you that in the future you might have a DIL on MN and you will then be that most loathed person a MIL .

Have you seen all the thread from posters who have incredibly difficult relationships with their mothers? 😆

Yes, it keeps me awake night after night after night 🤣

Maybe my hypothetical DIL’s will dislike me - that’s even if my boys turn out to be straight or even get married, but I can quite confidently say that I can live with that.

I absolutely loved my MIL so I would like to think that my potential to a likeable or unlikeable MIL rests on what I’m like as a person, not whether I have a son or daughter.

And even if my hypothetical DILs do hate me that certainly doesn’t detract from any of the joy I have had raising my sons.

I can’t think of a more ridiculous reason to be disappointed in having a son than “Well they might marry a woman one day and she might not like me” 🙄

I agree @LondonLady1980

I also hate the threads here endlessly slating men.

Nice to see such a positive post!

I only have girls but well brought up children of either sex are a joy.

I do find ‘boy mom’ posts on social media a bit annoying. They seem to focus on parenting boys being extra difficult. Some children are just a bit more challenging than others due to their temperament.