Unwell niece wants to see newborn ?

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Situation and need some advice. Are we being ott?

our 18 month old niece wants to see our newborn who is only 3 weeks old. She was off nursery on Friday and Thursday with a sickness bug. Sister is convinced(Niece’s mum) that her bug has gone. I thought symptoms could go but you can still ‘hold’ or carry the illness? I’m worried if we say sorry we aren’t comfortable with little one meeting our newborn it’s going to cause an argument …?

sickness bug was sickness and I think Diarea called by nursery!

No way. A “let’s put it off for a few days, just in case the bug still lurking” shouldn’t offend anyone. If it does they are selfish idiots.

You’re supposed to wait 48hrs after D or V. Just say no to your sister

What a shame, let’s wait till we know no one else has picked it up!

Your sister is being a selfish dick!!! Absolutely no way

She's 18 months she has no real concept of your baby or wanting to meet them. Nor will she remember the meeting by the time she goes to bed that evening.

It's not worth risking your newborns health for what will essentially be her mum wanting some cute picture of her and the new baby together.

No way your 18month old niece doesn’t want to see the baby your sister does, say no not this week

No definitely not. 18 month olds are not known for being able to keep a safe distance.

Agree with above poster. At 18 months she is not dying to see her cousin.

At school/nursery, you have to leave it 48 hours after the last bout of sickness or diarrhoea. So, it’s far to say, leave it this weekend and they can meet next week. If your sister says no then you know she doesn’t care about the new baby.

No bloody way how can your sister be so ridiculous, stand hard on your ground

Not ott, ask to postpone to next weekend (assuming they're better by them). Arrange to facetime instead so niece/your sister can see the baby.

I'd be more worried about you catching the bug when you're so recently postpartum with a tiny baby.

How on earth wpuld an 18 month old know what a baby is? Or anything longer than a few minutes in their memory

She’s 18 months - she’ll want something else in five mins! Your sister is being selfish. Protect yourself and your infant and ask her to wait a few more days.

Nope no way. 48 hours (at least) clear from the last episode. Just be light about it “we don’t want to risk it for a few days just in case”
if they are funny about it then that is their problem I’m afraid. It’s not ott to protect your newborn from tummy bugs. (Mine had one at a few weeks old and I promise you it was not fun or trivial)

I’m fairly relaxed about things like this but no way would I allow this. I am shocked your sister is asking and to be honest I think she just wants baby snuggles so is being extremely selfish. 18 month olds aren’t really bothered by babies and the rule is 48 hours after D&V.

Absolutely not. Waiting a few more days won’t hurt and the health of you and your baby are way more important than a visit for a child who is too young to understand

Agree with PPs - it absolutely can wait. Not only niece might be still contagious but there is a chance that her mum picked up a big from her.
By the way your sister demonstrated big lack of judgement and pure selfishness here I would be careful with her in the future. Your niece is at that age when they pick up virus after virus.

Nope, this can’t happen.

Is this your first child? You need to find your inner tiger mum.

No chance! Your sister can wait a few more days. 48 hours after last instance of D or V as a minimum.

Absolutely no way!!!!

If you can’t even say no now, to something very clearly reasonable then you are going to struggle with parenting op. Being a parent is about making decisions regarding the best interests for your child. You are more concerned about a grown adults feelings than a vulnerable new born? Have a think about that. I know someone whose baby got very sick because they allowed a situation like this.

Your sister wants to see your newborn and is using her daughter as an excuse!! The answer would be 'No, I think we'd be better off waiting a few more days, to be safe'. Ultimately, it's your baby, and not your sister's decision. If she gets the hump, then she's being unreasonable and selfish. Also 18 months old children, don't give two hoots about babies! They are way too young to understand and have have the attention span of a fly, so after 5 minutes won't be interested!!!

Thanks all. DH was adamant no also but I didn’t know if it was me

Agree with this. She's 18 months. She doesn't know what day it is or the concept of a baby. Definitely wait a few days!