Unwell niece wants to see newborn ?

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Situation and need some advice. Are we being ott?

our 18 month old niece wants to see our newborn who is only 3 weeks old. She was off nursery on Friday and Thursday with a sickness bug. Sister is convinced(Niece’s mum) that her bug has gone. I thought symptoms could go but you can still ‘hold’ or carry the illness? I’m worried if we say sorry we aren’t comfortable with little one meeting our newborn it’s going to cause an argument …?

sickness bug was sickness and I think Diarea called by nursery!

My son is almost 18 months.
I don’t want to be rude, your neice doesn’t ’want’ to meet the baby, she isn’t old enough to ask that sort of thing yet.
this is your sister saying it so she can meet the baby.
d&v is 48 hours with regards to swimming pools so I’d go by that

Why does a baby need to see a newborn? Is she even old enough to articulate that or is it her mother?

Absolutely not. She could still be riddled with that virus and a newborn could get very dehydrated very quickly if they picked it up.

Nurseries and schools won't let a child in unless it's been 48 hrs plus after the last "incident" of d and v. I'd stick with those principles, if a nursery won't let her near other kids and babies, I wouldn't let her near my newborn!! You could even wait a little bit longer till vaccines are done if you want to be super cautious. Nursery aged/attending kids have alllll the bugs, especially if she wants to (her mum wants her to) hold and kiss the baby.

Cause an argument! Baby trumps sister’s feelings! Also at 18 months she has no idea she can wait another week.

Can an 18 month old even express an opinion about a baby cousin?!

Personally no visits to a 3week old by anyone, regardless of how old they are, how close a relation or how much they want to visit if there's the slightest inking of illness. Especially d&v.
You are not being OTT, you're keeping your newborn safe. Anyone who doesn't understand that is being unreasonable.
Your niece is 18 months old, she can wait.

Agreed, my son got a sickness bug at 9 months & he couldn’t keep anything down for about a week. It was awful

Just tell her to wait a few more days

My baby caught a sickness bug when she was 3 weeks old and we ended up spending 2 weeks in hospital. She was hooked up to monitors and a cannula in her hand. Still has a little scar now 16 years later.

I would say absolutely not. And your DH needs to get a reality check.

I stopped at an 18 month old understanding the possibility of seeing a baby that they are with! Sister is selfish - extremely so. Go low contact.

Absolutely not. I’m dreading this, my nephew is 2 and like a walking Petri dish, between him, his parents and my parents there hasn’t been a week since I announced my pregnancy when one of them hasn’t been ill.

All I am hearing is their plans once baby is here, I’m absolutely dreading it. They pass coughs and colds between each other like trading cards.

Of course she can’t see a newborn baby when she’s had D&V! I feel there is an “anything for my little Princess” element by her Mum at play here. Photos of her holding the baby to show off on social media?

Absolutely not and I also agree with others, your 18 month old niece is not asking to meet the baby, she wouldn’t even have the words to express that sentiment yet.
I’m shocked that your sister is even suggesting it, that is purely selfish.

Your 18 month old niece wouldn’t know what a newborn was . Ridiculous .