Is it OK to keep a bedtime bottle at age four?

[DearDog96]

In a recent post about my MIL’s comment towards DD it was highlighted that I needed to get her out of nappies, off the dummy and going to bed without her bottle. The dummy I took away straight away and we’ve been doing well since, and nappies we’re going to try this weekend. With a baby on the way in a few months time I’m inclined to leave the bottle for now as it’s only once a day and it’s her comfort before bed, plus I feel like I’ve rocked the boat enough already! What’s everyone’s thoughts? Did any of your kids keep the night bottle at 4+?

I agree with this ^^

A little bit she’s very hit and miss. And yes we have an appointment on Monday :)

We have a HV appointment on Monday. Her hearing is fine I think, she never seems to have any problems and her speech is pretty good too. Will see what she recommends though

Hopefully the HV will come up with good ideas on Monday.
But I definitely wouldn't give up. She needs to make the connection between the feeling the urge to go and going.

I’m a bit confused. I thought the progress vote Kerry said that she needs done support or have I misunderstood?

It does but it asked all sorts of questions - not just related to whether she can hear or speak!
the areas she needs support in I don’t think are her speech or hearing (certainly not hearing!)

The hearing test is just a thing that they do if your DC does need help with communication. I say this gently, if the progress checker from Speech & Language UK says she needs support with her communication you need to get this sorted as quick as you can.

You have a DD who isn’t potty trained, still reliant on bottles and has some difficulty with communication. You need to see the HV but before you do you need to fill both the Ages & Stages and the Social & Emotional Ages & Stages and get the HV to mark them.

Being fair to the DD, most kids parents decide to ditch the bottles, dummys and nappies.
Its not exactly a child who decides to give dummys to Santa for the baby reindeer or the easter bummy for the baby bunnies.

Most kids need a bit of 'encouragement' to move on from these things.

@DearDog96 How are things going?
Was HV helpful yesterday?

things are going ok thanks. Steady progress, lots more wees on the toilet but still a fair few accidents.

HV was super helpful and supportive. She said it wasn’t too uncommon these days for kids to struggle, and pointed me in the direction of plenty of online resources, books etc. that I could look at. She basically said though that we just need to persevere and eventually she’ll get it so that’s exactly what we’re going to do

Don’t stress too much, it can take weeks or months to click. It’s good you are getting support but don’t worry if it takes longer!

Of all the kids I know, including my own, they all “get it” (including the feeling) at different times. People tend to talk about their experiences (hence you hear about it!) if their little wonder self-trained at 23 months, less so if they spent most of aged 3-4 doing three loads of extra washing a day!