Mums with more than one boy

[Anonymous2005]

Just want to hear from other mums with 2+ boys , what are people's reactions when you tell them you have X amount of boys or planning to TTC when you already have only boys?
The other day I mentioned the possibility of twin boys and the person in front of me just looked like I was announcing someone's death.

“One person wrote in my card that they felt sorry for me that j wouldnt ever be a real mum, and I was more like a caretaker until my sons married.” @Fearfulsaints

this is actually deranged.

I have 3 grown up sons, I did get a very few comments when the third was born. Then once he was here and everyone could see how cute the boys were and happy my DH and I were any comments stopped.
Then it became a bit of a friendly joke especially as my cat is a boy too and I’m so outnumbered.
Now I find it’s the opposite from people and I’m more likely to get really nice comments such as well done you must be so proud of your boys/men.
I love it, my boys and DH treat me like the Queen of the house.

I have one of each. I did get a 'well done you' comment after I gave birth to my second and told it would make my MIL happy. Which was a stupid comment because MIL would have been totally delighted with any baby I had.

I do get a surprising number of comments about having a girl from people with just boys. I have often been told that they are glad they only have boys and then inform me of some inaccurate and annoying gender stereotype about girls. I never get the same type of comments about having a boy from anyone.

I can’t comment on the all boy front, but I can entirely empathise with you. I have 3 girls and 1 boy. I used to get horrible comments from people about how unlucky I was or they would just give me an almost sympathetic look and say something like better luck next time! It really bugged me! We did get a boy 4th time round, but DH and I really didn’t care whether it was another girl or not. We just wanted to have 4 kids regardless. Luckily my girls never noticed, but it’s just so rude to assume I think lesser of my children because of their gender!

Two adult boys. Eight years age difference. Wouldn’t have had it any other way

I had 2 boys first and my mother in law said after the second “it’s a shame it’s a boy, you could have stopped if he was a girl” 😲😲😲.

As it happens I had 2 more, 2 girls. I don’t think she could understand why I had my fourth as I already had my girl 🤯.
I didn’t get on very well with her 🤣

GBBG all within 5 years and delighted with all of them. It was full on but so worth it. They were their own gang and it often felt like a party. They’re adults now and all get on well and choose to spend time / holiday with each other and the family generally. People made comments about having 4 but it was right for us.

I have 2 boys, quite close together (2 under 2).
I got told it was "such a shame" by a random lady on the bus when I told her my bump was a second boy.
My aunt isn't much older than me, she had one of each and made it very clear she would have been incredibly unhappy in my situation.

I have four sons, no girls, all adults now. When pregnant with number 3 son people were saying I bet you want a girl this time after two boys! There were no sex scans in those days so didn't know until he was actually born that he was a boy. After he was born people were saying sorry to me that I hadn't had a girl.

Number 4 came after a 21 year age gap, again other people were really concerened I would have another boy and should want a girl!

People seem to think that having all the same sex is wrong and can never understand that I am quite happy to have sons. Even now that they are adults I will often get a comment that I must have wanted a girl at some point.

This is so awful! I’ve got one boy after a long gruelling IVF process, I literally can’t imagine caring about the baby’s sex and if we get to have a second baby I can’t imagine being disappointed to have another boy. I really genuinely don’t care.

have only had one so far the only thing I’ve had is “oh how wonderful, a boy! Girls are such hard work” - always from other women 😒 it makes me so cross. Babies are babies.

Ugh. He sounds horrible. Are they still together? Did he end up having any more dc?

All boys (in their teens now) and I was so grateful for boys. This is due to a crap relationship with my mother and not wanting to replicate that relationship/behaviour.

I was always bemused when people did head tilts that I didnt have a girl. I think DP was worried I'd be sad at not having a daughter.

Really shocked to see what people dare to say to mums! I feel like if you have nothing positive to say... just don't say anything all?!
I have been hearing a lot lately from a wider family member how amazing girls are, how her friends had girls ( and thank god the baby was a girl ...) and how that's all she wants for herself and her future family. As a mum of boys this makes me feel sad as if boys are inferior or something..

Anyhoo all that we can really do is ignore !

Quite a few people made it clear how disappointed they were on my behalf that DS2 was another boy. I think they are all absolute idiots.

I have two boys and I don’t get the negativity! So much love! They are funny and kind. My 13 year old is a proper gentleman and my youngest is like a puppy- so cute and adorable. Their boy mates are also great. Lovely lads all round. I’d have liked more if I could have !!

My DM was ‘gutted’ when my SIL had their son. I already had two boys. Over twenty years ago and never forgotten that reaction.

I had BBBG and lots of people ask if we kept going until we had a girl. No, we just wanted 4 kids. In fact we had the discussion that #4 was likely to be a boy and that it was vital that both of us were completely happy with that or we shouldn't TTC. When DD was born it didn't feel any different to having the boys (we never found out pre-birth what we were having).

I adore every one of my children, regardless of their birth sex.

I genuinely feel sorry for girls born into a situation like that because those little girls tend to grow up with huge expectations on them. Most woman I have met who say things like that want a "mini me" or "bestie" they forget these kids are little people not replicas.

I get asked a lot if we’re going to try again and I say no but if we did I’d definitely want another boy (which is true) and that normally ends the conversation 😊 I love my boys, I don’t feel like I’m missing out at all.

My preference was for DC2 to be a boy and people seemed to find that really hard to understand given I already had a boy.

I’ve just had my 3rd dc, a daughter after my two beautiful sons. I’ve already had ‘o how lovely- you’re so lucky you managed to have a girl in the end’ and said right in front of my boys which is just horrendous.
I do like having a girl of course, and we’re so in love with her already; but that’s not because of her being a girl. We had a third baby with the expectation of having a third boy and that would have been as equally magical and special for us.
I never want our boys (especially dc2) thinking we weren’t happy until we got a girl.

I have 2 boys and I did used to get the typical “so are you going to try for the elusive girl”. Even met someone at baby group when I had ds2, she had a boy the same age. When she found out he was my second boy she screwed up her face and said “ugh, I’d hate that, I hope I don’t have 2 boys”. As it happened she did have 2, stupid cow. Her ds1 is in the same class as my ds2 and I still avoid her!!

Have to say the comments don’t come now my kids are older and especially cos I’m single now.

How ridiculous!
If this family member of mine ends up with multiple boys like this woman, wonder what she'd say then....

It’s SUCH a good filter for arseholes though. Now you know to avoid that person.

I had 2 boys and when I was pregnant with DC3 it really annoyed me that people made little comments about it perhaps being a girl. They were generally just making conversation but it pissed me off so much. I honestly did get looks of pity and ‘oh I couldn’t cope with a boy’ ’I’m having a girl thank god’ from antenatal/NCT people. I always just said ‘oh I love my boys, they’re the best [ie, better than your kids], I would happily have another!’. I wanted a 3rd boy just to piss my mum off as she kept mentioning it. DC3 is a glorious girl and obviously perfection but I would have also loved 3 boys!

It’s actually offensive, especially to beautiful DS2, that people thought we were having a third ‘to get a girl’ 🤢

I have 3 boys and had the usual ‘are you/were you hoping for a girl’ - I would laugh and say no!

I did however get told I was a ‘clever girl’ by an elderly gentleman when he saw the 3 boys-nearly 30yrs ago so I’d like to think comments like this wouldn’t be made nowadays.

I don't get many negative comments but I think it's because people are already surprised when they find out I have four children so they don't take in the fact that they're all boys.