Mums with more than one boy

[Anonymous2005]

Just want to hear from other mums with 2+ boys , what are people's reactions when you tell them you have X amount of boys or planning to TTC when you already have only boys?
The other day I mentioned the possibility of twin boys and the person in front of me just looked like I was announcing someone's death.

I have had lots of will you try for a girl, like it’s in my power 😂 we have a nearly four year gap through (through choice) so I think people might think we struggled to conceive our second so we don’t get any negative comments about them both being boys

I have 3 sons,now adults. They are my pride and joy. However,when I had 3rd boy I received so many negative comments I spiralled into depression. People would tilt their head to the side and say "oh dear,better luck next time". My beautiful baby boy. I adored him and I was made to feel a complete failure. It's fucking outrageous what people think is acceptable to say.

Yeah like we can magically make a girl!! 😂

This makes me really sad. How are people so mean ?!
You have 3 amazing kids and that's what matters, all healthy and loved!

I had BGBB. I never told anyone that we were TTC so can't comment on that situation. ( Isn't that like announcing "I have unprotected sex!" ... just rather TMI? )

by the time I had 3 there were plenty of "your hands are full!" comments, when the girl was obvious in the mix.

Anyway, ppl are allowed their own opinions & even to voice them. I don't have to share or care.

Three boys and I never had much more than a passing question of would we be trying again for a girl? Just batted off with, "No thanks, the laundry pile is big enough" - end of story.

We're a long way down the line from all that now and we've had a blast raising these kids.

My first child was a girl , my second boy & girl twins .
I use to get “ oh aren’t you so lucky you had a boy “ & Thank God it wasn’t 2 girls “ !!!
People can be so weird , I don’t think they realise they sound like assholes when they say these things !

When told the news i'd just had my 3rd DD my MIL said ''oh. Never mind'' ...

people are weird and rude about boys and girls.

3 boys and had to put up with negative comments from random strangers a lot when they were younger.

Don’t get me wrong, liked the idea of a girl but happy with my three. Now older teens/adults and the two not at home ring daily and all 3 a joy.

Youngest is gay as it happens so not the same as a daughter at all but very good on skincare and clothing advice!

Loads of “oh what a pity, you won’t be able to do girly things” from people with limited brain power.
a) i’m not sexist. my kids can do the hobbies they want, we don’t limit them
b) the same parents are now surprised that their 8-13 year old girls are into tiktok and £100 skincare routines , whereas my boys love going to the theatre and one does ballet.
My kids are amazing individuals- because we treated them as such, and not as a walking stereotype.

Boy, girl, boy here. People sometimes express concern for the girl being sandwiched in the middle of brothers - but she’s more than able to handle herself. They also ask if we will have a fourth to even things out. I think people just like to say something!

This is the reaction I got to when I had my 3rd boy. My middle son nearly died at birth so neither me or dh were bothered if we hada girl or boy. Clearly other people did care. I adore my 3 boys and have no desire to have anymore kids

I have two boys. Only one person ever asked me if I was going to try again for a girl - the woman who asked also has two boys and wanted a girl!

I'm nearly 50 now and DSs are teens, so no one would ask these days 🤣

I love having boys - I'm sure I'd have loved having girls too!

I had a boy and a girl and there was consternation when I announced my next pregnancy. People will always have opinions. They should shut up.

2 boys and very happy. Thought briefly about whether we wanted a third and if I had tbh I’d have wanted another boy. Just easier with hand me downs and the 2 boys got on brilliantly as toddlers.

Honestly I think you get comments no matter what you have, unless it’s one of each. I had one of each, went on to have a third and people couldn’t understand why we would when we already had “the perfect family”. Now we’re having our 4th and we get lots of comments about how they hope it’s a girl so our family is even again, and our daughter needs a sister, which is odd because nobody thought she needed a sister when we had one of each. I can’t imagine caring at all about the sex of someone else’s child.

I have one of each and have had a few (including from my own mum 🙄) ‘you can stop now’ and ‘you won’t need to have a third now’ type comments. Like they’re a collectable set or something. People are weird.

I have three boys and had a lot of comments from people I knew -and strangers- about how difficult/noisy/ busy it must be etc etc and then a fair few lewd “don’t you have a tv” type comments as well. We then had a daughter and I got all the, “finally got a girl” comments. To be honest, I think people just like to comment on mothers whatever the size or type of family you have. My friends with 1,2,3 kids all get variations on the theme - you just can’t win! I think the only way to cope without getting cross is just to laugh it off or swear under your breath.

I have two boys. We've only had one or two jokey comments about "trying for a girl". And these were from acquaintances. So it didn't bother me.
The important people in our lives have not said anything negative about the fact we have two boys, and nothing about needing a girl / shame we didn't have a girl. I'd tell them where to go if that were the case.

I had a boy then b/g twins i got 'well at least you have 1 daughter', 'you'll have to have another to get a sister for her, poor dd having two brothers '.
I had fertility treatment for all mine (no secret) I was happy to have either. It was also not a secret after dt I couldn't have any more due to complications at birth. I often said actually it would have been easier to have all boys (bedroom sharing/age gap reasons). It never went down well. Some people are odd/dont think before they speak.

All boys here!

People were outwardly rude when I had my third boy. They are older (teens) now and people seem impressed rather than sad. I find it all a bit odd!

I always thought I wanted a girl because I’m from such a girl-heavy family and I’m really close with my mum and sister (daily group calls!), never even thought about what sort of relationship I’d have with a son because I never really saw it in my own family.

Didn’t find out what we were having because it didn’t actually matter to us and we wanted to be surprised. He’s a boy, and he is such a little darling 🥹 we’re still trying to decide if we’re going to try for a second, and whilst I would be equally delighted with a boy or a girl, I secretly hope l end up with two boys 🤫

My DH had two boys (and five brothers) when we met. It was kinda a family joke as his brothers all had just sons too. We had a boy, and he did say after we found out ‘there’s always next time’! A girl was very much hoped for, but a healthy baby was all I wanted.
My SIL though, she was told that her third was a girl so promptly went out and bought some pretty outfits. Her son consequently wore pink for the first three months! When she found out I was carrying a boy she burst in to tears - which was odd, I could just about see her reaction if I was having a girl. Anyhoo we did produce a girl the second time round!

I have 2 boys, 21 and 19. I still get pitying looks and comments about how I'm still young enough to try for a girl! Or the opposite where people fall over themselves to tell me why I don't want a girl, they are bitchy, hard work etc.

I have two boys abd if we ever tried for a third I would want a boy. Girls are too much drama