MIL bought baby boy doll with willy for my DD

[AlwaysHopefull89]

I am pregnant and expecting a baby boy. MIL (very kindly) bought a baby doll with a very obvious willy… in preparation?

I don’t think my DD who is 3 needs to understand the anatomy of her little brother yet until I say so? She hasn’t been asking about private parts yet let alone little boys?!

When I saw her she then finally said ‘I hope it was ok to give it to her’… is it just me or is this odd?

DH said it was a good idea to ‘prepare her’ but I think the opposite? Am I being a bit OTT? 🤦🏻‍♀️

I go to Church every week. Sometimes twice. I still bought my DC anatomically correct dolls, and they've seen me naked. There's nothing un-godly about the bodies God gave us.

What? Are you for real? It's perfectly natural and nothing to be ashamed of! It's not the victorian era you know!

Biology is immoral is it?!

I got my daughter two dolls one with boy bits one with girls bits when she was 2/3 nothing wrong with it. Then again I'm a very out there mom kids ask I tell them all about sex and all the other stuff in-between

(light hearted!)

Confused about the p3 assertion that giving dolls with anatomical parts is in some way "woke".... surely the doll with a universal smooth undercarriage would be the woke option?!? That would fit with a message that 'dolly could decide what it's going to be when it grows up'.

Anatomical dolls has got to be the most un-woke option available, surely?!?

If we focus in language development, as we learn words…we just learn words and attach them to something.
As a tiddler, learning ‘arm’ is no different to learning ‘vulva’. Just another word for another part of the body.

It is the adult who adds any connotation to the word.

as someone who works in early years, dolls with genitals are very common practice. I've never seen a child take the slightest bit of interest in that area of a doll, they do however love to shove them in a buggy, pretend to feed them meals out of play dough and attempt to dress them or brush/wash their hair.
I think it's a nice idea from your MIL but I really don't think your DD will care that the doll has a penis either way, she might be curious to know what it is but will quickly move on

in response to some of the other outdated/strange comments - bringing your children up in a household where they occasionally see you using the loo/getting changed is completely normal and healthy. I don't believe you should purposely try and hide any part of you from your child. This doesn't mean you go around flaunting yourself?? My little girl wouldn't see my privates being any more "shocking" or "rude" than my arm or my leg? I regularly BF my newborn infront of my 3 year old DD, going off some comments on here, should I be going into a seperate room to do this? Bizzare

in terms of keeping children safe, we have the conversation that "private's are private" - so she knows that area of her body once out of the house or around strangers, is something we keep private. She understands this as being, we close the door in public bathrooms (whilst in there with a trusted grown up, me or daddy) etc and we keep our private's private around strangers

Do you live in the 1940s?

@AmieWhineHouse I have a feeling your children are going to grow up very confused. We are what we are. Please do not hide this from your children. Anatomy has nothing to do with sex, and if you think this is all about sexualizing a babies penis, then you have a serious problem and should not be allowed to have children.

Op, you’re an idiot 😂

I’m actually surprised that any dolls do have wily’s lol I thought they wouldn’t due to all wokeness

Oh dear, that is odd!

I’m actually surprised that any dolls do have wily’s lol I thought they wouldn’t due to all wokeness

In this day and age, I’m surprised not all dolls have penis’s, with one lot dressed in boys clothing and one lot dressed in girls clothing and marketed as boy and girl dolls as they would now fit in with everything they are teaching kids.

I got one for my 2 year old boy when his little brother was born. I don't see the problem. She is going to see the baby baked after all and presumably her father.

"Woke" would be, "OK, it has a willy, but how can we possibly tell it's a boy??" 😂

This is actually very developmentally appropriate - it's recommended to teach young children about anatomy, genitalia, consent, body boundaries, with actual proper terminology too. It's only weird if you make it weird!

I disagree. I saw my mum's naked body all the time growing up. No biggie.

Good lord op how did you get pregnant, did you have a 'special cuddle '
It's REALLY important that children understand anatomy and know the correct terminology. Do you know it has been used as a defence in court cases against a*users when a child uses slang terms like flower, sausage, tinkle, they argue that it's not clear and indisputable that abuse has taken place.
Penis. It's a penis.

The language used can mean the difference between a prosecution or not, and bring raised by a buttoned up pride can instil fear and shame and make reporting abuse WAY less likely

I really don’t think that was necessary and I would not be giving it to my daughter. She will realise soon enough when the hay comes along and it will dawn on her quite naturally.

I used to be a reception class teacher, and we had anatomically correct dolls in class. It's important from a safeguarding point of view.

One day, a little boy came up to me carrying the naked boy doll in one arm, and the naked girl doll in the other.
"I know what makes boys and girls different!" He announces proudly.
"Oh yes...?" I reply, thinking "here we go."
"Yes. Look here see? The girl has much bigger eyebrows!"

You know your dd will be fascinated that her baby brother has a willy when you change his nappies and get a thousand questions.

Then theres the toddler stripping phase.

How thoughtful of your mil, no idea why you aren’t happy, hopefully just because of your hormones.

3 year olds should absolutely know the names of body parts, with the correct terms too, just like shoulders, knees, toes etc. I dont understand what all the fuss is about 😂

you'd refuse to let your child have a bit doll? would you ban a son from having a girl doll?