MIL bought baby boy doll with willy for my DD

[AlwaysHopefull89]

I am pregnant and expecting a baby boy. MIL (very kindly) bought a baby doll with a very obvious willy… in preparation?

I don’t think my DD who is 3 needs to understand the anatomy of her little brother yet until I say so? She hasn’t been asking about private parts yet let alone little boys?!

When I saw her she then finally said ‘I hope it was ok to give it to her’… is it just me or is this odd?

DH said it was a good idea to ‘prepare her’ but I think the opposite? Am I being a bit OTT? 🤦🏻‍♀️

Erm…not what op is talking about.

Erm... yeah it is.
Mum is going to have a baby boy.
Sibling gets a boy doll.

Eh???

well little girls don't have such detailed parts! plastic dolls with have the relevant markings. I'd say it's only if you get a soft bodied doll that you might have a chance of a unisex doll

I’m almost 60 and my childhood baby doll had a moulded penis.

Your overthinking is OTT.

At the same sort of age, 3/4, I wanted a doll exactly as you described, I guess as I was curious. I wanted something with anatomy different to me. My parents got one for me. No overthinking from them at all. It didn't do me any harm.

really?? my 5 year olds get dressed in the same room at bedtime, it would feel OTT to insist they dress in desperate rooms from birth and have separate baths etc. also boys just like taking their clothes off...

so when she cries because daddy touched her cookie / fairy / last night and it was hers and she didn't want him too but he said if she loves him she'll let him....?

OMG don’t do that!

NRTFT

Intrigued by the title, I jumped to the rash conclusion that 'willy' was a new form of currency, (I suppose it is in some circles) but when I enquired at the Post Office as to how many 'willies to the pound', I was met by a mixture of bewilderment and pent-up anticipation / leer. I decided to beat a hasty retreat.

I have since read the thread...

... I fear that I shall have to buy my stamps elsewhere in future.

And I shall pray for them. However luckily OP’s DD has now been saved from this sad state of deprivation.

Agree. Ignore the comment about not seeing genitals and the poster about not changing a baby in front of other kids… just not practical or logistically possible if you have a young kid and a baby….

Good god I thought attitudes like that had died out with the ark. I am 50 and my parents were totally relaxed with nudity. Come to that so was DH's grandmother ( born 1919). Where on earth did you come by your Victorian values ?

I think you’re being odd about it. It’s a boy doll what else is it going to have.

Some people are relaxed around nudity, especially when their children are young, me included. Making nudity taboo is worse than be comfortable about it, in my opinion. Nakedness itself is not sexual.

Ott ! I think it’s actually a brilliant idea I made sure both my kids fools where anatomically correct and they had boys and girls . What exactly do you have a issue with so I can try and understand

What ? Do you mean you hide away to change ? In front if a toddler ? Wow

Stop worrying. It's best that little ones have male and female dolls. They have been around for a long time and an excellent way for girls and boys see these things especially if they don't have siblings of the opposite sex. I bet your little girl won't even notice her boy doll is different. Happy birthing day when the new baby is born. Toddlers love to help with changing baby, JUST DONT LEAVE HER ALONE WITH HIM! He will be just a lovely dolly to her, to be picked up for cuddles.

But what's the OP meant to safely do with their toddler if she's on her own with both of them? Pop her other DC in a cupboard for five minutes?

You can just imagine, in school, a girl saying "Miss, John touched my cookie" and the teacher saying "get another one from the dining room" or worse, telling her that it's nothing to be upset about because the teacher thinks she's being a big baby about not wanting to eat her lunchtime biscuit after another child has touched it.

The word is "vulva".

VULVA

@MNHQ please restore the "laugh" reply.

Massively overthinking this one,OP

Some of us have morals. Some of us believe in Godly values.

So you stay in your lane and I'll stay in mine.

Some of us believe that knowingly putting children at preventable risk of molestation by withholding the factual terms for their bodies and the fact that boys and girls differ anatomically is ungodly.

Did Genesis 5:2 pass you by?
Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.

All those people my parents and DH's granny were regular church going Christians, keep God out of this it has nothing to do with religion.