MIL bought baby boy doll with willy for my DD

[AlwaysHopefull89]

I am pregnant and expecting a baby boy. MIL (very kindly) bought a baby doll with a very obvious willy… in preparation?

I don’t think my DD who is 3 needs to understand the anatomy of her little brother yet until I say so? She hasn’t been asking about private parts yet let alone little boys?!

When I saw her she then finally said ‘I hope it was ok to give it to her’… is it just me or is this odd?

DH said it was a good idea to ‘prepare her’ but I think the opposite? Am I being a bit OTT? 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think you are being OTT, she’s going to see them in real life pretty soon and it’s nothing to be ashamed of!

I think you're all overthinking it
she doesn't need to be prepared for a baby brother's genitals, but equally it doesn't matter than her new doll has a penis

It's only a willy. It wouldn't bother me, it's just a body part.

YABVU

Right I’m not going mad!! Thanks 😂

You're definitely over thinking it. Unless you're planning on removing her from the room at every nappy change/ bath time then she'll see that her new baby has different bits to her anyway.

She has seen DH and doesn’t blink an eye at all. Not questions asked. I’m over thinking 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I think its actually really clever. It is never ever to early to learn about autonomy of themselves and others and age appropriately then moving into safe touch talks. Its all a stepping stones.

She probably should have given to you though before giving it to your daughter, in case its a problem. Which clearly it is.

What are you worried is going to happen if she sees a willy on a doll?

It's perfectly fine, i expect she will see baby brother having a nappy change. So, the doll is not a bad idea.

I remember DD looking thoughtfully at her baby brother in the bath when she was about two and asking why he had a tail.

There is absolutely nothjng wrong with a baby boy doll and YABU.

Surely she didn't buy it for the willy element specifically? She just bought a male doll?

Yeah, you are over thinking it OP.

It’s really no big deal. I think it’s good for your dd to have a baby doll with a realistic anatomy. It might cause more confusion if she got a baby boy doll with nothing there and then saw her baby brother

I bought my DD a similar doll before her little brother was born. I thought she might like to have a baby doll to "look after" while I was looking after the baby, and it would be nice if her baby looked like mine 🤷 it's not that deep.

Yes I wouldn’t want that, I don’t think baby girl dolls have such detailed parts do they? I don’t really change baby in front of the other children, can’t stand those books or tv shows that make a huge fuss over nappy changes and saying how stinky it is etc. It’s very vulgar and you wouldn’t talk like that if it was an elderly or disabled person having their incontinence pad changed. kids don’t need to have anything to do with nappy changes

She shouldn’t be seeing either of your genitals 😡

@AlwaysHopefull89 , one of the hardest parts of being a parent for me was the gradual realisation that I could not protect my babies from everything in the world. That paled into insignificance however compared to understanding that I had to let them go.

Don’t be ridiculous 🙄.

Jesus get a life DH took her to the toilet in a cubicle!! Rather that than allow her to stand outside on her own at 3!! Ridiculous comment.

This is what I am realising I think.

Ignore this one, OP

Ignored! I was waiting for something like this 🤦🏻‍♀️

For the Willy element specifically I think… DD has loads of dolls already but without a willy element (not delibrate just the ones she wanted over Xmas and birthdays)

My ds is the same age and has known all the correct language for male and female anatomy for a while now. It's actually really important from a safeguarding perspective that children know the correct language as early as possible and that you as a parent teach that rather than waiting for them to ask. It goes hand in hand with them learning about body privacy and consent, both for themselves and for others. It also tied in naturally with potty training.