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AlwaysHopefull89 · 2025-12-06T23:12:11+00:00

I am pregnant and expecting a baby boy. MIL (very kindly) bought a baby doll with a very obvious willy… in preparation? I don’t think my DD who is 3 needs to understand the anatomy of her little brother yet until I say so? She hasn’t been asking about private parts yet let alone little boys?! When I saw her she then finally said ‘I hope it was ok to give it to her’… is it just me or is this odd? DH said it was a good idea to ‘prepare her’ but I think the opposite? Am I being a bit OTT? 🤦🏻♀️

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ElaineBurdock · 07/12/2025 01:33

Ringarose · 06/12/2025 23:18

Yes I wouldn’t want that, I don’t think baby girl dolls have such detailed parts do they? I don’t really change baby in front of the other children, can’t stand those books or tv shows that make a huge fuss over nappy changes and saying how stinky it is etc. It’s very vulgar and you wouldn’t talk like that if it was an elderly or disabled person having their incontinence pad changed. kids don’t need to have anything to do with nappy changes

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You make some really good points. If poor old grandpa was having his pads/diaper changed, you wouldn't have little children watching, would you. If it was me, I certainly wouldn't want my grandchildren gathered around and being grossed out by it. It should be private as possible, no matter the age.

Shedeboodinia · 07/12/2025 01:40

Surely it's just the most basic fact of life that some people and mammals are male and some are female and that the males have a penis.
They don't have to know all the functions of a penis at that age but its ok to know they exist.

HoneychurchLucy · 07/12/2025 01:45

In the 70’s there was tiny tears and tiny Tim dolls with parts…it’s not new

LivingTheDreamish · 07/12/2025 02:00

Yes a bit odd OP but not worth betting too bothered over. I expect MIL is just looking forward to the new baby and got a bit over excited.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 07/12/2025 02:04

AlwaysHopefull89 · 06/12/2025 23:20

Jesus get a life DH took her to the toilet in a cubicle!! Rather that than allow her to stand outside on her own at 3!! Ridiculous comment.

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He was urinating with her there?!

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 07/12/2025 02:12

CheeseIsMyIdol · 07/12/2025 02:04

He was urinating with her there?!

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The alternative is that she stands outside the cubicle, aged three, in the gents. We lack appropriate public toileting options for dads with their daughters, so this guy has done his best. He can tell her to turn her back whilst Daddy wees, but if she sneaks a peek, he's still got to go.

OSTMusTisNT · 07/12/2025 02:13

To be fair, if my MIL had ever mentioned anything about willies in my company I would probably cringe for about 6 months. Still haven't got over her telling me and the other DIL about FIL's erectile dysfunction and they had to do 'other stuff', this was about 20 years ago and FIL was in his 70's 😳.

Your DD will be fine with the doll, probably won't even question it.

thirdfiddle · 07/12/2025 02:13

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 07/12/2025 02:12

The alternative is that she stands outside the cubicle, aged three, in the gents. We lack appropriate public toileting options for dads with their daughters, so this guy has done his best. He can tell her to turn her back whilst Daddy wees, but if she sneaks a peek, he's still got to go.

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... and sees every chap who comes in to use the urinal instead 😂

SweetnsourNZ · 07/12/2025 02:26

Ringarose · 06/12/2025 23:18

Yes I wouldn’t want that, I don’t think baby girl dolls have such detailed parts do they? I don’t really change baby in front of the other children, can’t stand those books or tv shows that make a huge fuss over nappy changes and saying how stinky it is etc. It’s very vulgar and you wouldn’t talk like that if it was an elderly or disabled person having their incontinence pad changed. kids don’t need to have anything to do with nappy changes

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Early childhood centres here have atomically correct dolls so yes you can get girl dolls with detailed parts.

BobblyBobbleHat · 07/12/2025 02:35

Your mil sounds rather kind and thoughtful to me.

Chickensky · 07/12/2025 02:58

Shedeboodinia · 07/12/2025 01:40

Surely it's just the most basic fact of life that some people and mammals are male and some are female and that the males have a penis.
They don't have to know all the functions of a penis at that age but its ok to know they exist.

Exactly this! And most toddlers just get on with it without any of our adult knowledge of the function and all that comes with that. Unless you think anything is a risk to them then these are just body parts.

I think we are wise to teach children the correct terms for anatomy with no shame or prudishness attached.

JanitorLaidlaw · 07/12/2025 03:24

I do care about these things and would have taken the doll straight off your daughter and told the MIL it was inappropriate. But I don't subscribe to this woke let it all hang out and keep nothing from children from the outset nonsense.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 07/12/2025 03:30

JanitorLaidlaw · 07/12/2025 03:24

I do care about these things and would have taken the doll straight off your daughter and told the MIL it was inappropriate. But I don't subscribe to this woke let it all hang out and keep nothing from children from the outset nonsense.

It's not "woke" to give a child accurate information about her and her brother's biology. Unless you think that a girl being able to name where a boy groped her or what a paedo man showed her is "woke". Knowledge empowers girls.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 07/12/2025 03:42

Not too young. I've been teaching my dc about anatomy since they were babies. Doll was appropriate.

Isayitasitis · 07/12/2025 03:43

Not helpful at all but I'm sorry, this is such a funny thing to get angry about.

Do you also want no barbies with breasts?

SpidersAreShitheads · 07/12/2025 03:59

JanitorLaidlaw · 07/12/2025 03:24

I do care about these things and would have taken the doll straight off your daughter and told the MIL it was inappropriate. But I don't subscribe to this woke let it all hang out and keep nothing from children from the outset nonsense.

Dear god.

It’s not woke, why are you making this weirdly political?!

There have been boy dolls since forever. And you know they’re boy dolls and not girl dolls because….they have a willy.

Generally there’s very little details, just moulded plastic that looks vaguely like a willy - not an actual appendage that waggles around 😂

I have boy/girl twins - 16 years ago my dad bought them a doll each. DS wanted a boy and DD wanted a girl so that’s what we had, complete with willy on the boy doll.

Kids don’t really care that much if you handle it right. It’s no ruder than a doll having plastic butt cheeks (which they do).

Allswellthatendswelll · 07/12/2025 04:06

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 06/12/2025 23:18

@AlwaysHopefull89 , one of the hardest parts of being a parent for me was the gradual realisation that I could not protect my babies from everything in the world. That paled into insignificance however compared to understanding that I had to let them go.

What kind of hideous truth do you think children need to be protected from? Basic biological differences? Surely that's something children should know? Just like they know we have elbows or a stomach.

Three year old DS asked pretty quickly why baby DD didn't have a penis and I just said "she's a girl and girls have a vulva instead". It's just a basic fact of life and as pp have said using the correct names is actually really important from a safeguarding pov.

A small child isn't going to think a doll with a penis is sexual because they don't have any frame of reference for it in that way. They will just think "oh that looks like my baby brother". Unless people are really advocating covert nappy changes so that children don't learn that different sexes have different anatomy. Which sounds like a terrible idea to me.

Happyasshaunthesheep · 07/12/2025 04:07

Kids love to copy their Parents doing daily tasks. I think it will help her bond with her baby Brother if she plays nappy changing with her doll alongside her Mummy changing her Brother.

Pinkchristmastree1 · 07/12/2025 04:11

We had baby wee wee ,he was ace ...he did actually wee ,his penis moved up and down as well.

How kind and thoughtful of mil
I'd be happy with that gift

Wilfulignoranceabounds · 07/12/2025 04:14

JanitorLaidlaw · 07/12/2025 03:24

I do care about these things and would have taken the doll straight off your daughter and told the MIL it was inappropriate. But I don't subscribe to this woke let it all hang out and keep nothing from children from the outset nonsense.

…and how are you defining “woke”? So many words in the English language at your disposal and you take one with a positive meaning and use it disparagingly. Smh.

Katemax82 · 07/12/2025 04:57

My sister gave my daughter an anatomically correct baby boy doll as a toddler. She was fine with it (I think MIL found it offensive though)

icebearforpresident · 07/12/2025 05:03

It’s great that your MIL has bought a kind gift of her own baby boy for your DD given she is going to have a brother of her own soon. Her baby will look like your baby and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I looked after my friends 2 year old boy/girl twins for the day a few weeks ago and because my friend is superwoman both of them are toilet trained. When I was helping them off the toilet after they had peed I asked them both what they did next and he answered ‘wipe my penis’ while she said ‘clean my vulva’. My friend works in child protection and her mum was a health visitor so it shouldn’t surprise me that they know the correct terms for their body but it did.

Children knowing the correct terms for their body isn’t ‘woke’, it’s basic knowledge and crucial for their safety. Those of us who grew up with ‘winkies’ and other twee nicknames for our genitals need to get over ourselves.

Ginagogo · 07/12/2025 05:49

AlwaysHopefull89 · 06/12/2025 23:14

Right I’m not going mad!! Thanks 😂

You absolutely are

Ginagogo · 07/12/2025 05:51

JanitorLaidlaw · 07/12/2025 03:24

I do care about these things and would have taken the doll straight off your daughter and told the MIL it was inappropriate. But I don't subscribe to this woke let it all hang out and keep nothing from children from the outset nonsense.

You sound like a total loser

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 07/12/2025 05:57

My DM did the same for my DD when I was pregnant with DS. She was 3 at the time and it was a great idea. It was very funny that she referred to DS and DH having “a 1 and a 0”. Took us a while to work that one out. 😂

She’s now 5 and uses the word penis because that’s what we call it. 🤷‍♀️

MIL bought baby boy doll with willy for my DD

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