Does anyone actually like their MIL?

[Stillhoping1990]

Just that really. Is there anyone out there who actually enjoys seeing their in laws and never had any issues with their MIL? I’m yet to meet anyone like this

I really like my in laws. Very nice helpful people. I have a very different background to them, so it sometimes feels like there’s a gulf of understanding/ lack of shared experiences, but we sometimes have a lot of fun. They help us out with the kids, which has been an absolute blessing. My MiL in particular is completely non-interfering. She finds people who stick their oar into other peoples decisions and business very irritating herself so wouldn’t do it to us.

I love mine, and have a much closer relationship than with my own mother.

I also have an ex MIL who I was very good to but as soon as I split up with her son, she spent the next 20 years slagging me off to anyone who would listen. She’s very ill and elderly now and is silent due to the illness, finally, a little less toxicity being spewed into the world, essentially because her son was a revolting man who got what he deserved.

Just remembering that my extremely introverted Mum always said her very gentle and private MIL, my granny, was her best friend. They had a beautiful relationship of unspoken understanding (especially about my Dad…)

My in laws are wonderful!

My MIL is great. She adores my husband and children (and probably me ;-)) and she brought DH up beautifully so he is a good man and competent adult even though he was so ill at points in his childhood he wasn't expected to live more than 6 months, let alone 40 years.

I like my mil more than my mum.
My in-laws are our "safe house" when ever life gets overwhelming they either come to us or we go to them and they look after us.
She sees me as a woman and a mum and a human not just the person that gave me grandchildren like my mum does.
She cares about my health and needs and wellbeing. I care about hers too.
We go on holiday with them every year.
My partner was travelling recently and they came to visit and I happily spent most of the week with them. Both mil and fil are easy to be around. I've been on day trips with them and my daughter when my partner was in work.

Yes, mine is lovely and I’m very lucky, she’s a total gem!

No so many of us are struggling to even like their own mothers lol

Yes, much more than my own mother. She’s not perfect but she’s who I go to when I need mothering, as my own mother was never very interested in that

Yes, I was very fond of mine (she died in January and I do miss her). She had a very absurd sense of humour which her son and I also share.

Mine was lovely and FIL was also great (and heavy handed with the gin!). I miss them.

My late mil was lovely. Very kind and helpful. She was old fashioned in her ways.
She was 93 when she died and the church was packed with the children she helped look after (dinner lady)

I absolutely adore mine, she’s the heart of the family. I pray for a similar relationship with my future daughter in-law. I’d be friends with her anyway if we knew each other as unrelated people, we’ve got plenty in common, but the fact I’m part of her family is icing on the cake.

Sadly no. She's an archetypal Jewish mother who thinks nobody is good enough for her beloved boys and hates both the women her sons married - both non Jewish and both of us "career women" by which she means we were never SAHMs. Thankfully, both DH and BIL left her immediate orbit to go to uni as soon as they could and never returned home!

However. She does dote on her grandchildren and has been a loving if slightly neurotic grandmother, and hasn't held their mothers against them! Teenage DC find her a bit challenging these days, but I encourage them to be kind to her (sometimes through gritted teeth!)

Yes me. She’s lovely.

Yes, definitely. I choose to spend time with her even without dh. And my mum is very close to her MIL too.

Not me!

My mil is amazing I adore her

No.

I love my mil. She's very different to my own mum who I adore but I love the fact that I have 2 strong, powerful, different women in my life. My 2 DC adore both of them with DD leaning more towards my mum and DS leaning more towards MIL if push came to shove but were all very close

@ mine died suddenly a few years ago. Awful woman. She was very odd, cold, unfair, had her favourite child, to the exclusion of all others. She hated me and made sure she ruined my special days, my wedding day, the births of each of my children. Barged into the delivery room when I was in transition and plonked herself there causing my labour to stall. I could write a book..

I love my MIL and we go on holiday with her and FIL almost every year.

My first MIL - now that's a different story entirely, over 30 years divorced from her husband but wouldn't speak to my then DH because he wouldn't go no contact with his Dad and also hasn't spoken to my DC (her grandchildren) for almost 20 years now

Bitter and twisted does't even come close

My lovley MiL died a few years ago now, but we had a wonderful relationship and I miss her still.

I like my MIL. She drives me mad sometimes but thats ok, so did my own mother! I mean, I wouldn't choose her as a friend spontaneously but we get on and I'm quite happy to spend time with her. Like someone upthread said, I think we both make an effort to see each other's perspective and respect each other and so we have a mostly good relationship. And shes a lovely granny and her and DH are close.

I dont think she was a very good mum. But I think that had a lot to do with how and where she was and lots.of.other factors so I mostly dont let it bother me.

Mine was nicer than my own mother , never ill intentioned though quite self obsessed - but harmless really .