Does anyone actually like their MIL?

[Stillhoping1990]

Just that really. Is there anyone out there who actually enjoys seeing their in laws and never had any issues with their MIL? I’m yet to meet anyone like this

Yes, in fact I actually love them. I’ll be devastated when they die. They’re very different to me and very much an older generation but I look up to them and respect them.

There was a very difficult family fall out 20 years ago but we came through that. I think it made the relationship stronger in the long run.

Nope

I love my MIL and wish I could see her more (we see her about every 2 or 3 weeks).

Mine is lovely. She's been in my life for 30 years now. My parents are both dead. She's never overstepped, or interfered.
My FIL died a couple of years ago, and he was lovely too.
They have always made me feel welcome, and were every supportive when my dad died quite suddenly.
We see MIL about once a week. I enjoy her company and hope that if I become a MIL myself, I can follow her example.

Yes I both like and admire her. She’s 91, has a better memory than me and a great social life, even though she’s got some health issues now. When I first married DH I found her a bit stiff and formal compared to my own mother, but as time has gone on she’s become more relaxed. And she was absolutely brilliant when my mum died of cancer in her early 70s -she didn't rush in to try to take her place but was just there, quietly, in the background giving me support. I will be very sad when she’s no longer around ( same for my FIL).

I love mine. She is kind, patient, and a wonderful lady who has never made me feel anything other than completely welcome and part of the family. My DH gets on brilliantly with my parents, too. I feel very lucky that we don't have the kind of friction that you often hear about with in-law relationships.

DH isn't keen on her, she's OK, my FiL was a sweetheart

My MIL is great! I feel very lucky to have had none of the MIL issues I've read about on here. I think my DH would say he's pretty happy with his MIL (ie my mum) too.

I love mine.

I get on with my MIL better than my own mum.

I'm lucky!

It's really just the luck of the draw.

I love my MiL. My DH jokes she loves me more than him. I've been married for 20 years and we have never had a cross word. MiL and FiL have always treated my DC from my first marriage exactly the same as their biological grandchildren and for that alone I love them both. My MiL reads a lot and keeps all the books she had read for me. She tells DH he married well and to look after me. They took my DC for a week every summer, both took a week off from work and took my DC somewhere lovely every day. They live by the seaside. FiL spent hours with my youngest DS showing him how to make a bird box and a wooden planter that DS gifted me as birthday gifts. FiL has died now but he was the best grandad a child could have. My DC are adults now and MiL is 84 but both my DS's drive over 150 miles and 60 miles to visit my MiL about once every 8-10 weeks. They take her out to buy an ice cream or take her a mini fish and chips. She is always so happy to see them. I tease DH I married him to get nice in-laws. My first MiL was a bitch from hell so I was so happy to get nice in-laws from my second marriage. MiL still insists on making DH, me and my DC a Xmas stocking each Xmas.

I love mine and consider her a close friend. She's got 3 sons and all 3 daughters in law feel the same - she's treasured by all of us for always being there for us when we need her and being a good, kind hearted person who is a joy to have around. I regularly go to her for advice but she'd never dream of offering it unsolicited, which I think must be key to that relationship. I can't imagine I'll manage to be quite as diplomatic when it's my turn to be an MIL and that thought worries me occasionally!

I'm going away for the weekend with my MIL, DH's first MIL (he was widowed), my exes Mum, my SIL (BIL's wife) and my exes SIL (his brother's wife).

Us three "young ones" (all 45+) have been joking we're going on a MIL training camp as they are all amazing!

I had shit parents so my in laws have all been a lesson on what family is meant to be like.

Im the mil! Id be mortified if I thought mu 2 dils hated me. 😀

Yes this is sad but I find my own mother like this, so it is about aging I think and not in laws

My wonderful MIL died around 12 years ago. She was an incredible woman and I still miss her.

I love her to bits. She is amazing.

I'm lucky enough to have two lovely MILs! I'm still close to my first one, enen though I divorced her son 9 years ago. I see her every couple of weeks and she evens come to stay with me and DH. She's a wonderful lady.
New MIL I also get on really well with and we meet for lunch and message regularly.

Yes! But she wasn’t a huge presence in our lives (she’s passed sway almost two years ago at 90). My late DH had a love/hate relationship with her and she wasn’t one to ask us over but seemed happy if we suggested going to theirs for lunch or tea (we asked them to ours too but they’d rather we went to them), though the response was always ‘I’ll let you know’ rather than ‘of course’! But she hated my DH’s ex and liked me. My DH loved my parents. They all got on tremendously- better than he did with his own parents!

Mine is dead but I love SIL and BIL who are 20 years older than me so fill a similar role.

I was engaged before and my MIL-to-be was the most horrible person I've ever met.

I love my MIL. Prefer her to my own Mum! She stayed with us for 2 weeks after 2nd child was born. SIL is not talking to her and I cannot fathom why!. My Mum was a bit shit when we were young and I’ve not really gone any length the of time without talking to her. DH says he and his siblings were brought up with nothing but love and respect.
i also adore my sons girlfriend of 4 years and don’t feel any competition. Just see how much she adds to his life and how good she is for him. We joke that we will need counselling if they ever break up.. it’s probably true though! They’re young and at Uni so they might not last forever.

Mine is great!
I love hanging out with her - she’s my person to drink tequila and go to concerts with!!

Yes I like mine. She's not perfect but then neither am I. Out of all my friends parents and in-laws I think I have the best one.

I so wanted to love my MIL - I don’t dislike her, she’s fine but I think I had high expectations. There is v little warmth and affection- mostly the relationship is on her terms . The DS’s like her but it’s not the same as with my mum who they adore.

NO

I loved my MIL very much. We had a few issues along the way, we are both strong personalities, but fundamentally we wanted the best for each other, Dh and ds. She was a fabulous artist with so much talent (not her career) and really encouraged that in ds. She knew living with Dh was difficult and always said I was one in a million and supported me.

It was interesting and a bit sad that in her early stages of dementia there was a patch when she forgot to worry any more. And then I realised how many of the things I found tricky about her were in fact because she worried about everything so much. Too much responsibility too young. Her ‘dementia personality’ was all smiles and kindness.