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Does anyone actually like their MIL?

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Stillhoping1990 · 28/10/2025 20:23

Just that really. Is there anyone out there who actually enjoys seeing their in laws and never had any issues with their MIL? I’m yet to meet anyone like this

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FatCatPyjamas · 28/10/2025 20:49

I loved mine, and she loved me. Even when exh and I went our separate ways, we maintained a lovely relationship until she died 18 months later. She was also very lovely to exh's new partner who he went on to marry after her death.

DappledThings · 28/10/2025 20:49

Yep, she's lovely. And good company and a brilliant grandmother. I like my brother's MIL too, as does he and I'm pretty sure SIL likes my mum as well. It's pretty normal for families to not be difficult.

Pallisers · 28/10/2025 20:50

I love mine and would do anything for her. All her daughters in law feel the same.

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MrsStig · 28/10/2025 20:54

Yes, but her husband (not DHs dad) is a massive bell end who has an huge impact on her, and so we tend to avoid them both. She’s fine on her own, but it’s difficult to get her on her own. DH has said we’d fully support her if she wanted a divorce. She says she doesn’t want a divorce as she’s financially comfortable as she is. And so we continue to avoid them both for our own sanity.

FrostAtMidnight · 28/10/2025 20:59

Yes I loved mine although she wasn't easy - extremely intelligent, successful and high-powered, not much interest in her own children growing up or in grandchildren (except to be presented to her and then fuck off 😂). The key was accepting her as a person and not judging her against some notion of what a MIL/granny should be.

Notateacheranymore · 28/10/2025 21:01

Mine is ace, and DH loved my mum too. Based on what I have heard/read about some MIL’s/FIL’s/PIL’s, we’ve both been lucky.

She and FIL emigrated to the Canaries in 2009, and we can happily stay with them for 2 weeks without any issues. My younger SIL though, is rather irritating, but even so, there’s no malice. DH thinks she’s irritating too.

FIL passed in July 2019, and he’s left a huge hole in all their lives, not least because PIL’s were only 15 months away from their Golden Wedding. I know MIL is finding it really hard that her and PIL’s siblings are now celebrating their 50th’s.

Whatshesaid96 · 28/10/2025 21:03

Love my MIL
If I'd met her as not my MIL I'd want to meet again and hang out.

When I'd had cancer surgery once my mum went home my MIL was on the train for 5 hours to take over.

DiscoNights · 28/10/2025 21:07

I don’t like my MIL at all, and I feel quite unlucky to have a MIL like her. She’s manipulative, she lies, and she seems very jealous of my relationship with my husband. It makes me sad because I did hope to have a good relationship with her, and I’ve put a lot of effort into it.

Craftysue · 28/10/2025 21:09

My parents in law were lovely people. They died a few years ago now and I still miss them both

GoldenNuggets08 · 28/10/2025 21:12

Love my MIL!!!!! Hate my SIL though.

Andsoitbeganagain · 28/10/2025 21:15

It's a no from me

MedievalNun · 28/10/2025 21:17

I absolutely adored my MiL of 30 years. We lost her to cancer a few weeks back and I still can’t get my head around the fact I can’t just call to talk to her.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 28/10/2025 21:18

Mine is the most incredible woman.

Perplexin · 28/10/2025 21:20

My ex-MIL was lovely!

My current MIL is an absolute fruit loop.

Theseventhmagpie · 28/10/2025 21:31

No, can’t abide mine. Only see her once a year and that’s too often 😂

LibbyOTV · 28/10/2025 21:34

I love mine. She's funny, kind, authentic and models a lot of the stuff i want to be myself. Apart from that i can also see all the ways that she raised DH well and to be accepting and anti sexist

FreidaMaxwellThrillersaremysanity · 28/10/2025 21:46

Cannot stand her

ScarlettSunset · 28/10/2025 21:47

My in laws with my exh were awful. Terrible, horrible people. They were so judgemental and nasty. Not having to have anything to do with them anymore was an extra bonus when I kicked exh out.

Many years on from that and have been with my new partner for well over ten years, and his parents were so wonderful and welcoming, and I never would have believed I would be with someone who had such kind and fabulous parents. It has been a true blessing to have them in my life.

firstofallimadelight · 28/10/2025 21:48

Mine is hard work but could be worse

AleaEim · 28/10/2025 21:50

cant stand mine!

CoucouCat · 28/10/2025 21:51

Yes I love my MIL. We’ve had our moments but she has mellowed, and I have mellowed, and we share mutual adoration of her son and my kids. So it’s a love in!

Cynic17 · 28/10/2025 21:54

Mine died many years ago, but I really liked her.
Whereas my own mother was awful.

Rubes24 · 28/10/2025 22:07

Yes my MIL is great! She is funny and interesting and very similar to my DH. She is also a great Granny and I love her more because I see her in my kids. ❤️

Moveoverdarlin · 28/10/2025 22:08

Loathe her.

trainkeepsgoing · 28/10/2025 22:12

Yes, mine’s great!