Young / average / old motherhood

[Lacatrina]

What would you consider is young to have a child, average to have a child and old to have a child.

Genuinely just interested. I would say 31 and under is quite young. 32-38 very average. 39+ starting to get into older category. But I'm SW London so aware these figures are totally unrepresentative of the whole picture

The thong covers the bum crack, that much is obvious. Saying they are awful is just childish, literally everyone has one, it’s just a body part.

And it’s they’re not there.

But they are awful in my opinion. So if anyone disagrees with you they are childish ok

whats your ass doing on my beach towel ? ….!!
seriously …you know I don’t wear it to dinner 🤭

20, 25 and 37. Wouldn’t have considered 37 old before but I do now 8 years later! Add peri menopause in and it’s tough going!
So:
18-25 young
25-34 average
34+ knocking on a bit 😂
there are actual statistics though. I think 35+ is considered more high risk so generally accepted as older?

But really it all depends on the person doesn’t it? I’ve known some very good mothers aged under 20 and some very poor ones in their late 20’s, we’re all different.

No, your opinion is childish. Maybe you are a child though 🤷‍♀️

Under 18 - too young
Under 23 - young
24-35 - normal
Over 35 - older

Pool bars, sun loungers

Ok

Seriously you have nothing to worry about 😉 I promise, you will never have to come in contact with anywhere my ass has been. Just to clarify I would wear a sarong sitting at a beach bar.

I have two young girls , I hope I succeed in teaching them not to judge others by their clothing choices. It’s sad that women are often so scathing about other women, especially over something so trivial.

I had my first at 28 which with hindsight seems ridiculously young. I had my other children at 32 & 36 which feels much more normal.

i would say under 30 young
30-40 average
40-43 older
43+ old

See I felt very ready, emotionally, by 28. I had travelled heaps by then, partied hard, got a heap of letters after my name and a career I loved. I had my first at 29 and it felt just right. My second at 32. I had severe hyperemesis both times so stopped at two.

I absolutely love being a mum. My children are teens now and I still love it, and they are epic teens.

I also love my career but I've woven that around the children and still climbed the career ladder working part time.

And I still managed to travel and have fun with the children, I don't get the idea you have to get "life" done first. We've travelled all over together

I felt totally ready at 28. I had a career, a house etc but with hindsight I wonder what the rush was. I started before most of my friends and looking back I would have done 32,34,36. I adore being a mum I loved it from the moment I had my first but I look back and think we should have waited a bit longer. Having kids at 32 & 36 felt totally right. 28 just feels so young looking back.

This.

No hate. I just said own it. 30+ is in no way shape or form a "young mum" it's not factual.

You weren't "ridiculously young" hope that helps.

I would say under 22 is young, 22-38 average, 38-45 older 45+ old and 50+ would be exceptionally old

Have to agree, I had my first at 18 and 28 is much older, when I had one at 35 I thought I was ancient 🤣 then I’ve had one at 44 which feels like miracle and has been absolutely wonderful

Under 25- young
26- 34- average
35+- older

Was pregnant at 29, and had my first at 30. Will try for my second when I'm around 32/33. Want to be done by the time I'm 35.

Young I’d say is under 26. Average is 27-36 (concentrated at 29-32). Old would be 37+.

SE affluent commuter belt just based on people's perceptions

For first child I'd say

Under 30- young

31-37 average

38+ older

My not group were on average about 34/35 for 1st baby and 36/37 for second. I feel like 37/38 is a bigger cliff edge than 35 fertilitywise.

In a different area 5/10 miles away it could easily be 5 years younger for all of these!

I guess that's where everyone feels different. I never felt the need to do things at the same time as my friends/peers. I've always struck my own path. And I kept my old friends and made new mum friends of every age.

I always wanted children and I felt really ready. And it's great because my parents (although also highly educated professionals) had me young too. So my teens now get to ski and sail and climb mountains with me and their grandparents and will probably even get to do that with their grandparents as adults all being well.

If people just don't feel ready, that's different, it's probably better to wait and gamble with biology than be a reluctant parent. But if you are ready, why postpone and gamble?

But if you have a baby at 30 and all your friends wait until 37 you are going to feel like a younger mum. Ditto if you are 27 and everyone in your nct is 35.

You may feel that way. But it doesn't make it right.

I went to some baby groups where I assumed half the people there were the babies grandparents . I was 29 and I guess they were 10 years older. I also looked very young for my age (good skin!), so I expect they assumed I was about 20. It didn't matter, I made some good friends with the non judgy ones of all ages, and handful of ones that treated me like a teen mum got a shock when they finally figured out I earnt at least as much as them and was highly qualified.

No way would I gamble with biology just to not be the youngest at NCT! It was fine. I've always had friends of all ages anyway.

I agree. It’s funny some posters are trying to convince themselves they are not older mothers - hospitals telling them they only consider 40+ to be an older mother now and another being told by their midwife that 36 was ‘like a teenage pregnancy in their area’. As if.
You chose to have children at an older age and that’s fine but you can’t change biology, they are still classed as geriatric pregnancies and no amount of jogging and cycling is going to change that.