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Unfortunately can’t go on holiday because of cruise lines policy

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CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 11:24

Hi all,

just wanted other peoples opinions please as it’s really getting to me.
So a cruise was booked for my dads partners 70th all paid for by him as he wanted us all to go, which was extremely generous from the start.
A few days ago we found out I can no longer go as will be 24 weeks pregnant and the cruise line won’t accept pregnant ladies at 24 weeks pregnant or more.
Very upset and disappointed by the news but stated my partner and our son along with my 2 girls from a previous relationship could all still go which only leaves me missing out.
Partner then states he wouldn’t be taking our 2 year old son as he would be too much hassle and wouldn’t be able to enjoy himself and relax, his he grandad who paid for the holiday also agrees with this. I am very upset and saddened that my little boy would be such an inconvenience to them.
Also to add to this my father in law decides to invite his friends instead which also means my girls missing out too. I know he paid for all this so it’s his decision but still upsetting to let them down.
So basically now my partner is still going, along with his father in law, wife and his friends and me, my son and my girls are left at home on a holiday we were supposed to go on.
Am I being unreasonable to kick up a fuss about this? How would other people feel?

Thank you in advance

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party4you · 21/07/2025 17:47

CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 17:44

@party4youit doesn’t need to be adults only though is my point! My 2 year old can still go, there are no strict rules, only those choosing not to take him

But it’s you FILs birthday and he wants it to be adults only!!!!!

like I said, either just your partner goes or no one goes. Easy.

250mlmax · 21/07/2025 17:48

Petitchat · 21/07/2025 17:36

You don't get it either!

OP's NOT jealous.
She's upset because none of the kids are going now.
That's not jealousy....

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Just because she's upset, doesn't mean her FIL and partner are being dicks.

It can be disappointing and at the same time also no one's fault.

It's unfortunate, but it would be inappropriate and unsafe for her two older girls to go without her. And, being honest, no one wants to go on a cruise with a bunch of adults and a two year old. There's no way id've taken any of mine on a cruise on my own when they were two. It would've been stressful and shit. Why make it stressful and shit for her partner just to prove a point?

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CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 17:49

@party4youhe changed it to an adults holiday, it’s not the law! My partner can still take his son

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party4you · 21/07/2025 17:49

CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 17:49

@party4youhe changed it to an adults holiday, it’s not the law! My partner can still take his son

that would disrespectful considering his dad paid. Why is that so hard to get your head around?

party4you · 21/07/2025 17:50

@CAMO1984 and why do you want your 2 year old to be on an adults holiday where they’re more than likely going to be drinking etc?!

Kjpt140v · 21/07/2025 17:52

McSpoot · 21/07/2025 11:48

I assumed that the mix up happened at the beginning and should have stated that her partner's father paid for the trip (not her father's partner). The rest of the story doesn't really make sense if it is her father's birthday trip.

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Correct. The story is about her father-in-law paying for the trip.

Tiddlywinkly · 21/07/2025 17:55

StellaAndCrow · 21/07/2025 11:33

I'm sorry. It shows what they expected your role on the holiday to be!

This

LondonLady1980 · 21/07/2025 18:02

party4you · 21/07/2025 17:47

But it’s you FILs birthday and he wants it to be adults only!!!!!

like I said, either just your partner goes or no one goes. Easy.

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The only reason it is now an adults only trip is because OP’s partner said he didn’t want to take the two year old.

Ergo, if he’d been a decent father, and a decent man and just got on with it, then he and all 3 children would be going.

But instead he was a pathetic and selfish twat, he said he wouldn’t take the two year old, his dad then jumped on the band wagon and decided to cast off the other two older children too and then made it adults-only.

MustWeDoThis · 21/07/2025 18:06

CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 11:24

Hi all,

just wanted other peoples opinions please as it’s really getting to me.
So a cruise was booked for my dads partners 70th all paid for by him as he wanted us all to go, which was extremely generous from the start.
A few days ago we found out I can no longer go as will be 24 weeks pregnant and the cruise line won’t accept pregnant ladies at 24 weeks pregnant or more.
Very upset and disappointed by the news but stated my partner and our son along with my 2 girls from a previous relationship could all still go which only leaves me missing out.
Partner then states he wouldn’t be taking our 2 year old son as he would be too much hassle and wouldn’t be able to enjoy himself and relax, his he grandad who paid for the holiday also agrees with this. I am very upset and saddened that my little boy would be such an inconvenience to them.
Also to add to this my father in law decides to invite his friends instead which also means my girls missing out too. I know he paid for all this so it’s his decision but still upsetting to let them down.
So basically now my partner is still going, along with his father in law, wife and his friends and me, my son and my girls are left at home on a holiday we were supposed to go on.
Am I being unreasonable to kick up a fuss about this? How would other people feel?

Thank you in advance

Wtf...so, he's not too much hassle for a pregnant woman to look after alone, but he's too much hassle for a man to look after!? What the actual fuck...I've seen some shitty things regarding partners on here...I honestly feel like some of you just settle, when you could do far better.

Nope.

I would be changing the locks while he's gone. Selfish pig.

NewGoldFox · 21/07/2025 18:08

If I were in your shoes I would be feeling very sorry for myself and my teen daughters. I don’t think the 2 yo will miss out and will probably prefer to stay home with you and everything he knows.

Think you’re quite right to be thinking of sorting out a holiday for you and the girls.

How is your husband feeling about it all? Has he mentioned staying back with you or doing anything to make you feel better about it all?

Bigpakchoi · 21/07/2025 18:14

StellaAndCrow · 21/07/2025 11:33

I'm sorry. It shows what they expected your role on the holiday to be!

First post nails it

Tiswa · 21/07/2025 18:16

party4you · 21/07/2025 17:49

that would disrespectful considering his dad paid. Why is that so hard to get your head around?

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Why he said it was too much hassle
to take his son. Too much hassle - not that his Dad decided but too much hassle

and actually the partner should have pushed for his children to go he didn’t want to because he didn’t want too

it would be a dealbreaker the moment he said too much hassle

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 21/07/2025 18:19

CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 17:06

@VickyEadieofThighyour right so they would then have to be in a room with him or another family member travelling, but initially they did have there own room and was allowed as was all booked, we didn’t lie.

So you were expecting your partner to go on the cruise and share one cabin with his two teenage stepdaughters and a 2yo? Would your girls even want to share a small cabin with their stepdad and their younger brother? Where would they all sleep? It sounds like hell to me...

Louisiannadaisy · 21/07/2025 18:23

So he goes off on jollies and has a nice cruise and leaves his wife to deal with a 2 year old alone while pregnant and her other two children yeah that’s really fair. He should take his son to split the childcare surely grandpa and nana and family members will help him out. Or stay home because your a team.

llizzie · 21/07/2025 18:24

CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 11:24

Hi all,

just wanted other peoples opinions please as it’s really getting to me.
So a cruise was booked for my dads partners 70th all paid for by him as he wanted us all to go, which was extremely generous from the start.
A few days ago we found out I can no longer go as will be 24 weeks pregnant and the cruise line won’t accept pregnant ladies at 24 weeks pregnant or more.
Very upset and disappointed by the news but stated my partner and our son along with my 2 girls from a previous relationship could all still go which only leaves me missing out.
Partner then states he wouldn’t be taking our 2 year old son as he would be too much hassle and wouldn’t be able to enjoy himself and relax, his he grandad who paid for the holiday also agrees with this. I am very upset and saddened that my little boy would be such an inconvenience to them.
Also to add to this my father in law decides to invite his friends instead which also means my girls missing out too. I know he paid for all this so it’s his decision but still upsetting to let them down.
So basically now my partner is still going, along with his father in law, wife and his friends and me, my son and my girls are left at home on a holiday we were supposed to go on.
Am I being unreasonable to kick up a fuss about this? How would other people feel?

Thank you in advance

So in short, it is your DP going away on a cruise with his parents?

That seems very unfair on you, especially as that leaves you vulnerable first trimester and children to care for alone.

Do you think there is some conniving going on here? Did they know the company will not accept pregnant women 24 weeks plus?

Your DP is treating you very badly, and I would seriously consider parting from him.

Ooothatsagoodone · 21/07/2025 18:25

CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 11:24

Hi all,

just wanted other peoples opinions please as it’s really getting to me.
So a cruise was booked for my dads partners 70th all paid for by him as he wanted us all to go, which was extremely generous from the start.
A few days ago we found out I can no longer go as will be 24 weeks pregnant and the cruise line won’t accept pregnant ladies at 24 weeks pregnant or more.
Very upset and disappointed by the news but stated my partner and our son along with my 2 girls from a previous relationship could all still go which only leaves me missing out.
Partner then states he wouldn’t be taking our 2 year old son as he would be too much hassle and wouldn’t be able to enjoy himself and relax, his he grandad who paid for the holiday also agrees with this. I am very upset and saddened that my little boy would be such an inconvenience to them.
Also to add to this my father in law decides to invite his friends instead which also means my girls missing out too. I know he paid for all this so it’s his decision but still upsetting to let them down.
So basically now my partner is still going, along with his father in law, wife and his friends and me, my son and my girls are left at home on a holiday we were supposed to go on.
Am I being unreasonable to kick up a fuss about this? How would other people feel?

Thank you in advance

Its not even your partners family!! Its yours! Nah sod that! He should not go without you x

Hedgehogbrown · 21/07/2025 18:26

CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 15:42

@party4youi didn’t put this post up to get sympathy, it’s very sad if you think that is why I have done it. I have remained anonymous and just wanted other peoples opinions with how they would feel if they were in my situation.
As for being manipulative it wasn’t my intention, either way he has just dismissed my 2 girls and not wanted his grandson to go when he found out I could no longer go. I just feel very worthless as I have to let my older girls down. It was supposed to be a family holiday, my partner and his father in law rarely drink.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion, that’s why I put this post out.
I am now looking at taking my children away on my own while they enjoy the cruise.

It's his Father. Not his Father in Law! Stop calling him his Father in Law.

independentfriend · 21/07/2025 18:26

I think the natural consequences of two sad, disappointed teenagers falling where they belong, on your partner and his dad is reasonable. (Assuming they are unhappy to be missing it - they might be quite happy with the changed plans).

Behaviour has consequences and excluding your step (grand) children when they thought they could come isn't great.

Soontobesingles · 21/07/2025 18:27

I would not be happy at my partner going on a cruise and leaving me alone 24 weeks pregnant with a toddler and two older kids. Fair enough your FiL doesn’t want the kids there now you are not there, but they don’t just get to dump them on you so your OH can have a jolly child-free!

Sharptonguedwoman · 21/07/2025 18:28

Oasisafan · 21/07/2025 11:52

Unfortunate, but I don’t necessarily think him saying taking a 2 year old on a cruise is too much for him is wrong.

Taking a 2 year old on holiday is hard work and not relaxing generally. If there are two of you then you can share the load, but for one person I can see what he means. It is his dad’s birthday and a one off.

Agree here. I think you need someone to share the care with. 2 yr olds are live wires. And what happens at evening meals? Little kids need earlier supper than adults and then someone has to be with them in the cabin.

Whatado · 21/07/2025 18:30

I wouldn't take a 2 year old on a cruise by myself. If my husband couldn't travel he wouldn't be going.

I always wouldn't expect my husband to share a cabin with my teen daughter without me there or my daughter to do it.

And its his fathers birthday celebration, I wouldn't expect my husband to miss his fathers birthday celebration.

So he would go and I would stay at home with the kids.

It isnt his holiday its his fathers.

Sharptonguedwoman · 21/07/2025 18:30

Louisiannadaisy · 21/07/2025 18:23

So he goes off on jollies and has a nice cruise and leaves his wife to deal with a 2 year old alone while pregnant and her other two children yeah that’s really fair. He should take his son to split the childcare surely grandpa and nana and family members will help him out. Or stay home because your a team.

Hate to say this but a two yr old on a cruise is challenging.

Dawnb19 · 21/07/2025 18:31

To be fair I've been on a holiday myself without my partner and it was 10x more stressful and wasn't a holiday. My daughter missed her dad and along with us being somewhere she's never been before, she was pretty grumpy and a lot more hard work. I ended up taking them to bed before all my family left the venue and got up hours before any of my family in the morning. It was really lonely. If my partner came with us we would have taken turns with this. If your partner had your 2 year old it wouldn't really leave him time to spend with his grandad. They might want to go in some of the adult only bars. I'd let your partner go then you all can have a proper family holiday together next year.

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CAMO1984 · 21/07/2025 18:31

@Hedgehogbrownsorry his father my father in law my mistake

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GoldenGail · 21/07/2025 18:32

BuffaloCauliflower · 21/07/2025 11:49

Its the 2 older kids Grandad as well, its OPs side of the family

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No its her husband’s father.

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