On holiday with 4month old. Regrets. Is this litterally my life forever now.

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Thought it would be a great idea and a bit of a break for me when in laws recommended a family holiday with our 4month baby. We don’t see them often. DS is just so unsettled here and I’m loosing the wheel to live. He’s been whinging all day. There all having a great time in the pool/reading books. I’m inside rocking baby to settle him. (Have been now for a few hours!) no one’s came to check on me.

I did say I was hesitant and worried to take him abroad as he’s hard enough at home. They said they’d be great help and I’d get some time out of parenting while they have him.

obviously I know it’s my child and responsibility but wish I’d just stayed home now! I never want to go abroad again now I’m a parent!

Are you very tired @Tiredandtiredagain ?!

She’s expressed a wish for help and is hoping to have baby to in-laws for help tomorrow.

Where are you OP? Is it very hot ? Perhaps in the evening when it’s cooled down someone could take baby for a walk in the pushchair? Do you have a little fan that attaches to it if it’s still warm? Some fresh air might be soothing and then help him sleep later. You could have a nice shower and relax while he’s out ?

I can totally understand your need for a break straight after arriving as travelling with a baby is exhausting. I hope you can get some help especially as it was promised

And? She’s allowed to have feelings and people are reassuring her it’s her first day, offering advice. No need to be mean to her she’s not done anything wrong, just a bit overwhelmed

Not today, chemo was cancelled this week, due to needing blood transfusion and after having that, I’m feeling much better. Weekly chemo as a rule is extremely tiring though. No recovery time.

Ask me again Wednesday, it’ll be fatigue again then.

Thank you for asking.

But what was your actual point?

I really, really feel for you.
It's rubbish ... been there, done that, got the T shirt.
I is, as others have said, 'same shit, different place'.
The WORST holiday I ever had was with my first baby.
Tbh, I thought I'd never be happy again.
You're tired, stressed, and in a completely different environment.
Your baby probably senses your 'distress'.
Hopefully things will calm down a bit.
'People' will step up, maybe.
Otherwise - put it down to experience.
Frankly, imo, it's easier to stay at home/in UK when kids are v little.
They don't care.
You have familiarity/security.
I know a lot of ppl will disagree.
Their problem.
Parenting is bloody hard, esp in the v early days.
Don't make it harder.
(I'm a granny now and have had some fantastic holidays with my kids, and my grandkids - so, you will survive! But in my experience, with whichever generation, it was the ones with babies which were most challenging and least enjoyable ... for me ... everyone else had a great time).
Good Luck.
Hope you get some breaks 😘😘😘

I didn’t do a holiday until DC was 2 and even then we stayed in the UK.

I don’t think holidays with babies is easy and it’s just the same shit but a different location and the baby is bound to be unsettled as they aren’t at home.

My advice: don’t bother until the DC is at least 2 and don’t go abroad with IL.

Exactly this. What's the point of coming on a post like this - where the op is obviously struggling - and making unpleasant remarks?

Absolutely agree with this.
Young babies are even more unsettled with random people they don't know.

Good grief

What nasty comment?? What on earth are you talking about?!

my comment was on the premier inn one

Calm down and have a look carefully

You have just posted on someone else’s thread calling me a stalker

thinking it was your thread

you have made a tit of yourself

@Merciboc hasn't been unpleasant to you. You've misunderstood.

Why are you stalking me, on more than one post?

I do not think they are stalking you.

@Merciboc is stalking and ridiculing my situation on other posts!

That’s nasty, or do you think that’s ok?

You haven't exactly shown much kindness or empathy on this thread; lots of snarky little comments.

Holidays abroad before age 3 or 4 are pointless. No way would I have done it when mine were babies and toddlers, everything is harder than it is at home and you don’t get to relax.

Yeah sorry OP holidays with babies are the least relaxing thing ever. Indeed babies don’t know they are away for a rest.
Atleast at home you can just hide indoors rather than be missing out of the pool and sun.

I’ve actually just seen that myself on a thread about thing people did with PFB. Report the posts to MN they can look into it for you

Just happened to quote me on two old posts, but not stalking me…..

odd that, must be a complete coincidence!

I have, but thank you!

Yes, maybe a PFB.