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Would you confront a stranger in public who swore in front of your children?

324 replies

Jenna2212 · 10/05/2025 14:12

Picture the scene, you're in a cafeteria, you've treated the children to a cake each. They're playing and you're enjoying a latte. A woman at the adjacent table swears "the film I saw last night was sh**". She says this within obvious earshot of your children.

I've had experiences like this often. I will always confront the person who is swearing and tell them to stop and have respect for others around them, including my children. I don't want my children to grow up thinking that the use of words like that is normal or acceptable, especially in public places.

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years. I was in WH Smith a couple of months ago and I heard staff telling a customer who was arguing with them to "f* o**". They said this loudly, so everyone in the store could hear, including me. Thankfully, I didn't have my children with me on this occasion. It used to be rare to hear people swear, and if they ever did, it was usually in hushed tones or perhaps a rowdy licenced bar on a Friday night. Shop workers certainly didn't do it on the shop floor.

It's sad that society has declined to such levels where swearing in public has become common.

Would you confront someone who was swearing in front of your children and request them to stop? Vote in the poll below and have your say.

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olympicsrock · 12/05/2025 01:42

I’d rather my children hear shit than gotten. Bad language is easier to correct than bad grammar .

TatteredAndTorn · 12/05/2025 01:53

Adults are allowed to swear and they don’t have ti moderate their use of language to please you. There’s also fuck all wrong with adult’s swearing. If you don’t want your children to swear they teach them not to.

Apothecary266 · 12/05/2025 03:58

I'd take great delight in swearing whilst responding in a calm and friendly tone. You sound fucking insane.

Mayhooray · 12/05/2025 07:18

surreygirl1987 · 11/05/2025 21:14

Ha. I do. And I have a PhD and have taught in a university. And we discuss swearing and analyse it.... academically. Re Chaucer... I trust you've heard of a little something called narrative perspective..? 🙈

I don't let the pupils swear. Just like I don't let them use other foul language we read in literature... or for that matter, partake in foul acts we see described in literature. Shakespeare had his characters swear too. He also has his characters commit murder and rape. Newsflash - just because it is written in a book, doesn't mean it is necessarily a good thing to imitate (can't believe I've just had to write that 🤦🏼‍♀️). It is a private school that I work at though and we have high standards and high expectations of our pupils. Maybe the state sector is more lax - don't know.

Oh dear, please get off your high horse.

Gigglydancybox · 12/05/2025 07:42

mepipesneedlagging · 10/05/2025 14:22

Your own grammar needs work to be fair.
"Gotten" 😬

Well it’s listed in the Oxford dictionary……

MyOliveHelper · 12/05/2025 07:44

Millie90 · 11/05/2025 15:07

It's not just for children, adults possibly don't want to listen to a gutter mouth either.

Tough really.

johnd2 · 12/05/2025 07:51

No but I think you must have been in my road earlier in the year, there was a driver swearing and a woman with a child was literally ushering their child along while covering their ears and loudly stating that the people who live in this area are terrible people while I was with my children, so I just said "we live in this area and we are not terrible people" and that was that.

Botanybaby · 12/05/2025 14:47

Oh give over 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Roxietrees · 12/05/2025 15:04

Pretty sure OP is a troll as they haven’t come back

SharpLily · 12/05/2025 17:51

surreygirl1987 · 11/05/2025 21:14

Ha. I do. And I have a PhD and have taught in a university. And we discuss swearing and analyse it.... academically. Re Chaucer... I trust you've heard of a little something called narrative perspective..? 🙈

I don't let the pupils swear. Just like I don't let them use other foul language we read in literature... or for that matter, partake in foul acts we see described in literature. Shakespeare had his characters swear too. He also has his characters commit murder and rape. Newsflash - just because it is written in a book, doesn't mean it is necessarily a good thing to imitate (can't believe I've just had to write that 🤦🏼‍♀️). It is a private school that I work at though and we have high standards and high expectations of our pupils. Maybe the state sector is more lax - don't know.

Really? And yet you don't know how to use an ellipsis correctly?

Kazzybingbong · 12/05/2025 17:55

surreygirl1987 · 11/05/2025 17:36

So words don't matter. Okay. 😅🙈

I said swear words are just words. Just like these words. I didn’t say that words don’t matter.

Yours don’t though to be fair.

MarketSt · 12/05/2025 17:57

Never take your kids to a sports game!

Mine know their own limits on what they can say. But more importantly know that it’s not the swearing that’s the issue. It’s the intention.

For example, we watched Danny Dyer’s recent episode on The Assembly. Wonderful show, nice guy. I’d much rather they saw that and learnt about the world than have avoided it to protect their ears from the word fuck.

I’d sooner hear someone say something was shit. Than be called a non swear word insult.

Topseyt123 · 12/05/2025 18:11

MrsPlantagenet · 10/05/2025 14:45

‘Toilet’ was always a banned word when I was growing up. Ditto ‘pardon’.

I couldn’t give a shit if my kids swear (they’re young adults), but I’d cringe if they ever said toilet or pardon. 😂

In our town there are plenty of signs pointing towards the "Public Toilets." Perhaps those should be changed to say "bogs" or "shitters." Just to stop some people from taking offence, and to remove any possibility of confusion over the purpose of the facilities. 🤣🤣

How do people who apparently can't cope with the word "toilet" manage when out and about where they will see the (perfectly normal) word on many signposts? 🙄

As far as answering the OP's question - no, I would not tackle the other people. I don't see it as my job to police them and I do let rip myself sometimes. Your children will be hearing all of this in the school playground. You really can't stop it happening. Just tell them that there is a time and a place, and you would rather not hear it from them. Don't kid yourself that they aren't going to hear it though. They will and it won't harm them.

Livpool · 12/05/2025 18:30

Licensed bar?! What decade are you from?!

I don’t police what other people say and think you should do the same. I don’t swear in front of DS but they’re just words - get a grip!

Roxietrees · 12/05/2025 19:49

usandourfourboys · 11/05/2025 18:19

Also I have four sons and they don’t ever say bad words in school etc .. it’s called parenting and showing them the world and what is right and what is wrong

Bet they do though..

Roxietrees · 12/05/2025 19:52

surreygirl1987 · 11/05/2025 21:14

Ha. I do. And I have a PhD and have taught in a university. And we discuss swearing and analyse it.... academically. Re Chaucer... I trust you've heard of a little something called narrative perspective..? 🙈

I don't let the pupils swear. Just like I don't let them use other foul language we read in literature... or for that matter, partake in foul acts we see described in literature. Shakespeare had his characters swear too. He also has his characters commit murder and rape. Newsflash - just because it is written in a book, doesn't mean it is necessarily a good thing to imitate (can't believe I've just had to write that 🤦🏼‍♀️). It is a private school that I work at though and we have high standards and high expectations of our pupils. Maybe the state sector is more lax - don't know.

Would you like a medal 🥇 for your big pHD brag? Such a condescending post. Ew

Faith77 · 12/05/2025 19:54

Steve Rogers...is that you?!

It's not your job to police other people's language. If they were swearing at your kids, that would be wrong, but adults swearing as part of a conversation in a public place is, well, tough shit quite frankly! If it is bothering you that much, ask for your food/drink to go and off you trot. If you told me to tone down my language to protect your little darlings' delicate ears, I would tell you to go forth & check your sense of entitlement.

wendyhouses · 12/05/2025 21:00

Jenna2212 · 10/05/2025 14:12

Picture the scene, you're in a cafeteria, you've treated the children to a cake each. They're playing and you're enjoying a latte. A woman at the adjacent table swears "the film I saw last night was sh**". She says this within obvious earshot of your children.

I've had experiences like this often. I will always confront the person who is swearing and tell them to stop and have respect for others around them, including my children. I don't want my children to grow up thinking that the use of words like that is normal or acceptable, especially in public places.

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years. I was in WH Smith a couple of months ago and I heard staff telling a customer who was arguing with them to "f* o**". They said this loudly, so everyone in the store could hear, including me. Thankfully, I didn't have my children with me on this occasion. It used to be rare to hear people swear, and if they ever did, it was usually in hushed tones or perhaps a rowdy licenced bar on a Friday night. Shop workers certainly didn't do it on the shop floor.

It's sad that society has declined to such levels where swearing in public has become common.

Would you confront someone who was swearing in front of your children and request them to stop? Vote in the poll below and have your say.

whats with your AI posts? Are you testing out responses or something. I'm very curious.

Roxietrees · 12/05/2025 21:19

wendyhouses · 12/05/2025 21:00

whats with your AI posts? Are you testing out responses or something. I'm very curious.

What makes you think it’s AI? Genuinely curious.. I’m sure OP was a troll as they disappeared ages ago and have never come back

wendyhouses · 12/05/2025 21:43

Roxietrees · 12/05/2025 21:19

What makes you think it’s AI? Genuinely curious.. I’m sure OP was a troll as they disappeared ages ago and have never come back

AI is very easy to pick up if you use it yourself enough. I dont know how to explain it, it's like how do you know an accent is Scottish? Its a bunch of little things. The sentence structure is a dead giveaway. AI tools have gotten much better over the past few months, but it still this long sentence structure with lots of commas. Also their pervious posts had titles with capitalised words (old school chatGPT give-away which most people who use it have caught on to), and they've learned to edit out eventually. I gave their previous posts a quick read, they seem to be what someone would think are trigger topics for mumsnet. Also inconsistencies (3 kids, 2 kids) etc. AI is pretty easy to stop if you use these tools daily, you get good at editing the human into them.

I'm just curious as to why someone would need to do this. I assume they're testing out something for their job. They've pick generic topics so it doesn't seem like they're looking at our interactions. Maybe just testing if we can spot it.

wendyhouses · 12/05/2025 21:46

Roxietrees · 12/05/2025 21:19

What makes you think it’s AI? Genuinely curious.. I’m sure OP was a troll as they disappeared ages ago and have never come back

I could be going mad and maybe they've just used AI to clean up their posts..

gotmyknickersinatwist · 13/05/2025 07:55

Roxietrees · 12/05/2025 15:04

Pretty sure OP is a troll as they haven’t come back

Or a 'journalist'.
See 'Vote in the poll below and have your say.'

Ineedcoffee2021 · 13/05/2025 09:52

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 11/05/2025 17:15

Wow genuinely can’t believe that so many people think that it is ok to swear in front of their own and other people’s children. So glad that I don’t live in the UK any more.

Hope your not in Aus

Bitch, cunt, dickhead can all be insults OR terms of endearment here

Millie90 · 21/05/2025 18:24

MyOliveHelper · 12/05/2025 07:44

Tough really.

Says a lot about you 😊

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