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Would you confront a stranger in public who swore in front of your children?

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Jenna2212 · 10/05/2025 14:12

Picture the scene, you're in a cafeteria, you've treated the children to a cake each. They're playing and you're enjoying a latte. A woman at the adjacent table swears "the film I saw last night was sh**". She says this within obvious earshot of your children.

I've had experiences like this often. I will always confront the person who is swearing and tell them to stop and have respect for others around them, including my children. I don't want my children to grow up thinking that the use of words like that is normal or acceptable, especially in public places.

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years. I was in WH Smith a couple of months ago and I heard staff telling a customer who was arguing with them to "f* o**". They said this loudly, so everyone in the store could hear, including me. Thankfully, I didn't have my children with me on this occasion. It used to be rare to hear people swear, and if they ever did, it was usually in hushed tones or perhaps a rowdy licenced bar on a Friday night. Shop workers certainly didn't do it on the shop floor.

It's sad that society has declined to such levels where swearing in public has become common.

Would you confront someone who was swearing in front of your children and request them to stop? Vote in the poll below and have your say.

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MyOliveHelper · 10/05/2025 14:13

I don't think it's on other people to keep the world PG for children.

ClaySquish · 10/05/2025 14:13

Hilarious post @Jenna2212 well it made me laugh anyway.

MrsPlantagenet · 10/05/2025 14:14

😂 maybe you should stay home.

Titasaducksarse · 10/05/2025 14:15

Your children don't know they're 'swear words'.

fiorentina · 10/05/2025 14:15

Swearing at you or your DC yes but just swearing in their presence definitely not.

Yeoldlondoncheese · 10/05/2025 14:15
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MrsPlantagenet · 10/05/2025 14:15

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years.

Maybe get down from your high horse and look at your own horrible grammar.

RaininSummer · 10/05/2025 14:16

I would if they were really going for it with the f ING and c words but wouldn't for shit or bloody.

Soubriquet · 10/05/2025 14:17

No I wouldn’t. They are just words

doodleschnoodle · 10/05/2025 14:17

No, my kids are unlikely to be listening to two random grown-ups at another table talking anyway. And if I’m out with a friend I am going to say ‘shit’ if the situation warrants it.

Imisschampagne · 10/05/2025 14:18

I hope this is rage bait.

Completely delulu to confront others for swearing in front of your kids if they’re not swearing at your kids.

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/05/2025 14:18

You know you can say shit on here 😆

Judiezones · 10/05/2025 14:18

I hate swearing, I think it's vulgar, but people do it all the time. When I was a child, bloody was shocking. When my gran was a child, damn was shocking. Now the f word is used freely. I just ignore it but when my dc were young and they heard swearing, I'd say something to them, such as that lady wasn't using very nice words.
They will no doubt hear much worse at school and you're fighting a losing battle trying to protect them from swearing.
I do understand how you feel though and agree with your reasoning.

titchy · 10/05/2025 14:18

Would I fuck!

MsFogi · 10/05/2025 14:19

Are you on drugs OP?!?!

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 10/05/2025 14:19

🤣 get your little darlings some headphones so they don't have to overhear people swearing.

Hoppinggreen · 10/05/2025 14:19

I have done it before but for language a bit more spicy than "shit"
We were getting a drink in a pub one afternoon while waiting for a train and a table of middle aged men were F ing this and F ing that so I looked over and said "could you tone it down in front of my kids please guys?" They were very apologetic
I also did it on a plane to a stag do who were sitting in front of me, they did mostly stop but when one did it again his mates told him off!!!
DH was with me but didn't get involved either time.

67676767ttt · 10/05/2025 14:21

MrsPlantagenet · 10/05/2025 14:15

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years.

Maybe get down from your high horse and look at your own horrible grammar.

What is wrong with this sentence?

DatingDinosaur · 10/05/2025 14:21

Yes, I would, and have in the past and will do again. I just say "do you mind not swearing in front of children please".

I agree, it's a sad world we're living in now when effs and see's are commonplace and anyone who doesn't embrace bad language is in the wrong and sneered at. Raise your standards sweary people - you only make yourselves sound like uneducated idiots.

mepipesneedlagging · 10/05/2025 14:22

Your own grammar needs work to be fair.
"Gotten" 😬

OkPedro · 10/05/2025 14:23

Surely you can instead educate your children about it "We don't use those words Timothy"
What would you achieve by asking a stranger to not swear in public? I am very sweary but am mindful in public that there are people who don't like it and of course young children who could be traumatised by the word fuck or shit

MoetUndChandon · 10/05/2025 14:23

Gotten?

romdowa · 10/05/2025 14:23

No I wouldn't unless it was explicit but a few fucks and shits wouldn't phase me.

OkPedro · 10/05/2025 14:24

mepipesneedlagging · 10/05/2025 14:22

Your own grammar needs work to be fair.
"Gotten" 😬

Hang on now 😆 I'll have you know that gotten is perfectly fine to use.. I'm Irish, it's part of the vocabulary here

Glamghirl · 10/05/2025 14:24

I call bullshit based on use of 'licensed bar'.

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