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Would you confront a stranger in public who swore in front of your children?

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Jenna2212 · 10/05/2025 14:12

Picture the scene, you're in a cafeteria, you've treated the children to a cake each. They're playing and you're enjoying a latte. A woman at the adjacent table swears "the film I saw last night was sh**". She says this within obvious earshot of your children.

I've had experiences like this often. I will always confront the person who is swearing and tell them to stop and have respect for others around them, including my children. I don't want my children to grow up thinking that the use of words like that is normal or acceptable, especially in public places.

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years. I was in WH Smith a couple of months ago and I heard staff telling a customer who was arguing with them to "f* o**". They said this loudly, so everyone in the store could hear, including me. Thankfully, I didn't have my children with me on this occasion. It used to be rare to hear people swear, and if they ever did, it was usually in hushed tones or perhaps a rowdy licenced bar on a Friday night. Shop workers certainly didn't do it on the shop floor.

It's sad that society has declined to such levels where swearing in public has become common.

Would you confront someone who was swearing in front of your children and request them to stop? Vote in the poll below and have your say.

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Megifer · 10/05/2025 14:57

OMG no 😂😂😂😂

Roxietrees · 10/05/2025 15:00

Westernnightlight · 10/05/2025 14:55

It’s a class thing apparently 🙄

As in it’s more “higher” class to use loo instead of toilet? I knew that but I had no idea pardon was a problem! I always thought of pardon as a very polite word that I’d associate as more middle class than sorry or what 🤷‍♀️

violetmondays · 10/05/2025 15:04

I don’t think you can really tell other people how to speak. However, if it was really bad I would probably just move away from them.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 10/05/2025 15:09

Roxietrees · 10/05/2025 14:49

Another poster who doesn’t like pardon or toilet! What’s wrong with these and what do you use instead? Just curious

It's a class thing.

BethDuttonYeHaw · 10/05/2025 15:10

I wouldn’t bother over something like shit and certainly not in the example given in the OP.

I do object to fuck and cunt. Usually being shouted at the football and they (men) always apologise.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 10/05/2025 15:12

Roxietrees · 10/05/2025 15:00

As in it’s more “higher” class to use loo instead of toilet? I knew that but I had no idea pardon was a problem! I always thought of pardon as a very polite word that I’d associate as more middle class than sorry or what 🤷‍♀️

Lower middle class, maybe. And working class. But it is definitely a class marker. Not that that should matter in this day and age!!

TheEllisGreyMethod · 10/05/2025 15:17

What on earth is the only if my husband is with me option

OxfordInkling · 10/05/2025 15:22

Hahahaha. No.

If you are in public, you may occcasionally have the misfortune to encounter the public. If you can’t cope with the kids hearing swearing, stay home.

GroovyChick87 · 10/05/2025 15:24

No. I'm not interested in random strangers' conversations. I'd think someone was strange for
asking this.

AliBaliBee1234 · 10/05/2025 15:26

You can't dictate how other people talk.

THATbasicgirl · 10/05/2025 15:28

Get a grip op

purpleme12 · 10/05/2025 15:29

No I wouldn't confront someone in public
I can't control what someone does who's in the general public

Backwoods57 · 10/05/2025 15:30

No I wouldn't want to escalate the situation and risk putting my kids in a violent situation. That guy was clearly in a bad mood, its better just to avoid him rather than provide a fresh target for his anger.

Fooshufflewickjbannanapants · 10/05/2025 15:30

Ya fuckin weirdo!

Doggielove2 · 10/05/2025 15:33

Jenna2212 · 10/05/2025 14:12

Picture the scene, you're in a cafeteria, you've treated the children to a cake each. They're playing and you're enjoying a latte. A woman at the adjacent table swears "the film I saw last night was sh**". She says this within obvious earshot of your children.

I've had experiences like this often. I will always confront the person who is swearing and tell them to stop and have respect for others around them, including my children. I don't want my children to grow up thinking that the use of words like that is normal or acceptable, especially in public places.

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years. I was in WH Smith a couple of months ago and I heard staff telling a customer who was arguing with them to "f* o**". They said this loudly, so everyone in the store could hear, including me. Thankfully, I didn't have my children with me on this occasion. It used to be rare to hear people swear, and if they ever did, it was usually in hushed tones or perhaps a rowdy licenced bar on a Friday night. Shop workers certainly didn't do it on the shop floor.

It's sad that society has declined to such levels where swearing in public has become common.

Would you confront someone who was swearing in front of your children and request them to stop? Vote in the poll below and have your say.

These are your values - you can’t keep your children’s away from swearing - your option was to explain to your children what’s going on in line with your own values

you can’t police the world with your own standards - collective moral codes are political

BigAnne · 10/05/2025 15:35

@Jenna2212 what if another customer berated you for feeding your dc cake? In other words ... mind your own business OP.

ginasevern · 10/05/2025 15:46

I'm honestly not a pearl clutcher but bad language has become the norm. I was at a naice country pub having a roast with family a few months ago and the middle aged blokes at the bar were effing and cunting non stop. But I wouldn't intervene because I know I'd end up looking stupid or, in this day and age, much worse.

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 10/05/2025 15:49

No one gives a shit about your kids. Sorry.

Keepingthingsinteresting · 10/05/2025 15:52

Jenna2212 · 10/05/2025 14:12

Picture the scene, you're in a cafeteria, you've treated the children to a cake each. They're playing and you're enjoying a latte. A woman at the adjacent table swears "the film I saw last night was sh**". She says this within obvious earshot of your children.

I've had experiences like this often. I will always confront the person who is swearing and tell them to stop and have respect for others around them, including my children. I don't want my children to grow up thinking that the use of words like that is normal or acceptable, especially in public places.

It's something that seems to have gotten worse in recent years. I was in WH Smith a couple of months ago and I heard staff telling a customer who was arguing with them to "f* o**". They said this loudly, so everyone in the store could hear, including me. Thankfully, I didn't have my children with me on this occasion. It used to be rare to hear people swear, and if they ever did, it was usually in hushed tones or perhaps a rowdy licenced bar on a Friday night. Shop workers certainly didn't do it on the shop floor.

It's sad that society has declined to such levels where swearing in public has become common.

Would you confront someone who was swearing in front of your children and request them to stop? Vote in the poll below and have your say.

What is wrong with you? If you tried to police my language you and your kids would learn a whole new vocabulary. Who gave you the power to enforce what you think is the right way to speak? I’m physically trying not to swear at you now. You need to let it go and teach your own your own kids, it’s no-one’s job but yours.

ohtowinthelottery · 10/05/2025 15:53

I don't think I could bring myself to challenge anyone for using sh*t as a description of something they thought was rubbish. If my children picked up on it, I would just use it as a teaching opportunity for my DCs.
I have, however, asked roofers working on a house adjacent to my garden to tone down the language as noone needs to hear f words shouted from the rooftops, nor do we need to hear graphic details of their latest one night stands! And that was when the children were at school, not in the garden!

OkPedro · 10/05/2025 15:54

Roxietrees · 10/05/2025 14:34

”Young children traumatised by the use of fuck or shit”?! Is that sarcasm?! It’s just a word! “Shit” regularly comes out accidentally when I’m with my 4 yo, and occasionally “fuck”. I never make a big deal of it, he doesn’t bat an eyelid and he’s never sworn himself in his life! Pretty sure he’s not traumatised by it 🤣🤣

Yes most definitely sarcasm 😆

fuckislessoffensivethanpardon · 10/05/2025 16:10

Loo or occasionally bog @Roxietrees I'd rather the children called it the khazi or crapper rather than toilet.

What or sorry. Never pardon.

Abominolom · 10/05/2025 16:28

@Jenna2212 you're modelling worse behaviour to your children than the casual swearing by butting into other people’s conversations and telling them off in public…

Whoarethoseguys · 10/05/2025 16:32

Your children live in the real world they will hear people swearing (wait until they go to school!).
Swear words are just words that some people use it won't hurt your children to hear them.
I wouldn't dream of telling someone else not to swear. If I thought their language was completely inappropriate I would move away

MsNevermore · 10/05/2025 16:32

In the situations you describe, no.

In scenarios where children are directly involved with the swearing situation, absolutely.
I was in a park with my DCs last year and there was confusion over who a McDonald’s toy belonged to because my son and this other woman’s son had the same one. She got extremely upset over it and went on a screeching tirade over it, swearing every other word, some of it directed towards her own child and some towards mine.
I asked her if she kissed her mother with that mouth 😵‍💫
But honestly, it made me more sad for her child than anything….because if she behaves like that in public, in front of and towards her child, what on earth is that poor kid being exposed to at home? 🥺

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