Op, gently, Breaking a pubic bone is serious stuff. Particualrly if she menopausal. It’s part of your pelvis. Anyone who’s had pubic symphysis during pregnancy will know it means excruciating pain during standing and walking.
she will have fallen hard to do that. There is a real shock that comes with falling as you get older. Sort of caught up with me in my mid 50s that falling doesn’t mean I just get up and carry on normally with a bit of an ouch, that was silly. It makes you feel very vulnerable, and very sore all over. Ligaments will be shocked and achy
all in all she’ll be feeling a bit crap, sore, vulnerable etc. I’d want to see my so. In those circumstances. As would any normal woman, a bit of tlc, and show of care and kindness to cheer someone up. Your dh is reacting normally as any DS should.
ok, it’s a pain they’re in Spain. And it means longer away. But that’s not anyone fault- it’s circumstances. You have to be prepared to accept that as your parents age, shit happens, medical emergencies and parents need their kids to help sort out the fallout, and help them feel loved and cared for. One day it will be you. Do you want your toddler or baby as adults to refuse to see visit you because their spouse says it’ll put out normal routine. I watched my exh walk away from his dying mother in hospital because he felt his desire to go home becuase he was bored with waiting for her to die, was more important than a lonely, frightened women left alone to die. I haunted by the look on her face, and me being left to sit it out with her. Don’t be that person.
emergencies happen. They’ll happen all through this period of raising kids. You need to pull on your big pants and find solutions to enable him to do the right thing in this emergency. Sure, if mil keeps falling over every week and demanding his attention and he goes flying off at every beck and call, then you have dh issue. But it isn’t, he’s already willing to drop visit if you say so. Please don’t say so.
frankly your mum sounds unhelpful or worse. Would she like thst if boot was on other foot? Why isn’t she saying I’m here to help, I’ll come round in evening for an hour during bedtime rush to support you? Form what you say she just is persuading you it’s unreasonable.
shit happens. That requires urgent changes. Change is uncomfortable. And stressful. But it is life. Sometimes with small kids we face change as an impossible barrier, but we can overcome it, build our confidence for next crisis in our ability to deal with the shit. It’s not a habit of his. It is an emergency. Do the right thing. You know it is, otherwise you’d have listened to your mum, not posted to other mums