6-8 year old parenting club birthday partys, homework and extracurricular decisions

[2in2022twoyearson]

Hi,
Anyone want to join me navigating this age of parenting? Children could be outside this age bracket.

There's lots of baby toddler advice groups and some teen groups but this age I feel a bit in the dark.

I have a soon to be 7 year old girl. She's amazing, loves school, but I often feel like I'm doing or saying the wrong thing to and with her. She's going through a stroppy stage, finds school tiring.

Me and her dad work a lot and we haven't signed her up to many extra curriculum clubs, some of her peers have done loads since reception.

We're planning her birthday party and she has lots of opinions about it, I'm feeling the pressure!

I might get her assessed but I know speech and language services are not very good here. I had a Portuguese a colleague with an autistic preschooler who saw speech and language, they gave her exceseses at home to do but she didn't know she was doing them right. Then she went home to Portugal for a month or so and had proper sessions with a speech and language therapist and made great progress, regressed again coming to England. We'll try some things at home and pay attention to her lisp without making it a big deal. Then maybe when she's 8 in a couple of months and still has a lisp we'll try and get her assessed. But I don't have much faith. I don't think there's many SALT. My DH works with some in a special needs school so we might have the tools to help her without an assessment.

I was looking at videos if her when she was 3 and she had such interest in the alphabet and knew all the letters and phonics, but her lisp was pronounced and I didn't think much at the time. My 3 year old now is much clearer but has not much interest in the alphabet and phonics.

Glad it's calmed down with the fighting

I messaged her teacher to ask if she's noticed a lisp. Teacher offered a speachlink assessment through the school... but my husband doesn't want to because it could draw attention to it for her and take her out of lessons. I'm a bit annoyed he doesn't want to as he's like this with so many things. It is very mild and possibly a cold is making it more audible. But I do think a quick screening could reassure me that her speech is ok.

Your husband is being a bit silly, they don't care about being pulled out of lessons at this age!

Yeah I do think he's being silly, but my daughter didn't really like being taken out to go to the dentist over lunchtime missing or my missing school for illness. I do find it annoying when I see his parents attitude in him, which he has realised has been detrimental to his brother. His brother is disabled, medically and mentally, but his parents didn't want him stigmatized and were scared he would be taken into an institution. So tried to do what they could at home to help him. So he was only classified as learning difficulties, which caused lots of issues for him as an adult living with his parents. He's now been classified as disabled, but he was a young adult during lockdown so it was a slow process.

My dd isn't disabled but I'm seeing the same attitude. I was annoyed by his response because maybe in just anxious but having a screening and showing she doing have an issue would be reassuring. I do want to talk about it again, but it's not causing her issues in not sure it's the hill I want to die on.