My ex has taken my son out of his school and put him in a new one and is refusing to let me see him would the school refuse to let me collect him?

[HollyAnnLee]

So me and my ex split up 5 years ago we have 2 children boy aged 9 and girl aged 5
when we first split up everything was fine he was having his kids regularly and his new gf who he had moved in with seemed nice enough so everything was good for a while (we split up due to his prescription drug addiction gambling addiction cheating and he just wasn’t a very nice person to be with) up until about 6 months after we split coke the excuses as to why he can’t have his kids, he refused to financially support them also.. seemed like the novelty of impressing his gf had wore off… he then changed to fortnightly contact which I wasn’t happy about at all but what can I do (if the one of the kids birthday fell on in his own words ‘not his weekend’ he refused to have him/her
he disappears for months at a time with no contact. Our daughter is autistic and he just says she’s a spoilt brat and then I found out she was sleeping in the living room on her own in a travel cot (even though his gf had a 5 bedroom house) and she was crying when she knew she was going to her dads so I stopped her from going which I know he’s happy about it she doesn’t call him dad never has done and I don’t she ever will do, but for my son when his dad would disappear his heart was broken and each time it would be me fixing it he was so distraught and couldn’t understand in his own words ‘why his dad didn’t love him any ore’ I’ve always tried to speak good of him but there’s only a certain amount of excuses I can make for him soon as my son turned 8 he stopped caring about going didn’t cry when he was let down and we all started to get on with our life… up until a few weeks ago my son was on the park with his older brother (not his dads son) and our son bumped into his dad he took him off the park leaving my other son on his own and has denied access ever since he’s took him out of his school ripped him away from his friends and family and his home life after Barry bothering with him but from what I’ve heard from my son is that he wants to live with his dad which obvs breaks my heart because o know what he’s like with his dad but was just getting use to his dads antics, so I really don’t know what to I want my son home asap but I feel bad if that’s what he’s saying? But like I said he’s always been for his dad and I guess spending some time there he’s gone back to how he was about his dad.. I know the school he’s in and want to go pick him up today but I am scared that the school will refuse to let me take him.. his dad has not once asked about his daughter or nothing in months and then thinks he can just take our son when he was barely a fortnight dad also the abuse from his dad and his gf over the years have been hell on earth he he’s cheating on her and she kicks him out she’s crying about it to me on the phone but the second he’s back the sun shines out of his ass she’s also a mother so I don’t understand how she thinks it’s okay to do this to someone?? I just need some advice and then I will be going up to the school today to collect him

False info.
you can’t just say they can’t collect if there is no court order and risk to the child.

You have parental responsibility ? If so just go and get your son. The school can't stop you if you have PR. It's a civil issue not a criminal issue. If he can do it why can't you ..

Right?! There's always going to be a nosey nut like me that'll check 😂

It is happening to me! The school have ignored my solicitor’s letters!

No court order here and school refusing to let me even speak to my children on the phone without dad’s permission.

That’s nuts. Have you escalated to the governors and local authority? If you have pr, there’s nothing stopping you from walking into school tomorrow and taking your children home (unless ss are involved). I’m not suggesting you do that, as it would be unsettling, but you need to get tougher in your stance. Know your rights and enforce them.

I haven't checked back if it was under the same username, but OP has posted this before.

This one. It was 5 weeks ago then too
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/parenting/5269038-sons-dad-has-collected-our-son-and-is-refusing-to-bring-him-home

That OP is almost identical to this one in terms of the details. But it was posted more than a month ago. 🤔

Wow so it's been much more than 5 weeks. What's the point of asking for advice and lying?

Sooo many fantasists on MN, really sad and weird and appalling to goad good people into being invested in something trying to help the OP

It's worrying you have had such bad legal advice from a solicitor. They do not know what they are doing. Get to court physically yourself and tell them you need to make an emergency application and they should help you fill in the form. You need to do this now. Delay is solidifying the status quo of your ds living with his dad. And if you have time complain to the SRA about your solicitor. They should not be practising family law. Mediation is not appropriate in this case at all.

the only way a school will not allow a child to be removed is if there is a court order in place or social services is involved.

You don’t a solicitor. Just ring the police from the school.

Believe me there’s more to it.

It has been just over 5 weeks if you assume he had literally taken the son the day before she posted this and it is the daughter he had not seen for 5 weeks at that point. In this OP she said he had removed the child and was looking for a new school so it is possible.

This makes absolutely no sense 🤨

I would, absolutely and then ask for further contact to be at a contact centre.

So OP knew her ex was applying for a new school for their DS? He didn’t just take him and put him in a new school without telling her.

OP if this is real, you need to be honest if you’re going to get any help on here.