Hi so abit of back story so it all makes sense
Me and sons dad was together almost 8 years..
He had a gambling addiction and was taking drugs secretly at home aswell as had been caught out speaking to his ex and arranging to meet her I gave him an option to change he didn't so we separated it's been 5 years since then it's been hell to say the least, we was only being in contact to arrange days and times for him to see/collect his kids we was getting on fine he was even visiting a few times during the week to make tea or out the kids to bed, we have a 9 year old son and a 5 year old daughter together, we was getting on fine until I found out that within a few days of us splitting he had a new girlfriend obvs it hurt but I got on with it, since he's been with her I'm not aloud to speak to him and have to go through her.. he is uo and down with contact only wants to see his kids every fortnight with nothing in between isn't involved in anything in there life's.. will cancel on the day he's due to have them and fall off the face of the earth for months at a time I've asked him for the last five years if he can't start helping out more he's flat out refused he lives with his gf and her 3 kids and they now have a one year old daughter together.. he had my son and now is refusing to bring him home.. so I'm like you never wanted to see your kids I've had to force him to have them sometimes and now all of a sudden he wants our son full time? This happened about 5 weeks ago he hasn't seen his daughter since he has never had a close relationship with our little girl and she does not like going, now all of a sudden he wants a DNA for our daughter and is refusing to have her till one is done I've agreed and told him to hurry up with it because I know he's hers he was the only man I was with in those 8 years he's never once asked me for a dna for any of our kids.. I think it's so it doesn't make him look bad 'I'll just take one child on then ask for a dna so I don't need to have her till its done and I'll drag it out as long as possible' our daughter is autistic however I don't think he believes she is and just calls her 'a naughty brat who's always having meltdowns' obvs I want to apply to the court for my son back as I have been his main career for his whole 9 years and his dad has done nothing but let them down and make excuses I have no idea how to go about even applying to the court for my sim back much advice is needed thankyou so much for reading I just want my son home the house isn't the same I also have a 10 year old son so he is very much missed, also to add his gf has done nothing but give me abuse for the last 5 years and defends him when he lets his kids down