Average motherhood age

[moonsovermiami]

Motherhood and age.
I know this has been done a million times
But...
I'm interested to know, among your circles what is the most common age to be having baby no 1, 2 etc
Just curious...

35+. Most of them two kids.

It’s not really changed a drastic amount in general, heading towards a later start like it was in the 1930s. In my social and nursery groups first time mothers range between 35-45.

Most common is one child, I don’t know anyone with more than two, but my child is at nursery so plenty of time or another one or few.

I was 26, is say most other mum's at our manh groups are 29-35. Mostly first time mums, some seconds coming along now DD is 2

Thank you for the replies!

My school friends are 35 and lots of them have no kids yet. Probably about 50% don’t have any, 10% pregnant, 15% have 1, 15% have multiple. That doesn’t add up but
you get the gist 😆

I have 3 kids. All my ‘mum friends’ ie ones I met through my kids, are 40-43 - around 5 years older than me, so had their first around 30. I had my first at 25, second and 27 and third at 32.

Back in the day it was 20s now its more 40s.

For us it's in our 30s. We had our first at 30 and second at 33 - we are the first in our friendship group to have kids and only now have a couple of others had their first at 34/35. Most people I work with had their first at 35/36+ years

Average age among friends was mid-30s for first child. Earliest 30 and I was the last at 37. We're all graduates, typical range of professions. Early to mid-30s seems pretty standard for the women I know.

Early to mid 30s there was a sudden baby boom for the university educated lot. Those that left school at 16 generally had a couple of kids by then.

In the baby groups I went to, first time mums were 24-30 and second/third time mums were early-mid 30s. There was one first time mum in her late 30s or early 40s. My dd is 1 1/2 years old now.

Usually 2 before 30 here.

Mid to late 30s for a first child for most people I know.

I don't know why I reply to these threads as the responses just wind me up 🙈

Everyone will say 35+

The youngest person at their NCT was 37

Most people they know are 37-42

Back in the real world meanwhile, our bodies are designed to be at peak fertility late teens to mid twenties.

Career career career gets spouted on here. But career in my opinion shouldn't trump starting a family if that's what you want in life. You've got to be sensible about your position financially and relationship wise of course. But all in all I think 23-29 is ideal. 30+ for me is pushing it. 35+ is really pushing it. And 40+ is bordering on unfair to both mother and children.

People that have met much later in life or who have had fertility struggles, I do view very differently. But I do think it rather selfish when people have been together decades and put the whole travelling thing as a priority and then decide to start reproducing at 40. There always the ones that struggle to adapt to parenthood as well in my opinion.

I would say in my actual social circle 30-40 for first child. I had my first at 32 and second at 37 and that was pretty average. I do have lots of school friends who had babies in their early to mid 20s. They are nearly all divorced now (the ones who were married) and now having round 2 of babies in their late 30s/early 40s.

Well I was 16 😂 everyone on here will try and claim the average is 35+ but in my experience the most common age people have baby number 1 is mid twenties and this is statistically true

Right! Exactly. Honestly it's a parallel universe on here.

We live in a very greedy, grabby, self absorbed era where having a family is seen as second to career and travelling and people that opt to settle down are sneered at.

It's like there's this whole competitive geriatric parenting going on!

(From someone who had a career, mortgage and was married with two kids - all done by age 28) I could have climbed the ladder at work or decided to travel across the world , moved into a big house, but actually having children is the best thing I've ever achieved by a long long mile. You do find that as well, that people who wait decades out of choice either regret it and wish they'd done it years ago once they feel that love, or they can't adapt to the 'chaos' it brings to their nice comfortable lives.

My long standing group of friends (all uni educated and in professional jobs) 1st baby between 28 - 32, all 2nd babies before 35 (apart from 1 who had years of secondary infertility so 2nd baby at 37).
In the baby groups I went to a real mix - quite a few early/mid 20s (married high school boyfriend, usually working in beauty or hair industry OR partner of a highly paid sports person) and also quite a lot of late 30s/early 40s ‘moved up from London’ professionals who downshifted their careers and relocated to raise their kids.

No 1, 27-30. No 2, 30-33.

I'm 39 and I don't regret it, nor have I struggled to adapt 🙄. People are different.

33 for my first, 37 for my second. Of my friends none had children before they turned 30 but in the baby groups I went to I was usually one of the older mums for my second.

My sister was 36, sister in law (brother's wife) was 35. I'm 25 and don't have any yet, and some of these comments are making me feel rather old.

The youngest one of my friends became a mum was 29. Oldest was 46. Most of my friends had at least one of their kids in their 40s (I had both of mine in my 40s). Interestingly, four friends have big age gaps between first and second due to fertility issues. Same father, but first child late 20s/early 30s, second 40 plus.

I agree. I was mid 20s and mine is 1 1/2 years old now just to put things until context. The older mums at baby groups (mid 30s and older) were not first time mums. On Mumsnet, it’s ‘normal’ to try for a first baby late 30s or 40s and their husband is on at least £100k. They also think mums in their 20s are uneducated and don’t have careers.

Where I am from the average age is 32. Our area has a very high cost of living and I think that plays a huge part as people can't afford to have kids.

Well I was 35 for a first child, having my second at 37. I wasn't with the right person until I was 33.

I'm a teacher. Around ten years ago, the teachers who had children were early-mid 30s but that average seems to have gone down to late 20s. Maybe because you can become established in your career fairly swiftly in teaching.

In terms of friends, well, one had hers at 21, another at 37 and the others haven't had children due to various medical reasons/not having met someone to have children with.

The moms at my school tend to be younger. I teach 10 year old and a lot of their parents are my age or younger.

The children of my mom's friends were/are early 30s.

In baby groups, first time moms were usually a couple of years younger than me.

So i guess it averages out to about 30!