Can a family court judge force my child into nurserh

[ShyasminW]

Please help I would be really grateful
I have a family court final hearing next week and my ex has put forward his position and wants 50/50 shared care and he wants our son to go into a nursery on his days during the week

i only work part time I do one night shift at the weekend when son is with his dad

I provide full time care all week for my son and son goes to dad for tea mid week after he finishes work

my worry is a judge will force me to take him to nursery half the week on dads time when I am available for him

the nursery he wants our son to go to is 30 minutes from my home approximately I know it’s in an area that’s at least this far from me, and I don’t drive so I would have to get a bus to take him to nursery on “dads days” I also don’t know the name of this nursery as he said it’s linked to his work and he gets discount but he hasn’t stated the name of the nursery to his solicitor (or they haven’t told me) so I won’t know this until we are in court (we do not have any communication me and dad so I can’t ask him)
do you think a judge would force my 18 month old son into nursery when I am available to care for him
can they force me to take him even though I am available to care for him

cafcass did not recommend 50/50 either

sorry this long post

@OnceUponASausage We will agree to disagree. My personal opinion is one should work to earn money/show children what work ethic is, but I know that isn't what a lot of others believe.

It is unreasonable for Dad to dictate that days will change. You need set days so you can also plan your work. I would suggest when you speak to the judge that you suggest Dad has set days which are consecutive and so do you.

OP does work, you just don’t think she works enough.

Some people may believe that OP is prioritising her child, while still sufficiently supporting herself.

A lot of people, myself included, believe that’s the most important thing you can do, especially if you don’t actually need to work.

We will agree to disagree.

@OnceUponASausage The only thing I vehemently disagree with is she is attempting to dictate to father what he does with his child on "his" days. I assume he's paying her maintenance (quite rightly) and also (quite rightly) is working hard to provide for his child/put a roof over heads etc. So nursery is perfectly acceptable.

Nursery is acceptable if needed.
If a preschooler could be home with mum. It isn't needed.
If Dad was prepared to be at home parenting that's a different argument altogether....

@Dithercats Dad hasn't got the financial "luxury" of that option by the sounds.

Or he's a controlling prick who doesn't really want to actively parent his child - but does want to force child into unnecessary childcare so he can say he does 50-50...and not pay cm.

We'll never know.

@Dithercats The fact remains that on his days he has every right to put his child into nursery if he is at work, or even if he is not. He can stay at home all day every day watching Netflix and put his child in nursery if he wishes. Or he can leave him with another responsible adult of his choosing/other childcsre provider. The point I am making is he is certainly under no obligation at all to leave his child with mother.
Likewise, the same stands for mum on her days. She can do what she wishes.