My son is 9 and me and his dad split before be could crawl. I'm the primary parent. His dad sees him on Saturdays and has only recently started having him over night once a fortnight, he's just text me asking the plan for Christmas. For the first few years his dad would come round the morning and watch him open his presents stay an hour or two then go off and do his own thing, and my son would stay with me and do our thing. For the last 4 years I've had my son Christmas Eve, Christmas and he's gone to his dads from 11-4 then back home for dinner with us.
his dads just text me asked the plan for this year, I replied saying shall we do just what we usually do and he come to you for a few hours in the day. He's just replied asking if he could have the opportunity to have him overnight on Christmas Eve this year and I'll get him back on Christmas Day at a time that's not yet been arranged. I don't know how I feel about it. I've just said that I'll speak to our son when he's home from school and go from there. I have 2 younger daughters with my fiancee and it is gonna be rough not having him here. But at the same time I can't be selfish and say no because it's his dad at the end of the day, I am a bit upset though.
has anyone had a similar situation and is it totally shit? 💔