Ex wife

[TheHappyWriter]

Writing on behalf of partner.

Hi, I pay child maintenance for my son, today he has received his a level results so I have reported the change on the child maintenance website. (Previously reported the change when he left college back in late June but my ex wife declined it as she wanted to wait until results day)

CSA have stated that my ex wife is still claiming child benefit and they can't change my payment schedule until she informs child benefit.

My ex wife is refusing to inform child benefit until 1st September - my csa payment is due on 1st September. Therefore, she will receive another payment from me.

My ex wife declines, and has stated she will continue to decline the change in circumstances I put through the csa portal.

Help.

In 2 weeks? Is he? That's at least 2 before any of my friends dc start. And 2 weeks sooner than any of my uni lecturer friends have students in.

Not to mention that the comment I replied to sounded (to me at least, i obviously read it the wrong way) like mum should previously have been giving son the money directly. Not just the end of August/start of September payment.

This thread has warmed my heart. I'm one of those mothers in receipt of CM payments. I find that £60 a week goes really far! If I'm lucky my DD's get Xmas and birthday from their Dad but I can't count on it, nothing else. My DD is off to uni. I know the payments will stop and she'll get nothing. Like the nothing he contributes for her adult disabled sibling. I'm quitting the job I love in geriatric care to get one with more money to support her in uni. The trouble with my ex is that all those holidays in Dubai don't pay for themselves and I'm literally quoting him here.

This.

So maybe she can give him 300 quid a month too and let him get on with housing/feeding/clothing/phone/transport and all the rest. Right?
He should be able to manage that OK.

“Csa is set up to punish working dads and it's wrong” is where you lost any sympathy, just in case you need to know. I was feeling sympathy until then.

CSA maintenance is in no way representative of half the costs of bringing up a child, so you’ll have to suck up one more month, I suspect you’ve still had the better deal over the year.

TheHappyWriter, I could not agree more with your comments. My other half has this exact issue with his ex wife. He wants to pay his son directly as he starts uni next weekend. Why should his bitch of an ex get the money still when his child needs it at uni? She’s still claiming child benefit and his CMS payments have not gone down. It’s a disgrace. It’s definitely benefit fraud.

But why should it cover half the costs that mum has? A lot of the costs will be duplicated at dads, regardless. The extra room, clothes etc (how many women here are adamant that dad has to buy everything to have at his house himself), toys, furniture And equipment etc. the only difference in costs that mum has would be more food and more toiletries and hobbies if applicable.

It should cover the increase in her having the kid more but not half her costs and then dad still has all of his costs to bear himself without claiming child benefit .

You know you’re talking rubbish, right? Claiming child benefit and maintenance isn’t benefit fraud. You sound like one of those women who think men shouldn’t have to contribute toward their child’s upbringing because they don’t want to give money to their partner’s ex.