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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 01:09

fantastic website here to give you tips

come on own up! what things do you do that make people gasp in horror? are you the sort of mum who wipes dummies and bottle tears on your tshirt and gives straight back if they get dropped? i have done it with biscuits too stuff the 3 second rule - it's 10 seconds here!! i always forget to wash my hands after nappy changes too and tbh i only use wipes and water for poohey nappies. with wet ones i just take it off and put the new one on straight away

i am often forgetting to brush ds' teeth. we never brush them at nighttime and he will sometimes go 2 days without having them brushed. must remember to step this up a bit when he gets his adult teeth.

i don't change ds' nappy as often as i should. i did have to dry ds trousers under the handdryer in the toilets though cos i had left one on too long. usually try and change him about every 4 hours but sometimes i just ... forget. he normally only has a bath and hairwash once a week but episodes like this mean he sometimes has an extra one midweek.

also once when we weren't travelling far and it was pitch black i didn't strap the car seat in properly, just put it on the back seat. we had a very awkward car seat that in 2 peoples cars does not strap in properly. i just made sure the front seat is right against it so it can't go anywhere. our car seat was one of those that lies flat when on the pushchair, so in the car is meant to be in the most upright position. at 3 months old this didn't look very comfortable but did it anyway as i couldnt get the car seat in my friends car if i didn't. cue gasps from this woman saying oooh he shouldn't be upright like that. cue her saying oh my dd got her ds one of those door bouncers - you should get him one. now to me they look dangerous!

oh and not really child related but i rarely wear a seatbelt myself. i do in other people's cars though ...

oh and weight limits and warnings on baby products. ds sat in his baby seat for months after he could sit up and was over the weight limit.

the only thing i would be anal about really is drawing on walls and ripping wallpaper which luckily ds hasn't done yet. he is allowed to play with balls in the house, and ride his trike and ride ons in the house too. i also let him push his cars along the wall. have to watch him at other people's houses cos they usually tell their kids off for that. will let him skate in the house too when he's old enough.

not at this stage yet, but my mum used to sometimes let me have the day off school just because and i will probably let ds occasionally have a day off. for me it was usually because i hadn't done some homework that was due in.

when i go out for the day and take milk i just shove it in my handbag - no chilled cool bags for ds! oh and i feed him cold milk and have fed him cold baby food before. i often don't plan meals then he is screaming for dinner so in a mad panic i will open the fridge i give him whatever is edible uncooked. yesterday he had ham, malt loaf with butter and a cherry yohghurt altogether on his highchair. he ate the yoghurt first. today he had banana, meatballs, yoghurt and chocolate brioche.

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slayerette · 13/04/2008 17:52

I don't understand why it's all being presented by nappyaddict as if it's something to be proud of. As if it somehow makes her 'cool' and 'kooky' to be so carefree and exciting that her child's day to day comfort, safety and welfare is just too - you know - booooring to bother with. Whatever! We can say what we like with our uptight, anal requirements for our child not to go through the windscreen or get salmonella poisoning - does her face look bovvered?

VictorianSqualor · 13/04/2008 17:55

Slayerette, I don't think it was meant to be seen like that, I think it was more of a 'hey, hands up whose not perfect, I'm not now let's chill about it' that got out of hand.

I'll bet if we all posted so many things we did with our DC's everyone that read it would find a different one they didn;t agree with, my personal bugbear was the not giving a proper tea,someone elses could be not bathing every day etc

DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe · 13/04/2008 17:58

slayerette - thought you were banned?

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

iloatheironing · 13/04/2008 18:02

There's a big difference between doing things that might be considered less than perfect, e.g. only bathing ds once a week, and doing things that are down right dangerous to a child's health/ wellbeing like not fastening a car seat or leaving a child unattended in the bath for example

notjustmom · 13/04/2008 18:03

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slayerette · 13/04/2008 18:04

Banned? Have I upset MNHQ by posting about my adoration of John Barrowman once too often? [sigh]

No, I get what you're saying, VictorianSqualor, and lots of people post about one or two perceived failings as parents - I don't think anyone would think they were perfect. I just didn't get why the list of things was so long and exhaustive - that's why I felt NA was almost seeing it as something to be proud of. It was the 'I do all this and I don't care' tone that got me - obviously lots of it is stuff we all do and don't need to care about but some of it really did seem to be a general lack of interest in her child's safety and well-being.

PuffCoddy · 13/04/2008 18:06

no stalkerette was banned!

PuffCoddy · 13/04/2008 18:06

no stalkerette was banned!

DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe · 13/04/2008 18:07

OOOOOOOOOOOOH! Sorry! Crap memory. Will go back to my knitting.

VictorianSqualor · 13/04/2008 18:07

I think slayerette is being confused with stalkerette? (the Cod thread?)

Well, yes slayerette, it seems once a few others said 'I do X' the lists did get a bit worse.

IMO there is being a parent and sometimes cutting corners without feeling guilty, and there is neglect, I hope NA is the former and just lumping everythign she has been told is Never To Be Done together for the sake of this thread.

DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe · 13/04/2008 18:08

Having said that Slayerette....John Barrowman?! I may start a new campaign to have you banned

iloatheironing · 13/04/2008 18:13

I've just had a thought. As op was done at 1.00 a.m. I now have a picture in my mind of NA and her mates after a night out all round computer thinking "I know, let's see if we can get this lot going on here" !!! Could all be someone's idea of a joke!

notjustmom · 13/04/2008 18:28

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slayerette · 13/04/2008 18:33

Oh dear, I know I should have kept quiet about that!

Will slink back to nancy thread...

(so what did stalkerette do to get banned? I can see why you'd get the two of us confused - hadn't realised there was someone with such a similar name on here)

chavtastic · 13/04/2008 18:35

She said that she had not strapped her ds carseat in properly once - it didn't sound like a regular habit.
And most of us have walked out of the room very briefly (if only to get a towel) when a child was in the bath.
She should use her own seatbelt, but then most of us should lose weight, smoke less, get some exercise, eat some veg, etc. etc...
I didn't really see an issue with most of the other stuff she posted.
Although admittedly... why she felt the need to post it and pretend to solicit solidarity in these things I'm not sure about.
Shame, really, I get really upset at the constant expectation on MN and in other media that we are failures if we're not perfect mothers, wouldn't mind a sensible thread on that sort of theme.
Maybe NA's admissions are just too honest for most people to bear.

justabouttohavelunch · 13/04/2008 18:39

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niceglasses · 13/04/2008 18:43

Pretty much what I've been trying (badly) to say too.

I know nothing about NA - but it read as pretty lighthearted to me. Apart from the seatbelt stuff, very much minor. Don't get the leading to problems and being excluded from playdates at all!........

DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe · 13/04/2008 18:44

Stalkerette - psycho who posted Cod's dh and children's name on a heated baby name thread.

Slayerette - John Barrowman Fan.

I'll let the jury decide who should have been banned

notjustmom · 13/04/2008 18:47

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niceglasses · 13/04/2008 18:57

Well I guess we will have to wait for her to reappear

kerryk · 13/04/2008 18:58

"Don't get the leading to problems and being excluded from playdates at all!........"

but niceglasses it will happen, i have met up with mums before who do the whole "if someone hits you thump them back harder" routine and the kids are a nightmare.

i have one friend who chooses her own frinds by how well there children behave when at her house, i sometimes think she has a very good point.

niceglasses · 13/04/2008 19:02

I have friends who say that too, but wouldn't say their kids are a nightmare!

I just find things are being taken out of context here, hence we should probably leave for her to come back. For one, she said she was really 'anal' about ripping and drawing on walls, not the other way round! Fairs fair.

getmeouttahere · 13/04/2008 19:11

No child who~

  1. hit another kid and didn't get reprimanded

  2. jumped on my furniture

  3. thought it was ok to ride a trike, rollerskate etc indoors

~ would be welcomed back a 2nd time to my house.

SugarSkyHigh · 13/04/2008 19:21

the worst crime was the not washing hands after changing poo-ey nappy imo