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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 01:09

fantastic website here to give you tips

come on own up! what things do you do that make people gasp in horror? are you the sort of mum who wipes dummies and bottle tears on your tshirt and gives straight back if they get dropped? i have done it with biscuits too stuff the 3 second rule - it's 10 seconds here!! i always forget to wash my hands after nappy changes too and tbh i only use wipes and water for poohey nappies. with wet ones i just take it off and put the new one on straight away

i am often forgetting to brush ds' teeth. we never brush them at nighttime and he will sometimes go 2 days without having them brushed. must remember to step this up a bit when he gets his adult teeth.

i don't change ds' nappy as often as i should. i did have to dry ds trousers under the handdryer in the toilets though cos i had left one on too long. usually try and change him about every 4 hours but sometimes i just ... forget. he normally only has a bath and hairwash once a week but episodes like this mean he sometimes has an extra one midweek.

also once when we weren't travelling far and it was pitch black i didn't strap the car seat in properly, just put it on the back seat. we had a very awkward car seat that in 2 peoples cars does not strap in properly. i just made sure the front seat is right against it so it can't go anywhere. our car seat was one of those that lies flat when on the pushchair, so in the car is meant to be in the most upright position. at 3 months old this didn't look very comfortable but did it anyway as i couldnt get the car seat in my friends car if i didn't. cue gasps from this woman saying oooh he shouldn't be upright like that. cue her saying oh my dd got her ds one of those door bouncers - you should get him one. now to me they look dangerous!

oh and not really child related but i rarely wear a seatbelt myself. i do in other people's cars though ...

oh and weight limits and warnings on baby products. ds sat in his baby seat for months after he could sit up and was over the weight limit.

the only thing i would be anal about really is drawing on walls and ripping wallpaper which luckily ds hasn't done yet. he is allowed to play with balls in the house, and ride his trike and ride ons in the house too. i also let him push his cars along the wall. have to watch him at other people's houses cos they usually tell their kids off for that. will let him skate in the house too when he's old enough.

not at this stage yet, but my mum used to sometimes let me have the day off school just because and i will probably let ds occasionally have a day off. for me it was usually because i hadn't done some homework that was due in.

when i go out for the day and take milk i just shove it in my handbag - no chilled cool bags for ds! oh and i feed him cold milk and have fed him cold baby food before. i often don't plan meals then he is screaming for dinner so in a mad panic i will open the fridge i give him whatever is edible uncooked. yesterday he had ham, malt loaf with butter and a cherry yohghurt altogether on his highchair. he ate the yoghurt first. today he had banana, meatballs, yoghurt and chocolate brioche.

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iloatheironing · 13/04/2008 16:21

I'm pretty relaxed about child rearing btw. My sil would have a coronary if she were to read this!!!

CatIsSleepy · 13/04/2008 16:23

NA pleeeeease wear a seat-belt
it's such a simple thing and could save your life one day

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iloatheironing · 13/04/2008 16:27

WatsTheStory I couldn't agree more. As I said in earlier posts my ds has sn from birth. Not caused by anything I did but I still feel responsible. So I have no understanding why someone would risk their own or their childs health/life like that.

windygalestoday · 13/04/2008 16:29

there seemed to be v long list of stuff nappy found 'acceptable' im not a gold str mummy but ive allowed hardly any of those things in her list we dont do drawing on walls or not teethbrushing we certainly dont do wet nappies for 4 hours and we definitely dont do 2 yr old playing unattended and cutting feet because they wont wear shoes when you are a parent you have to 'parent' its not rocket science- however we didnt have safety gates fireguards or plug socket covers cos you cant beat viligance - im not accusing nyone of neglect perhaps bravado but several years ago i worked for the social services helping parent aquire skills to parent effectively and i have to say some of the things on that list would have beyond their imgination too and they were the ones 'needing support'.

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windygalestoday · 13/04/2008 16:31

i would be v interested to read what articles have been published detailing the inadequacies of car seats for the over 2s?

WallOfSilence · 13/04/2008 16:32

WG: Perhaps NA's mum knows she needs support & this is why she is reluctant to let her move out of home? Maybe the way she looks at it is if she has her GS some of the time then she knows he's being looked after in a safer way?

fizzbuzz · 13/04/2008 16:36

What's the pillow thing. Dd has apillow at 21mo. I thought that was OK?

She was in PJ's until 2.30pm today Am very tired as next door neighbours turned on their radio at 6.30am full blast today and woke me up. I was so confused I thought it was in our room..So do have a sort of excuse

ItsNotYouItsMe · 13/04/2008 16:48

So this was a troll post?

Ha fucking ha

windygalestoday · 13/04/2008 16:50

i cant even say this is down to the 'foolishness of youth' i was 19 when i had ds 1

WallOfSilence · 13/04/2008 16:55

NA isn't a troll.

My sister was 16 when she had her dd & there's NO WAY she would have left her alone in the bath... ever.

ItsNotYouItsMe · 13/04/2008 16:57

WOS it was lucyellensmum's post that made me wonder.

I'd rather it was a troll than someone not securing a fucking car seat and leaving a baby in the bath (and so on)

mumofdjandbabies · 13/04/2008 16:58

Testing

notjustmom · 13/04/2008 16:59

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FYIAD · 13/04/2008 17:02

lOLOLLOLOLOL

nappyaddict lives at home with her parents

god, its all becoming clear to me now

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VictorianSqualor · 13/04/2008 17:14

I have to say I am not a perfect parent, and I assume that was the point of this thread, but some of the things you've said NA are pretty neglectful.
I just hope that you were going OTT for humour value.

kerryk · 13/04/2008 17:18

nappyaddict are you still lurking?

you have been given a hard time here (for justified reasons) but notjustmoms post has highlighted the fact that there may be much more to this.

windygalestoday · 13/04/2008 17:26

she was also responsible for a thread about leaving ds in the house alone at night whilst she worked and giving the next door neighbour a baby intercom and a doorkey for emergencies?

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VictorianSqualor · 13/04/2008 17:30

TBH, I think NA is just a pretty typical young single mother who sometimes finds it hard to cope.
There are also issues with her and her mother which can't help, although I think this thread ahs got out of hand and she has posted threads which weren't necessarily the best ideas but from what I can gather she has listened to the advice given and not risked her child.

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VictorianSqualor · 13/04/2008 17:43

I've only skimmed this thread, I was talking about her previous threads.
Thoguh I have been on another thread where practically every poster admitted leaving their Dc in the bath for a minute whilst grabbing a towel or w/e.
Car seats however, no excuse, sorry I missed that.
What age was the tummy sleeping thing?
Playing unattended, well, I think that's something else we have probably all done with an almost two year old.
As I said though, have only skimmed so if I've missed that she buggers off down the pub and leaves him or was putting him to sleep on his tummy from two days old, well that's different.