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hands up if you are a slummy mummy??

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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 01:09

fantastic website here to give you tips

come on own up! what things do you do that make people gasp in horror? are you the sort of mum who wipes dummies and bottle tears on your tshirt and gives straight back if they get dropped? i have done it with biscuits too stuff the 3 second rule - it's 10 seconds here!! i always forget to wash my hands after nappy changes too and tbh i only use wipes and water for poohey nappies. with wet ones i just take it off and put the new one on straight away

i am often forgetting to brush ds' teeth. we never brush them at nighttime and he will sometimes go 2 days without having them brushed. must remember to step this up a bit when he gets his adult teeth.

i don't change ds' nappy as often as i should. i did have to dry ds trousers under the handdryer in the toilets though cos i had left one on too long. usually try and change him about every 4 hours but sometimes i just ... forget. he normally only has a bath and hairwash once a week but episodes like this mean he sometimes has an extra one midweek.

also once when we weren't travelling far and it was pitch black i didn't strap the car seat in properly, just put it on the back seat. we had a very awkward car seat that in 2 peoples cars does not strap in properly. i just made sure the front seat is right against it so it can't go anywhere. our car seat was one of those that lies flat when on the pushchair, so in the car is meant to be in the most upright position. at 3 months old this didn't look very comfortable but did it anyway as i couldnt get the car seat in my friends car if i didn't. cue gasps from this woman saying oooh he shouldn't be upright like that. cue her saying oh my dd got her ds one of those door bouncers - you should get him one. now to me they look dangerous!

oh and not really child related but i rarely wear a seatbelt myself. i do in other people's cars though ...

oh and weight limits and warnings on baby products. ds sat in his baby seat for months after he could sit up and was over the weight limit.

the only thing i would be anal about really is drawing on walls and ripping wallpaper which luckily ds hasn't done yet. he is allowed to play with balls in the house, and ride his trike and ride ons in the house too. i also let him push his cars along the wall. have to watch him at other people's houses cos they usually tell their kids off for that. will let him skate in the house too when he's old enough.

not at this stage yet, but my mum used to sometimes let me have the day off school just because and i will probably let ds occasionally have a day off. for me it was usually because i hadn't done some homework that was due in.

when i go out for the day and take milk i just shove it in my handbag - no chilled cool bags for ds! oh and i feed him cold milk and have fed him cold baby food before. i often don't plan meals then he is screaming for dinner so in a mad panic i will open the fridge i give him whatever is edible uncooked. yesterday he had ham, malt loaf with butter and a cherry yohghurt altogether on his highchair. he ate the yoghurt first. today he had banana, meatballs, yoghurt and chocolate brioche.

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Mhamai · 13/04/2008 04:41

It will happen. x

nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 10:37

few ... was quite nervous to come on and read this today. i love you mhamai for not slating me

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allgonebellyup · 13/04/2008 10:42

im a lazy mum too

Well i am a lazy person generally.

Our toilet is hardly ever cleaned

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Janni · 13/04/2008 11:35

I'm currently reading 'The Secret Life of a Slummy Mummy', by Fiona Neill. It's very funny and you can tell she knows all about the secret chaos of which we pretend we're in control..

nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 11:38

i'm reading that too.

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fiodyl · 13/04/2008 11:41

nappyadict you sound like me, we do all that stuff 2 and more.

DD drew on the living room door, i cleaned it off but tok some of the paint off at the same time so let her draw on it again 2 cover that up.

If we r not going out and no 1 is coming over i let them stay in pyjamas till lunchtime.If we go 2 the park i let them crawl around and get muddy then we go 2 the shop on the way home and buy chocolate I t thm eat it without washing their hands.

TF- who cares if a small child smells a bit of wee, and who goes round smelling them 2 c if they do or not and in wot way do u treat them differently if they do?

justabouttohavelunch · 13/04/2008 11:51

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TheCoderator · 13/04/2008 11:53

the seat belt hign is odd isnt it

nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 11:58

what odd that i don't wear it in our car but do in other people's?

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soapbox · 13/04/2008 11:59

Nice for your child to see his mother's brains splattered over the windscreen, if an accident were to happen.

Hey ho! As long as you are enjoying yourself!

TheCoderator · 13/04/2008 12:00

the whoel thign abotu choosign whtehr to

nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 12:02

i must admit i do wear it more since ds came along. i think it must be in the back of my mind about setting an example.

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fiodyl · 13/04/2008 12:04

oh i forgot to say i let them eat cat food and start food fights with them.

also is it just me but i dont get why u have to wash different coloured clothes separately, they still all get clean when u put them in together

nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 12:13

i have read many articles saying that car seats aren't that beneficial once they reach the age of about 2. before the car seat law came in i didn't know anyone who used a car seat over the age of that. car seats were always for babies not pre-schoolers before it came in. as i said i did it once on the basis that if i did strap it in i couldn't see what i was doing and would probably not be doing any good anyway, we were travelling slowly (probably about 10-15mph) and car crashes don't happen that often. it isn't something i would do regularly and i haven't done it since just incase people are thinking i do this all the time.

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NoBiggy · 13/04/2008 12:17

fiodyl, you are aware that some dye runs, in some clothes? That's why you wash them seperately, not because the washing magic stops.

DP once put one new white baby sock in with his navy tracksuit. Both would have been OK, she would have just had a pair of dingy blue/grey socks, but she had one sparkly white and one blue/grey.

Oh, and no one gives a wee-wee child the same smiles and hugs as a sweet-scented one. You can see that at playgroups. SIL would let the nephews stay in vests that had been leaked on a bit. They weren't uncomfortable I daresay, but it didn't take long for them to get that acrid stale wee smell.

fiodyl · 13/04/2008 12:20

i can honestly say ive never known dye from ny clothes run, maybe if u buy clothes from places other than primark this happens?

NoBiggy · 13/04/2008 12:24

Can happen with heavily dyed clothes, cotton is more leaky too in my experience. I had some super-black jeans that even marked my cream chair, without water getting near them.

I had some lurid pink thing of the girls' that ran the other day. Not every cloth will pick up the dye either. Cotton collars on rugby shirts, they can go a fetching shade of pink (if you're lucky ;))

TheCoderator · 13/04/2008 13:17

what articles

FairyMum · 13/04/2008 13:25

I am probably a bit slummy, but never compromises on safety. That's not slummy, just stupid.

TheCoderator · 13/04/2008 13:26

its hardyl a hassle is it? clunck

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TheCoderator · 13/04/2008 13:26

but he wallpaper thats a different thign

nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 13:27

fiodyl there's more here too.

we wear pjs all day unless we are going out or people are comin over.
didn't bother sterilising
used microwave to heat stuff up for him rather than a jug of water
leave him in his high chair unattended ditto bath.
never arrange food into smiley faces etc
don't use baby talk (nee nar, pussy wussy etc)
he went into his own room straight away.
he still drinks out of a bottle at nearly 2 cos he won't entertain the idea of a sippy cup.
don't force ds to say sorry or share as long as he didn't snatch the toy in the first place.
i don't make him stay at the table with us. if he's finished he can go off and play.
never been to see the hv.
if ds gets hit by another child and he hits them back i let them get on with it. don't get the "it's always wrong to hit" ... erm not if they hit you first it's not.
i allow ds to have pudding even if he doesn't clear his plate.
don't sit in the back of the car with ds.
never limit naps unless he is likely to sleep past 5.
put hot water in the bath whiles he's in it. he likes to stay in it for ages and it usually goes cold before he wants to get out.
check bath temperature with my hand and milk temperature by feeling the bottle.
let ds sleep on his side and front. he had a pillow under his sheet before 12 months too.
let him eat spag bol that has wine in it.
forget to tell him to wash his hands before eating, but i don't tend to bother doing that myself.
i let him touch things like photos, tv, remote turn the stereo on and off.
i take the batteries out of annoying toys and tell him they're broken

cod not sure of exact ones i read but if you google it you'll probably find some.

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TheCoderator · 13/04/2008 13:41

i htink that a lot fo yout thing s are silly htough there is no alcohhol lef tin cooked wine...

you wait till eh is older

do you a have many mates?

nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 13:52

oh and he plays inside on his own whilst i'm in the garden.

cod - i put my seatbelt on if i remember and think about it. more often than not i just don't remember but am remembering to do it more recently. the times i forget are mainly when ds isn't with me. i don't have him to think about strapping in and it just doesn't cross my mind. if i see someone else put there's on it reminds me (hence doing it in other people's cars.) my step-dad doesn't wear his so if i'm with him it just doesn't occur to me to do it. i am trying to remember more though.

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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 13:53

that's exactly what i think about wine in food. but i know some people wouldn't just incase.

yeah loads of mates ... why?

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