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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 01:09

fantastic website here to give you tips

come on own up! what things do you do that make people gasp in horror? are you the sort of mum who wipes dummies and bottle tears on your tshirt and gives straight back if they get dropped? i have done it with biscuits too stuff the 3 second rule - it's 10 seconds here!! i always forget to wash my hands after nappy changes too and tbh i only use wipes and water for poohey nappies. with wet ones i just take it off and put the new one on straight away

i am often forgetting to brush ds' teeth. we never brush them at nighttime and he will sometimes go 2 days without having them brushed. must remember to step this up a bit when he gets his adult teeth.

i don't change ds' nappy as often as i should. i did have to dry ds trousers under the handdryer in the toilets though cos i had left one on too long. usually try and change him about every 4 hours but sometimes i just ... forget. he normally only has a bath and hairwash once a week but episodes like this mean he sometimes has an extra one midweek.

also once when we weren't travelling far and it was pitch black i didn't strap the car seat in properly, just put it on the back seat. we had a very awkward car seat that in 2 peoples cars does not strap in properly. i just made sure the front seat is right against it so it can't go anywhere. our car seat was one of those that lies flat when on the pushchair, so in the car is meant to be in the most upright position. at 3 months old this didn't look very comfortable but did it anyway as i couldnt get the car seat in my friends car if i didn't. cue gasps from this woman saying oooh he shouldn't be upright like that. cue her saying oh my dd got her ds one of those door bouncers - you should get him one. now to me they look dangerous!

oh and not really child related but i rarely wear a seatbelt myself. i do in other people's cars though ...

oh and weight limits and warnings on baby products. ds sat in his baby seat for months after he could sit up and was over the weight limit.

the only thing i would be anal about really is drawing on walls and ripping wallpaper which luckily ds hasn't done yet. he is allowed to play with balls in the house, and ride his trike and ride ons in the house too. i also let him push his cars along the wall. have to watch him at other people's houses cos they usually tell their kids off for that. will let him skate in the house too when he's old enough.

not at this stage yet, but my mum used to sometimes let me have the day off school just because and i will probably let ds occasionally have a day off. for me it was usually because i hadn't done some homework that was due in.

when i go out for the day and take milk i just shove it in my handbag - no chilled cool bags for ds! oh and i feed him cold milk and have fed him cold baby food before. i often don't plan meals then he is screaming for dinner so in a mad panic i will open the fridge i give him whatever is edible uncooked. yesterday he had ham, malt loaf with butter and a cherry yohghurt altogether on his highchair. he ate the yoghurt first. today he had banana, meatballs, yoghurt and chocolate brioche.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 14:22

my mum has him saturday afternoon, from 5pm sundays and tuesdays from 4pm on mondays so it's not like i don't get any help. i did used to feel like that in someways (which you will probably see in older threads of mine) but not anymore. i realised staying in the house all day with him was making me resent him. i didn't want to play with him, i wanted to be on here all day. it was probably some form of depression that i couldn't get out of cos i wasn't trying to get out of it. now we go out most days and when we come back i still want to play with him. it's like going to toddler groups with him switched on some light in my head and made me start enjoying him more. so yes whilst you may have been right a few months ago, you aren't anymore.

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kerryk · 14/04/2008 15:06

hope i did not cause any offence.

oranges · 14/04/2008 15:08

this is getting slightly like a witchhunt....

Interested in this thread?

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 15:10

no offence taken

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ChocolateRockingHorse · 14/04/2008 15:42

I don't think so oranges. NA posted to get reactions. She got them.

hifi · 14/04/2008 16:15

nappy, you look very well presented on your profile and i can remember a couple of posts where you have given advice on how to keep up appearances. you seem to take a lot of care with yourself dont you think your child should also have that same level of attention?

justabouta · 14/04/2008 16:55

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frankiesbestfriend · 14/04/2008 20:56

I agree, justabouta.

I dont agree with everything you say, NA, but I think you are brave and honest.
I havent read anything that would cause SS to get involved FGS.

Do your best to be a good mummy, take on board the constructive advice from this thread, and disregard some of the more insulting comments.

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 23:16

i didn't post to get reactions but hey ho.

i give my child as much attention as he needs. he is loved, played with and stimulated. there are a few things that i need to find out more about such as suncream, and whether it is necessary to wash hands before eating even if we aren't eating with our hands cos i would hate to make him poorly. i have found out that by not wearing my own seatbelt i could be endangering ds so because i know i won't remember i have put a big sign in marker pen on the back of the driver's seat to remind me.

thankyou for those calling be brave and honest but i'm not. well it seems i may be too honest, but i'm not brave!

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Quattrocento · 14/04/2008 23:26

I am clearly going to have to start a thread for uptight and anal mummies ...

S1ur · 14/04/2008 23:38

Hello NA.

Okay since you wondered. Babies and childrens' skin is more delicate than adults so should be kept covered in summer when they're outside particularly between 11-3. and sun cream (at least spf 15) on all uncovered parts. Sun cream needs to be put on 20mins or so before going out becasue it needs to be absorbed into skin. A hat to shade their faces and keep their heads from getting hot is also really good. alink for you

I realise this is an ideal. I don't keep my dcs inside between 11-3 in the summer but I do try to encourage time in the shade, so if we're setting up camp in the park I pick a shady spot. My dcs don't always keep their hats on but I persist and occasionally they forget they're wearing them.

skin care in the sun

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Hand washing

Is important to minimise spread of germs ect. Using cutlery reduces the risk of transfer, but children always end up using fingers a bit and adults often wipe mouths. I am not as fussy as I probably should be about washing hands before eating I admit. But I acknowlege it is a good thing to do to repvent yucky stomach bugs among other things.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 23:54

ok so i should wash ds' hands cos he might use his fingers, but really i don't need to wash my own if i am going to use cutlery. it always did seem bizarre to me. least i know now i was partially right.

my question was actually if sun damages the skin even if we don't get burnt why do they only insist we wear it in the summer? i always thought if ds was wearing a tshirt and knee length shorts it wasn't really necessary to put sun cream on when his arms and legs don't burn cos they are used to being in the sun.

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WallOfSilence · 14/04/2008 23:57

What's with digging your heels in re: hand washing?

It's a basic hygiene thing NA, it takes 2 minutes, it's good manners...

Not hand washing is how you can make other people ill.

ChocolateRockingHorse · 15/04/2008 00:00

Was wondering that. It seems a funny thing to rebel over. Am also wondering what's so important to do in the next room when DS has a bath.

I can't help wondering and it seems I can't stop judging.

And we all post to get reactions NA, every single one of us. If you post something radical then more so!

WendyWeber · 15/04/2008 00:01

"They" don't only insist we wear it in the summer, but the rest of the year the temp isn't usually warm enough for us to be swanning around half-nekkid, is it?

Broadly speaking, if it's warm enough to strip off it's warm enough for sunscreen.

However the sun is closer and stronger in the summer - right overhead instead of not far above the horizon (compare summer shadows with winter shadows) - and more likely to do damage.

Honestly though na, most of this is simple common sense! Why do you need a notice to remind you that an unrestrained body flying around a car in an accident is a Bad Thing?

Mamazon · 15/04/2008 00:02

Not read teh whole thread properly but i have skimmed.

NA i think what people are saying is that whether the risk is minimal or not, it is there.

your skin may not burn if it is "used to being in the sun" but your skin can be damaged even though it doesn't appear to burn.

As for handwashing. it really is your own choice but i woudl rather not run the risk of putting fecal stained fingers in my mouth.

I think many have discussed the dangers of the car seat and you are aware taht this was wrng.

No what you have described wouldn't be enough to land you in any trouble with SS but at the same time i don't think the parenting practices you have described are ones i would advocate to others.

nappyaddict · 15/04/2008 00:12

erm why would my fingers be fecal stained? i wash them after going to the toilet, after touching animals, after messing outside in the garden and before cooking. i'm not digging my heels i just don't understand why it's necessary if i'm not going to be touching the food. to me it just seems illogical if that's a word.

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Mamazon · 15/04/2008 00:15

because your hands are usuallky covered in more bacteria than the sole of your shoe.

people touch their face without even realising hundreds of times a day.

It is higihly likely that you hand will be in or around your own or your childs mouth at some point and the bacteria could be transfered.

In all seriousness NA i am surprised you seem to not get this. do you think that hospitals spend thousands on anti bac gels and hand cleasning campaigns each year even though its illogical?

nappyaddict · 15/04/2008 00:22

as for sun cream - i don't know about you but i still tan even when using it and so does ds. i remember being told that if you tan the damage has been done, so if you don't need sun cream to stop you from burning it seems it doesn't stop you from tanning anyway so therefore isn't stopping the damage and is a bit pointless. that is why i've only ever put sun cream on ds if he's been going around with just his nappy on or it has been very hot (about 28 degrees plus)

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nappyaddict · 15/04/2008 00:23

well see that's another confusing one. i always thought anti-bac handwash is actually not that good for you.

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WendyWeber · 15/04/2008 00:38

Have you ever thought of running for Govt, na? You could take over the Dept of Health and save us all from doing a lot of pointless unnecessary things

TheLittleElf · 15/04/2008 00:56

"btw i don't drive so my not wearing a seatbelt doesn't endanger others."

Well actually NA, by doing this you are endangering your sons future! If god forbid you were in an accident, you wouldn't stand a chance. How would your sons future look then?

Anything which puts a child at risk, directly or indirectly isn't in my opinion something which should be taken lightly. Children are gifts not to be taken for granted

THINK!!

nappyaddict · 15/04/2008 00:59

well you all seem to think he would be better off without me anyway. i'm going now so, bye.

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madamez · 15/04/2008 00:59

PMSL at this thread. DOn't forget, NappyAddict, that a dagger of frozen piss from an aeroplane could land on your head and kill you any time you're outside the house so do buy a crash helmet.

Flamestar · 15/04/2008 08:01

I know what she is getting at with the antibac stuff - it is the theory that we are using so much antibac in our homes etc (NOT within hospitals!) that it is how the resistant strains mrsa etc are growing more.