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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 01:09

fantastic website here to give you tips

come on own up! what things do you do that make people gasp in horror? are you the sort of mum who wipes dummies and bottle tears on your tshirt and gives straight back if they get dropped? i have done it with biscuits too stuff the 3 second rule - it's 10 seconds here!! i always forget to wash my hands after nappy changes too and tbh i only use wipes and water for poohey nappies. with wet ones i just take it off and put the new one on straight away

i am often forgetting to brush ds' teeth. we never brush them at nighttime and he will sometimes go 2 days without having them brushed. must remember to step this up a bit when he gets his adult teeth.

i don't change ds' nappy as often as i should. i did have to dry ds trousers under the handdryer in the toilets though cos i had left one on too long. usually try and change him about every 4 hours but sometimes i just ... forget. he normally only has a bath and hairwash once a week but episodes like this mean he sometimes has an extra one midweek.

also once when we weren't travelling far and it was pitch black i didn't strap the car seat in properly, just put it on the back seat. we had a very awkward car seat that in 2 peoples cars does not strap in properly. i just made sure the front seat is right against it so it can't go anywhere. our car seat was one of those that lies flat when on the pushchair, so in the car is meant to be in the most upright position. at 3 months old this didn't look very comfortable but did it anyway as i couldnt get the car seat in my friends car if i didn't. cue gasps from this woman saying oooh he shouldn't be upright like that. cue her saying oh my dd got her ds one of those door bouncers - you should get him one. now to me they look dangerous!

oh and not really child related but i rarely wear a seatbelt myself. i do in other people's cars though ...

oh and weight limits and warnings on baby products. ds sat in his baby seat for months after he could sit up and was over the weight limit.

the only thing i would be anal about really is drawing on walls and ripping wallpaper which luckily ds hasn't done yet. he is allowed to play with balls in the house, and ride his trike and ride ons in the house too. i also let him push his cars along the wall. have to watch him at other people's houses cos they usually tell their kids off for that. will let him skate in the house too when he's old enough.

not at this stage yet, but my mum used to sometimes let me have the day off school just because and i will probably let ds occasionally have a day off. for me it was usually because i hadn't done some homework that was due in.

when i go out for the day and take milk i just shove it in my handbag - no chilled cool bags for ds! oh and i feed him cold milk and have fed him cold baby food before. i often don't plan meals then he is screaming for dinner so in a mad panic i will open the fridge i give him whatever is edible uncooked. yesterday he had ham, malt loaf with butter and a cherry yohghurt altogether on his highchair. he ate the yoghurt first. today he had banana, meatballs, yoghurt and chocolate brioche.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:34

a blind person is going to be used to doing it by just feeling though. i wasn't. it was the first time i had put it in that particular car and the next day when we tried to put it in again we realised the belt was too short and i needed to sit it up more for it to fit. i hadn't realised that the night before hence why i couldn't get it to fit. i assumed it was just cos it was dark. again that is something i have already explained.

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nailpolish · 14/04/2008 13:36

use your common sense for gods sake

the sun is not as strong in winter as its further from the earth (or our part of it)

cutlery - i cant believe i am typing this - ye syou still need to wash your hands if you use cutlery - the cutlery is being held by your hands for gods sake

"wee is sterile" PMSL

TheDevilWearsPenneys · 14/04/2008 13:36

Napyaddict when DD was 9 months she was in the bath in a seat happily playing, I realised her towel was out on the landing and went out to get it, as I came back she tipped herself up and submerged herself and the weight of the seat was keeping her down. Had I not walked back in that second ....(my heart stops to even think about it)

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:36

oh and after that clip someone posted i have been out and put a post it note on the back of the seat saying seatbelt so i remember. i didn't know by not wearing your seatbelt you could endanger others.

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iloatheironing · 14/04/2008 13:37

My ds1 was born nearly 20 years ago so I was a parent back then...You make me feel soooo old!! I still didn't do some of the things you say you do.
I think the age thing is part of the key here. I don't believe you are unaware of the risks you are taking just that your perception of the risk is different from mine. Hence why young kids, for example, are still smoking...they all know the risk but have no comprehension of the health implicatons when they are older. Hey at 13 being 45 or 50 is an unimaginable lifetime away so why worry that you might get cancer or heart disease!!!It's a different story when you are a bit nearer that age.
My perception of risk changed when my ds was born because his disability is so very rare yet it happened to me or rather him.
I went through the "why me" phase and have now reached the "why not me" phase. What I'm saying is that the odds of something happening to your ds may be extremely low... I don't know accident statitics offhand...but why risk it because those accidents do happen to someone and "why not" you. You would have to live with yourself afterwards too. The odds of my on having his particular condition are 1:50000 but he still has it and I still feel guilty because he does and I didn't do or not do anything to cause it

laurenj · 14/04/2008 13:38

I am shocked at the implication that social services should somehow become involved. ?and I also think it would be a very good idea to hide your personal details. You do need to be careful, this is a public forum and there are a lot of posters on this thread who do not understand the ?tone? of your OP, and who will deliberately interpret anything you say defending yourself as ?backtracking".

You know about the car seat thing already ? you only did it once - and you?ve already said you are in the room with your little boy at bathtime. You're not going to get anywhere else with this. Really. I'd stop digging.....

TheDevilWearsPenneys · 14/04/2008 13:38

And in such a car seat situation I would have waited for a taxi or family or friends to take us home safely. Why chance it?

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:38

its not like one of those bath ring seats. we used to have one of those and ds tipped back in it so i never used it again and got the other one instead which he couldn't tip back in.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:42

a friend was taking us home - he was the only person that could cos everyone else had been drinking and had already gone on somewhere else. i suppose i could have walked to get signal on my phone and order a taxi but tbh i would have been rather scared to walk down a country lane on my own in the dark and it didn't occur to me to do that at the time.

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justabouta · 14/04/2008 13:44

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VictorianSqualor · 14/04/2008 13:45

The wee is sterile bit I got jumped on about when I first posted on MN.
I said I'd told Ds not to play with his penis, and was told off, saying I could damage him, I used the argument that he could have wee on his hands and was told by a number of posters that wee is in fact, sterile.

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:46

see i thought you only had to worry about them losing heat from their head with small babies.

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TheDevilWearsPenneys · 14/04/2008 13:46

(not to mention how unpleasant it is for a child who is incapable of doing anything about it)

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VictorianSqualor · 14/04/2008 13:51

How long is his hair? I know DS's dries in about 5 minutes by itself so I never dry his hair.
Obviously DD's is a different matter.

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:51

does it make a difference that he doesn't actually have much hair so even if he goes out with it wet it does dry very quickly? or that we only have a 5 minute walk to the bus stop from the swimming pool? where do i stand with wet hair in the summer? do i put a hat on to stop him from losing heat from wet hair or take it off so he doesn't get too hot from the warm weather?

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:55

but i didn't have experience so did take advice off here and it seems i shouldn't have done. i don't boast about it - this was meant to be a lighthearted thread to cheer someone up nothing to do with boasting. i don't really discuss what i do/don't do with other mums cos no one ever really asks.

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bluearsefly · 14/04/2008 13:59

certainly some amusing comments!!

VictorianSqualor · 14/04/2008 14:05

I think it's always wise to check with an HV if you have any doubts.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 14:09

if she's anything like one of the doctors at our surgery i'd rather not. she told me for 4 weeks ds was fine. i took him every day on the 4th week for 3 days cos he wasn't fine. on the 3rd day i closed the door and began to undress him. she said don't bother doing that i'm not examining and you won't be staying. i told you yesterday he's fine. ran out of the doctors crying and went straight up A&E. Where i got an earful cos he'd got bronchiolitus (SP??) and why the hell hadn't i brought him up sooner and if i'd left it another 12 hours it would be a totally different story

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kerryk · 14/04/2008 14:16

nappyaddict gp's and hv's are only human, they will make mistakes and you will also come across some who you will wonder how they ever managed to get the job in the first place (my own hv included in this)

this is when your mothers intuition (sp?) kicks in, no-one knows our babies as well as we do and we know ourselves when something is not right.

from reading your posts it comes across that you are lacking some kind of connection with your baby, it reads more that you have a diffrent ralationship, perhaps like a older sister who gets dumped with the annoying younger sibling.

i dont know you so could be totally of with that and i am sorry if thats the case. do you get a lot of support with your dc. just because you stay with family does not mean that you get help with everything. it must be really tough if you are coping with him most of the time on your own and working around him.