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nappyaddict · 13/04/2008 01:09

fantastic website here to give you tips

come on own up! what things do you do that make people gasp in horror? are you the sort of mum who wipes dummies and bottle tears on your tshirt and gives straight back if they get dropped? i have done it with biscuits too stuff the 3 second rule - it's 10 seconds here!! i always forget to wash my hands after nappy changes too and tbh i only use wipes and water for poohey nappies. with wet ones i just take it off and put the new one on straight away

i am often forgetting to brush ds' teeth. we never brush them at nighttime and he will sometimes go 2 days without having them brushed. must remember to step this up a bit when he gets his adult teeth.

i don't change ds' nappy as often as i should. i did have to dry ds trousers under the handdryer in the toilets though cos i had left one on too long. usually try and change him about every 4 hours but sometimes i just ... forget. he normally only has a bath and hairwash once a week but episodes like this mean he sometimes has an extra one midweek.

also once when we weren't travelling far and it was pitch black i didn't strap the car seat in properly, just put it on the back seat. we had a very awkward car seat that in 2 peoples cars does not strap in properly. i just made sure the front seat is right against it so it can't go anywhere. our car seat was one of those that lies flat when on the pushchair, so in the car is meant to be in the most upright position. at 3 months old this didn't look very comfortable but did it anyway as i couldnt get the car seat in my friends car if i didn't. cue gasps from this woman saying oooh he shouldn't be upright like that. cue her saying oh my dd got her ds one of those door bouncers - you should get him one. now to me they look dangerous!

oh and not really child related but i rarely wear a seatbelt myself. i do in other people's cars though ...

oh and weight limits and warnings on baby products. ds sat in his baby seat for months after he could sit up and was over the weight limit.

the only thing i would be anal about really is drawing on walls and ripping wallpaper which luckily ds hasn't done yet. he is allowed to play with balls in the house, and ride his trike and ride ons in the house too. i also let him push his cars along the wall. have to watch him at other people's houses cos they usually tell their kids off for that. will let him skate in the house too when he's old enough.

not at this stage yet, but my mum used to sometimes let me have the day off school just because and i will probably let ds occasionally have a day off. for me it was usually because i hadn't done some homework that was due in.

when i go out for the day and take milk i just shove it in my handbag - no chilled cool bags for ds! oh and i feed him cold milk and have fed him cold baby food before. i often don't plan meals then he is screaming for dinner so in a mad panic i will open the fridge i give him whatever is edible uncooked. yesterday he had ham, malt loaf with butter and a cherry yohghurt altogether on his highchair. he ate the yoghurt first. today he had banana, meatballs, yoghurt and chocolate brioche.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 12:46

you may think it doesn't make it right but i read this thread last year and it was after reading that i started leaving ds in the bath whilst i put clothes away cos it seemed as though people thought that was ok.

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bluenosesaint · 14/04/2008 12:49

I couldn't care less what 'people' think is ok - i weigh up the risks and do what I think is right!! I may ask for reassurance, but at the end of the day, i do what is right and safe for my child. As you must do for yours ...

bluenosesaint · 14/04/2008 12:51

As my mum would say, if put their finger in the fire - would you?

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 12:52

i never left him on the sofa until he could sit up which was 10 months.

My house isn't unclean, it might be a bit untidy with toys all over the place though. nappies go straight outisde cos they stink otherwise and get washed when it is full but never overflowing. i always clear stuff spilt on the floor cos otherwise it gets tread through the rest of the house. however ds snacks throughout the day to i tend to not give his highchair a proper clean until the end of the day.

It is hard to tell when they've got an ear infection though. Ds had one that went unnoticed for a while. When he started putting his hands over his ears all the time i took him to the doctors cos i thought he'd got an ear infection but it turns out he'd had it a few days without me realising.

As i said before i couldn't trust ds to go downstairs on his own. He has started turning the oven on so I just couldn't do it. He's never done anything like smear poo, draw or paint on the walls either and if he did I wouldn't be happy with him and would tell him off.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 12:54

People seemed to think it was safe as long as they went in if they stopped talking/singing etc so that's what I did. I really did think it was ok as long as I did that cos if they are still talking away they obviously aren't drowning unnoticed.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 14/04/2008 12:56

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Monkeytrousers · 14/04/2008 12:59

I often get DS's feel measured in Clarks as a guide then go buy shoes in shoe zone or such cheapy shop. It's more so we don;t have to buy leather - summer's okay as the Doodles come out then - but otherwise its cheap shoes shops - and they are always usually quite wide fitting too and you can get some quite funky ones

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:02

Btw when we are in next door's garden I do have the baby monitor. Not in our own cos I can hear him. His bedroom is at the back of house where the garden is.

I also check the temperature of bath water - but i use my hand not my elbow. I did check temperature of the milk but again by feeling it not by using my wrist. You get to know by feeling the bottle whether it's too hot or not. If the bottle felt too hot then I would test it on my wrist or in my mouth but if it felt ok I wouldn't. Wasn't really much of an issue cos he only had warm milk if he was poorly.

I also try to read to him every day but we normally read about 2 pages and then he snatches the book off me. I'm not going to read to him if he doesn't want me to.

He's not in a highchair anymore he sits at the table - but when he was in one he was always strapped in.

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staryeyed · 14/04/2008 13:03

NA did you not read all of that thread that you linked to about what moondog and burstingbug said?

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:05

mmj - as i explained on that thread it was a hypothetical thread to see why it wasn't acceptable. no one could really explain to me why it was more dangerous than x, y or z even though the monitor could be heard next door so i just had to accept it was and that was that. i never would have actually done it for fear of getting into trouble but i just wanted to know why it was different. i have an irrational need for everything to have logic behind it not just because that's the way it is.

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kerryk · 14/04/2008 13:06

nappyaddict you have so many pictures on your profile and information about where you work and study. it would be so easy for someone to recognise you in real life and they would have all the information they needed to get ss involved.

there was a thread going last week in chat from a poster who had been recognised in real life (who never had so much information in her profile) and it has caused her no end of hassle.

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:07

staryeyed - just looked and they posted quite near the end so i probably didn't see it at the time of first reading the thread, no.

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kerryk · 14/04/2008 13:08

sorry reading that back it sounds like a threat, i did not mean it like that at all. all i am meaning is that if you are exagerating on here it could come back to bite you on the arse.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:14

although i will say it does just prove that even if you are in the room you can't always be quick enough to stop things from happening. and as moondog said she heard a noise so she went in. she didn't hear a noise and ignore it for 10 minutes and then go into find a drowned child and i wouldn't do that either. as i have said many times as soon as i couldn't hear him any more i would go in to check him. before he could stand alone he sat in one of these which goes around their waist, so even though he could pull up on furniture i think it discouraged him from doing it in the bath cos he never did. now he can stand alone i've stopped using it and i've noticed he's forever standing up which is why i no longer leave him.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:15

justabout a - i am not going against older generations of parenting. if anything i'm sticking with it. most of these things were quite common about 20 years ago. you saw the thread so i assume you know i never actually would have done that?

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:17

i have just remembered something. we were taught at school in history that the reason everyone washes their hands before eating is because before cutlery we all ate with our hands. cutlery was introduced so you didn't need to worry about germs getting onto the food apparently. so that's probably why i only wash my hands when eating things like sandwiches that you don't use cutlery for. it does make logical sense to me but if anyone can explain to me why you still need to do it when using cutlery i will happily begin doing it.

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TheDevilWearsPenneys · 14/04/2008 13:21

NA you just keep doing it, you ignore advice, go on the defensive or just offer more details. If you need help just ask. If not then , as others have said, be careful what you are posting here.

nailpolish · 14/04/2008 13:22

nappyaddict

not washing your hands after going to the toilet - are you thick? or trying ot be funny? would you dip your hands in a bucket of piss then go and touch things like ds's clothes, or a knife you are cutting his food with, or a cup he is about to drink from? you do know that bacteria multiply dont you? what are you studying at college? for the love of god please dont say nursing

and i am still speechless about the car seat. it was dark? so bloody what! cars have an internal light you know. that just plain laziness and selfishness

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:26

i said i do wash hands after going to the toilet or even like when at work i go into the toilet to use my phone even though i haven't used the toilet i still wash my hands.

DWP - i don't call that backtracking - just explaining myself if people have got the wrong end of the stick cos i didn't explain myself well enough in the first place.

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nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:28

what's wrong with going out with wet hair? i've always done it myself. catching cold is just an old wives tale. you can't catch a cold or catch your death from going out with wet hair.

oh and our car doesn't have an internal light in the back else there wouldn't have been a problem.

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TheDevilWearsPenneys · 14/04/2008 13:29

y pint seems to be going right over your head.

You have posts like this that flare up so often, and I personally, though I don't even know you, worry about you.

Yet you seem yo not take on board what people are saying.

nailpolish · 14/04/2008 13:31

can you imagine

"officer, it was too dark to put his car seat in properly"

a blind person can fit a car seat. im sure you could in dim light

no one is laughing, nappyaddict. so cut it out, will you?

nappyaddict · 14/04/2008 13:32

i have taken it on board.

i have asked people to explain about the cutlery. if they can explain to me why it is necessary i will start doing it. i asked the same about changing just a wet disposable where your hands don't touch any wee (btw wee is sterile so even if your hands do touch wee it doesn't matter but i obviously don't want my hands to smell of wee so if using a reusable where i have to handle the wet nappy i wash them) i asked someone to explain about suncream cos i didn't know your skin was getting damaged unless you were getting burnt. in that case why aren't we told to wear it in the winter too? there were probably other things i asked people to explain, yet no one did.

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