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22 month old swearing “F-ing Hell” - how do we stop it?!

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aimeeeleanor · 07/05/2024 19:05

Our 22 month old repeats absolutely everything we say

We are ordinarily very good at censoring ourselves when our DC is around. However…. His Dad did slip up & said ‘Fing Hell’ in the car when someone about forced us off the road whilst driving the other day (naughty daddy! But of course human). DC repeated straight away & has now taken to saying it whenever he gets in the car

It doesn’t help that it’s in the most perfect & eloquent english you’ve ever heard in your life, every syllable is so crisp 😅so it is funny, but of course we don’t show him that we laugh

We just completely ignore it & try to talk about something else

Any tips on how to get him to stop / forget it?! My Mum heard him say it for the first time & cried, made me feel very guilty… I mean very dramatic but I get that he shouldn’t be doing it

Any help appreciated :) thanks so much

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Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 07/05/2024 20:09

They're just words. Ignore as others have said or change to something else. Loads of words at that age also sound sweary when they're not. I'll forever remember having to let the nursery know that my daughter was saying shoe not shit.

My 3 year old has suddenly started saying 'oh biscuits'...i blame bluey. Its quite cute though.

Dontknowwhyidoit · 07/05/2024 20:13

My 3 year old daughter who was very late in learning to speak, once came out with " for fuck sake" it wasn't parroted so she must have heard it prior and then decided to say it at an appropriate moment. I ignored it, while secretly being happy that she was starting to say words. I personally wouldn't worry about it, loads of kids say swear words when they are first learning to talk and your mother's reaction was OTT in my opinion.

Morph22010 · 07/05/2024 20:14

slaggybumbum · 07/05/2024 19:23

Happened to me- called a man trying to force us over the edge of a cliff side a ‘stupid wanker’ 4 year old on it straight away. ‘ Oh dad, mum said a naughty word’ we look at each other - ‘ Mummy you mustn’t say naughty words’ I agreed I wouldn’t do it again and he said,’ That’s right mum, ‘stupid” is a naughty word.’
Would suggest you focus on the ‘hell’ in the hope that he latches onto this instead.

That reminds me of a friend. Her daughter said her teacher had told them not to say the C word. Friend horrified that daughter even knows the c word, confused where she would have heard it, asks daughter what the c word is, daughter says “Christmas “

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Bumblebeeinatree · 07/05/2024 20:20

My DD came in saying Dick Head at about the same age having been out in the car with her DF. Stifled a laugh, fortunately she forgot it fairly quickly with no reinforcement. Just ignore so they get the message it's not a real phrase.

Newsenmum · 07/05/2024 20:21

BrendaSmall · 07/05/2024 19:09

Every time you get in the car say something like oh faggots/ oh sausages or something else he’s not used to hearing and hopefully he’ll start saying it instead every time you go in the car

This but please don’t say faggots 🤣 dear lord

Needanewname42 · 07/05/2024 20:26

Ignore.
And tell your mum to stop over reacting.

One of mine was Oh Shit for a few weeks, ignored and they eventually stopped.

Glasgowgin · 07/05/2024 20:28

Film it for later teenage embarrassment (or amusement!) and as said above try and replace with non-faggot words!!
I have to say the relief when mine went up to High School and I could revert to my normal sweariness round the house was significant!

GrumpyPanda · 07/05/2024 20:55

Awwww. That's actually cute. Do make sure you record him for later.

And btw you ARE allowed to spell out the word on here.

slaggybumbum · 07/05/2024 21:00

The Christmas one reminds me of a time when my son( very young for his age) came in and told me all about the C word, when ones of his little girl friends used it. Very relieved to hear that the C word was cow!

anicecuppateaa · 07/05/2024 21:13

Film it and then ignore. I have sworn too often so my 3 year olds have copied once kr twice. I have ignored/ told them i
x wasn’t a real word. Dd recently said ‘muuum get ds2 out of the way. He’s in the fucking way’. I nearly died and told her it’s a bad word that we don’t use. She totally knew.

SometimesIDowonder · 07/05/2024 21:16

Your mum cried over this. Hopefully that's not the only bad thing that had happened, its funny.

AGlinnerOfHope · 07/05/2024 21:21

Depending where you live faggots is a very normal word for a rissole served with gravy and peas. Fancy one now, I do.

AnneElliott · 07/05/2024 22:34

NuffSaidSam · 07/05/2024 20:01

Just keep ignoring it and it'll pass. It's just a funny story for later. Your mum is mad.

I used to look after a little girl who had a very sweary Irish mum and she'd on occasion look out of the car window sign and say 'would you look at the feckin traffic!', made me laugh every time.

I wouldn't be able not to laugh at that! My husbands nan used to say similar which all of the great grandchildren used to repeat, complete with Irish accent which they didn't have for any other words since born in England.

Noseybookworm · 07/05/2024 22:47

aimeeeleanor · 07/05/2024 19:05

Our 22 month old repeats absolutely everything we say

We are ordinarily very good at censoring ourselves when our DC is around. However…. His Dad did slip up & said ‘Fing Hell’ in the car when someone about forced us off the road whilst driving the other day (naughty daddy! But of course human). DC repeated straight away & has now taken to saying it whenever he gets in the car

It doesn’t help that it’s in the most perfect & eloquent english you’ve ever heard in your life, every syllable is so crisp 😅so it is funny, but of course we don’t show him that we laugh

We just completely ignore it & try to talk about something else

Any tips on how to get him to stop / forget it?! My Mum heard him say it for the first time & cried, made me feel very guilty… I mean very dramatic but I get that he shouldn’t be doing it

Any help appreciated :) thanks so much

Keep ignoring and watch what you say around him! Hopefully if he's getting no reaction he'll forget it soon. Can you break the association with the car by having a car song to sing? Distraction is the best weapon!

Kirstyshine · 07/05/2024 22:58

AGlinnerOfHope · 07/05/2024 21:21

Depending where you live faggots is a very normal word for a rissole served with gravy and peas. Fancy one now, I do.

Yep. It’s v offensive in the US, and I guess they’re our current cultural overlords, so we’re meant to stop eating faggots & smoking fags.

Blessedbethefruitz · 07/05/2024 23:11

Poodles. My son and his friend (4 at the time) find this word so hilarious that it's now ingrained as my own swear word for toe stubbs etc. They feel it's an extension of the word poo.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 07/05/2024 23:16

HyggeTygge · 07/05/2024 19:16

Too late OP. The damage has been done. He's on the path to a life of Satanism, drugs and Jeremy Kyle appearances.

My Mum heard him say it for the first time & cried

Get your DC to tell her to get a fucking grip!

I’d have cried with laughter

GrannyClanger · 07/05/2024 23:18

This is outing but my son around this age went through a phase of saying "spooky cunt" !! I still have no idea why, or what he was trying to say but it was very funny. We ignored it and he did stop after a bit!

TwelveTimesTables · 07/05/2024 23:18

My ds replaced it with "mango" and "funko".

It seems to have the right emphasis but be not swearing. The trick is to get another word with the right punchy emphasis.

hoonicorn · 08/05/2024 00:01

Why is it always in the car?

Years ago, my eldest, toddler age, was parked up in the car with dh while I ran into the chip shop for some dinner. It was absolutely pouring with rain and a guy reversed up into the space next to our car, quickly got out pulling a jacket over his head and loudly exclaimed "Jesus Fuck!" at the weather.

Well fuck my life, all we heard all the way home was 2 year old ds shouting from the back seat "Jesus fuck! Jesus fuck!"

Not ideal. Ignoring it did make it go away though. I like the idea of a car song.

He also used to say his V sounds as an F sound for a time and spent every walk shouting Hi Fanny! Bye bye Fanny! at passing vans instead of "vanny."

BrendaSmall · 08/05/2024 19:32

Newsenmum · 07/05/2024 20:21

This but please don’t say faggots 🤣 dear lord

🤣🤣🤣

Simonjt · 08/05/2024 19:45

We used to get pigeons flying into our flay and struggling to get out, I’d obviously had on some occassions called them fucking pigeons.

In reception when they were doing a thing on local wildlife my son felt the need to loudly and repeatedly correct the teacher so she knew they aren’t called pigeons, they’re fucking pigeons. He would have got on well with the its a fucking goat girl. I just ignored it, as did the teacher, he doesn’t swear now, not in english anyway.

Alwaystired2023 · 08/05/2024 19:51

This thread is brilliant 🤣 please do call your mum and tell her not to worry as someone had some great advice to replace the word and it's worked and now DC can say cunt perfectly

TTPD · 08/05/2024 19:53

Ignore it.

But also your mum needs to get a grip - she actually cried? Over a toddler saying something that he doesn't even understand the meaning of?

HyggeTygge · 08/05/2024 23:04

GrannyClanger · 07/05/2024 23:18

This is outing but my son around this age went through a phase of saying "spooky cunt" !! I still have no idea why, or what he was trying to say but it was very funny. We ignored it and he did stop after a bit!

Mine went through a Thomas phase and found it hard to articulate one of the character's names so it sounded like the Fat Cunt Woller